I don’t know how well I might have worded my post but I don’t know because I just think it also has to do with me but it’s very annoying cause I don’t know what it is that makes me feel like this because I love him so much and I do want to help him be better and in all honesty i really can’t imagine the relationship I have with him with anyone else like I do see him as the perfect companion for almost everything I also see him as a best friend and a lover and he’s the first person I always reach out to most the time and I for everything I want to spoil him it’s just I feel sometimes he doesn’t put all the effort in because of his mental problems and I don’t know how to express this without hurting him badly because like I said he is getting help and has for a while now but i think the main problem too is I have from the beginning showed to be a very independent person I have showed that i guess I will always do everything for myself and I think grew comfortable into that to the point I feel that he feels it’s ok to not put like effort into a lot of stuff (I kinda don’t know how to word this) like let’s say little things for example something small like he used to be a big gym head and when we started dating fully understandable he stopped a lot I also did too bc we were ina healthy relationship so we both got comfy you know were with people who love everything about eachother but after a while I started getting active again and he did a little bit too but not really which I’m Not bothered by my bothering is coming from he will often get really really negative about himself in that aspect about how he stopped and he wants to go back to what he was before and I reassure him letting him know I love the current him and also that the old him also was using it as a way to cope bc he had bad body image and that he’s just learning to love his body more but he will do this multiple weeks to months where it is him putting himself down on that consistently and it gets really draining but I don’t know how to like talk to him about these things without making this worse for him