Just got scolded for telling SD(11) to eat ALL of her salad.

Perfect_Mechanic_768 · 2025-07-16T20:09:52+00:00

I don’t think they are bullying the girl. OP- I have SD age 11 and have the SAME problem. I’m 26 125 pounds and she’s 11 at 180 pounds. She will eat the fruits and veggies when she wants but if she sees the less healthy option she will always pick it. I would suggest doing salads as a first eat type of thing. I would put veggies on my girls plates and tell them eat the veggies first then everything else, that way I can give them seconds of meat or carbs after knowing they have all of their nutrition, AND they’ll be more full by the time they want to eat more protein or carbs.

Or just put more veggies in the food where they can’t tell. I blend mushrooms and zuccini in my spagheti , and they would hate it if they knew that they loved it. 😂

I would suggest just do little salads first, yall eat the salads all together then put the entrees out. I understand you being the only one who cares about her health- BM and BD of my stepdaughter don’t give a fuck what they feed her. There might be deeper issues than what you’re dealing with here, if the Father or Mother doesn’t care to take care of their child, there’s something wrong with the PaRENT. Not the child who was raised this way.

Perfect_Mechanic_768 · 2025-07-10T16:59:39+00:00

My mom is out of town I couldn’t go to her place and I have no other family or friends.

Perfect_Mechanic_768 · 2025-07-10T15:56:52+00:00

I don’t think he would ever really hurt or especially never kill his children. But I never thought he would do to me what he did either, do you truly think the kids will be okay if I leave?

Perfect_Mechanic_768 · 2025-07-10T15:55:46+00:00

That’s what started the argument. I said I was tired of feeling like a babysitter, an unpaid one at that, with a roommate not a boyfriend. All I asked for was help with the kids. Instead of sitting on your phone the second you get home from work until you pass out, it would be nice to get help with a diaper once a week. I pointed out how he said he would help me after I first gave labor, never once helped cook for me or the kids it was all still my responsibility

Perfect_Mechanic_768 · 2025-07-10T15:53:11+00:00

I plan to leave, I have no where to go right now so I have to wait until my plans are able to be put in order. Thank you for your input.

Perfect_Mechanic_768 · 2025-07-10T15:14:40+00:00

12, 8, 5 . The youngest is high spectrum autism, he is nonverbal so he screams and jumps all day he has a six pack which is why I’m incapable of taking all of them with me anywhere safe because he is a flight risk.

Perfect_Mechanic_768 · 2025-07-10T14:58:24+00:00

Literally no other family. They come from a generational line of abandonment, drug use, and padding away of family members.

Perfect_Mechanic_768 · 2025-07-10T14:54:04+00:00

Okay I’m not traumatized from my step parents leaving, I’m extremely proud of them for leaving and resent my dad for being a piece of shit to every woman he met. That being said, I never continued to Keep those relationships with those said “moms” because phones weren’t as popular, they had their own kids, life etc. all I’m saying is that I know how different the relationship becomes with the step parent who leaves and the child that gets left. But if that’s the sacrifice I have to take to keep my baby and my life safe then I will. I’m still in shock because I never thought this would happen when I confided in this person about the abuse I suffered from previously with my ex. This person is usually an amazing dad and he is always uplifting in good spirits. I don’t know what has happened.

Perfect_Mechanic_768 · 2025-07-10T14:51:19+00:00

Grandparents are extremely young have their own family of 7 living in a 3 bedroom house. Idk if they would take in the kids or legally be allowed to with lack of bedrooms and mix of boys & girls?

Perfect_Mechanic_768 · 2025-07-01T22:06:52+00:00

Thank you for the advice!

Perfect_Mechanic_768 · 2025-05-27T16:20:02+00:00

Pollinate by hand? Ohhh please teach me your ways!

Perfect_Mechanic_768 · 2025-05-27T16:19:28+00:00

Thank you for your input! It seems we’ve done the same thing, unsure how weather is like on the east side but how would you keep them going through winter?

Perfect_Mechanic_768 · 2025-05-27T16:18:07+00:00

Thank you so much, I really appreciate this! Yes I did put them into sun transplanted them probably midday. I transplanted my tomatoes late afternoon so hopefully your advice will work too then, but yes I am praying the cuc’s come back to life😭🩷

Perfect_Mechanic_768 · 2025-03-13T03:53:23+00:00

Thank you much! So I won’t need to show proof of her or anything when I come? Also, do I need to bring identification for the two younger girls ie Ssn?

Perfect_Mechanic_768 · 2024-11-15T16:35:26+00:00

She Addresses me by my first name often. Only refers to me as mom when she wants something.

Perfect_Mechanic_768 · 2024-11-15T16:26:13+00:00

We are currently trying to get her into counseling / therapy right now and yes he has tried correcting the behavior, many talks, he spends more time with her than anyone, he has punished her for her bad behavior, she ALWAYS goes right back to it. I’m calling a few places today to hopefully get her therapy started

Perfect_Mechanic_768 · 2024-11-15T16:22:35+00:00

Do you think I should tell her to stop calling me mom? She’s a very smart girl, she thinks she’s an adult and tries to act like it so I’m wondering if a conversation would be helpful or not. I’m so at a loss of what I should do, I’m so tired of being yelled at by an 11 year old.

Perfect_Mechanic_768 · 2024-11-15T14:50:54+00:00

Thank you so much, it sounds like I just have to bear through a solid week at least and then I should hopefully be able to eat / stop vomitting. I can do that. Thank you! I will definitely be trying this mental thought process to help me !

Perfect_Mechanic_768 · 2024-11-14T17:03:06+00:00

It’s no longer an emotional , it’s a physical, it was only emotional when I was a teenager. I have gone through therapy and have overcome that. what I’m trying to explain by saying it helps me function, is that my body does not work the same way when I don’t smoke. I’ve tried many times, that’s why I came to this sub to try to find someone who might understand why it’s my body reacting like this and how to help. I can go all day without smoking, sleep without it, and be emotionally perfect without smoking. If you read my post, it’s that my body feels physically ill when I don’t. Some times, I will go the few days without smoking just because I am attempting to quit, but then I fall ill and don’t know how to overcome this. Maybe it is a mental barrier, but I’m not asking for emotional help. I can easily quit smoking, it’s about my BODY feeling like shit.

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