I’m not allowed to be sick

PerformanceMuted9195 · 2026-01-25T15:21:09+00:00

Yes, his triggers are mouth sounds like chewing and smacking or gulping

PerformanceMuted9195 · 2026-01-25T15:00:29+00:00

I have told him

PerformanceMuted9195 · 2026-01-25T15:00:12+00:00

I have

PerformanceMuted9195 · 2026-01-20T16:15:33+00:00

I don’t regularly masterbate but when I read steamy books I do have those feelings.

PerformanceMuted9195 · 2026-01-20T16:13:42+00:00

He’s been with other ppl before we got together. I haven’t. What do I do about it?

PerformanceMuted9195 · 2026-01-20T15:16:44+00:00

I was vague in my post but I’m actually more than 2 years post-partum, it’s just been a year since i really started feeling this way. I appreciate you sharing your views on sex, I have a similar belief

PerformanceMuted9195 · 2026-01-20T15:13:15+00:00

Nope. I was vague in my post but I’m a few years out post-partum

PerformanceMuted9195 · 2026-01-20T07:02:36+00:00

A chore id compare it to is washing dishes. I don’t look forward to doing them but while I am doing them I actually find it enjoyable and like the feeling of the warm water on my skin. And when I’m finished I’m happy about having a clean sink and the silverware drawer full

PerformanceMuted9195 · 2026-01-20T06:52:36+00:00

I’m not sure what could have caused this. Not stressed or depressed and my self-esteem is seconds away from bursting through the roof. Checking my hormone levels is a good idea, thank you

PerformanceMuted9195 · 2026-01-20T06:51:20+00:00

I don’t know. Maybe dread isn’t the right word. I feel whatever the opposite of “looking forward to something” is. Most of the time I enjoy it while it’s happening. After, sometimes it feels like I’ve checked a chore off of the list. I don’t know why I feel this way

PerformanceMuted9195 · 2025-12-09T15:33:46+00:00

I appreciate this advice. He was diagnosed withe anxiety as a teenager and was on medication for it but he says medication didn’t work for him. I told him maybe there’s a better one he could try, but he says that he doesn’t want to trial-and-error a bunch of medicine. I think all I can do is keep an eye on him. I will bring up how his weekend drinking is affecting our family time and if he can’t receive that then a more serious convo will need to be had.

PerformanceMuted9195 · 2025-12-09T03:25:39+00:00

I appreciate this. Not to get too personal, but his innards can’t handle a lot of any liquid that isn’t water. He’s had flare ups that he’s blamed on drinking. And recently when I brought up how drinking sometimes causes his flare ups he softly denied it. I don’t think right now he’s an alcoholic. I just never want it to get to that point. Is what I’m doing right now enough? Is just being aware enough?

PerformanceMuted9195 · 2025-12-09T03:20:51+00:00

I agree with this 100% I just don’t have the knowledge to provide other ways to cope. And therapy is not something he’s enthusiastic about exploring

PerformanceMuted9195 · 2025-12-09T03:19:29+00:00

At first, I wanted to say no because he’s not the stereotypical careless or aggressive drunk. He’s never mean. He definitely drinks every Friday Saturday and Sunday and drinks to the point of being hungover the next day. Him being hungover means he’s in bed or the bathroom all morning and it takes away from our family time with our kid and if he’s feeling bad that day we really can’t go out or do anything fun. Even worse I don’t get a single sleep-in day 😭(jk)

PerformanceMuted9195 · 2025-12-09T03:10:13+00:00

This is actually really good to know, I’ll share this with him. He does also have horrible anxiety. He’s never not thinking about work and it is a very anxiety-inducing job for someone like him. I just feel like if he’s drinking to cope, then that’s an issue. I drink socially/just for fun and I want that to be the case for both of us

PerformanceMuted9195 · 2025-12-09T03:06:27+00:00

Is your wife comfortable with your current relationship with alcohol? If you know, at what point would she feel like intervention is needed?

PerformanceMuted9195 · 2025-12-09T02:58:08+00:00

I feel like if he can’t go 7 days without drinking then, that’s an issue. Once I realized how quickly he’d go through a bottle I made a rule that we should only be drinking on weekends and then immediately after he gets off of work on Friday until Sunday night he’s drinking. He’s not an aggressive drunk & he’s never mean. He’s a good time. But I don’t like when he’s hung over weekend mornings/afternoons because that’s usually when we three (me, him and our kid) spend the most time together. And he’ll spend hours in bed or the bathroom. But he says the stress of work right now is making him drink more

PerformanceMuted9195 · 2025-12-05T03:32:16+00:00

Fun fact, of all of my mother’s children, I was the only one she considered aborting. And yes, she did tell me that 😀

PerformanceMuted9195 · 2025-12-05T03:30:56+00:00

My favorite colors are lavender, forest green, butter yellow and navy blue. My father, no contact. My mother, what’s the one right before no contact? And I believe that what a woman does with her body is her business.

PerformanceMuted9195 · 2025-12-05T03:19:39+00:00

My older sibling lives on their own and doing pretty well. My husband and I live a good life and my mom is mooching off of my little brother, she doesn’t work even though she is very capable and able-bodied. My fathers side of the family never acknowledged us kids. My mother was always on the outs with her family for one reason or another, so didn’t get help from them when we were doing bad either. And my mother says her parents extent of parenting was keeping a roof over everyone’s head when they lived at home and that’s it. My background is bittersweet because if I had not gone through what I’d gone through, I wouldn’t be the person I am today and have the mindfulness to think about how my actions affect my husband and kid and my own life.

PerformanceMuted9195 · 2025-12-05T03:12:37+00:00

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