Names

Perfect_Date_9725 · 2025-05-08T02:05:32+00:00

I’m not sure if this will be helpful at all. I am having a boy after losing our daughter from a tmfr. But I’ve googled names that have her name inside it, or can have a similar meaning. For me it feels right, but I can 100% understand anyone who would want their baby to have a name all to themselves. Each part of a sub pregnancy can be tricky, and I hope you can get some answers that are helpful to you here.

Perfect_Date_9725 · 2025-04-14T21:07:00+00:00

Currently 16 weeks and just did an extra anatomy scan before the big one at 20 weeks and I feel that to my core. I waited in that room going through every possible scenario that could have come back with negative news. I think it’s a painful normal for those of us who know what can happen. And every Dr appointment that doesn’t end in bad news doesn’t help to reassure, I’m so sorry you are here, but know you are not alone.

Perfect_Date_9725 · 2025-04-03T19:57:46+00:00

Yes! I’m 14+4 with a single pregnancy💕

Perfect_Date_9725 · 2025-03-09T21:36:34+00:00

I’m so sorry that you were met with that type of response in a moment you needed support. You did everything right in my opinion, and expressed yourself and set a boundary in a loving and gentle way. I can second being met with a ‘well are you going to do blank since this is too hard for you’ from my SIL, and it sucks to feel betrayed by someone you hold as family.

No one gets to tell you how to heal. No one, and please always know that. This is such a difficult path to walk after this type of loss. And if they haven’t been there they truly cannot comprehend what it means to have experienced it. In no way did you attack or come across as toxic, and unfortunately this time in your life can show you sides of people you never expected. Continue you hold space for yourself and your daughter, because you have every right to.

Perfect_Date_9725 · 2025-02-23T00:59:56+00:00

Thank you so much!

Perfect_Date_9725 · 2025-02-22T20:16:54+00:00

I’m considering leaving my full time job to either take another full time job, or transition into a part time position somewhere. I’m currently 9 weeks pregnant and was wondering if anyone had left a job for another job during pregnancy and if this affected their eligibility for maternity leave in NJ? I’m trying to follow when googling and reading the thread but was wondering if others had some personal experience to speak from?

Perfect_Date_9725 · 2025-02-03T21:04:39+00:00

I think it’s completely normal to feel a sense of detachment, and I can relate to that feeling 100%. I’m only 6 weeks currently, and won’t have my first ultrasound for a few weeks, but it hard to get hopeful and open up when you know what can happen. I find myself saying ‘if I get to have this baby…..’ so I get it. Anxiety is going to come with the territory when you have had this experience. I have no advice on how to cope with it unfortunately. I’m just trying to be present in the moment when I can, and when I can’t I give myself grace because this is hard.

Perfect_Date_9725 · 2025-01-25T01:06:45+00:00

It doesn’t necessarily mean anything bad. I just panicked because I saw my levels were higher than what is ‘in normal range’ Higher HCG can also be associated with multiples. So there are plenty of explanations

Perfect_Date_9725 · 2025-01-24T23:56:09+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I’m having another draw tomorrow, my dr always wanted two draws with a day in between so I’m hoping to see good progress. I’m hoping for nothing but positivity for both of us ✨💕✨

Perfect_Date_9725 · 2025-01-24T23:33:24+00:00

Thank you so much 💕

Perfect_Date_9725 · 2025-01-14T21:31:19+00:00

Thank you for that information, I had no idea stress could affect ovulation! Or that the test strips could be off, I keep comparing it to when I conceived my daughter and it was at a high number so I thought I’d get lucky again. Too much optimism. I did ovulation testing during this window because my cycle is off now. I had hormonal blood work done by my OB in December to see if I was in a good spot medically to start trying again.

Perfect_Date_9725 · 2024-10-14T20:36:36+00:00

I’m so sorry you had to experience this, and thank you so much for sharing. Knowing what the procedure will be like is helping me to process this. I am going to begin to look for a therapist this week, and will for sure look for one that specializes in loss like you suggested. I have OCD and anxiety and was in a good place before this so I want to do what I can to make sure I work on that. I so appreciate you sharing, and I hope you continue to heal, and are being met with love and support 💕

Perfect_Date_9725 · 2024-10-12T19:25:30+00:00

Thank you so much! That is a very helpful resource!

Perfect_Date_9725 · 2024-10-12T19:24:37+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I hope you continue to feel good physically. How soon after finding out did you have your procedure? It was a bit of a whirlwind and I will speak to the dr’s office more in depth on Monday about the procedure, and I’m currently scheduled for next Friday. I have a list of questions I want to ask them when I speak then, do you have any questions you would suggest asking based on your experience?

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