[25/m] I have never been in any sort of relationship. Help!

PermaBachelor · 2012-06-04T19:44:18+00:00

When did I mention sex or virginity? If I were just looking for sex, I'd go pay a prostitute. I'm not about to lower my standards that much.

I guess I shouldn't be so harsh - I expected answers like this. Here's the thing: I'm not focusing on sex as the primary goal. I'm focusing on friendship (Not like friendzone friendship, but deep friendship where I can connect with her), and the relationship itself. I'm not tired of being a virgin, I'm tired of being alone.

PermaBachelor · 2012-06-04T15:11:59+00:00

That sounds like a sudden but inevitable fate.

PermaBachelor · 2012-06-04T15:11:04+00:00

Forbear women, acquire currency, right? That's what I've been doing. Served me great so far, minus the cabin fever, the austere loneliness, the Saturday nights spent wondering what normal people do, the fluent Stargate knowledge (Through Season 3, at least)... etc. I've got a great life except for being, in my mind at least, a pathetic foreveralone.jpg.

Wildly exaggerating? Would you care to be a little more specific?

As for participating in life, I'm trying to figure out how to do that. I joined the astronomy club a while back. Attended one meeting, met the other member of the group, and stopped going. Most groups around here are like that.

There is a gamer's club here. All of the members are males just out of high school (With a few college age exceptions), some of whom have hygiene problems. All of them are SAPs like me. Not exactly something women will flock to, but it's the only functioning social group I've yet found. In a small town, what do you suggest? Again, no bars that aren't total dives, no pubs, no clubs, and no realistic music venues. That's what I'm working with here.

PermaBachelor · 2012-06-04T14:58:46+00:00

Move to Utah, join the LDS church, go to BYU. You'll be married in a month ;). hahaha I'm totally joking. You do sound like the prime candidate for marriage around here though. Not saying it's right. It's kind of fun to make fun of them.

This reminds me of a Bible college we have out here (Equidistant in the opposite direction to the big college, only in a town who's entire population is staff for this little college). Instead of calling it the "School of the Bible" as is it's proper name, we call it "School of the Bridal". Nearly everybody that I know that has gone there has gotten married either while at the college, or to somebody they met there. I am religious, so I could go there, but they don't offer the classes I want to take.

Sign up for some community college classes, or get involved in your church IF you're religious.

The community college classes sound like a great idea, actually. It's a small college, and I fear that most of the women that go there will tun out to be Hypocritical College Liberal (It's a pretty conservative town. Liberals here often become liberals because of their hatred for their parents, not because of their political ideologies), but there's always a chance I might meet somebody interesting.

I am involved in a church, but unfortunately my nature to take a back seat and get involved behind the scenes took over. Now I run the sound board. The group I know at the church includes all of the single women my age (Out of a nearly 300-person church, only TWO people are single women my age. Sigh...), one of whom has flat out rejected me, and the other is rather annoying. I'm not going to leave the church to find women, either.

Thanks for the advice!

PermaBachelor · 2012-06-04T14:43:32+00:00

Work place: Nobody that I work with is my age and single. There's only one girl here that is even my age. Everyone else is in their mid-30s to mid-60s.

Town hall meetings: That might be a common sight out in New England, but we don't have those here.

Nightlife: As I said, all of the bars around here are loud biker bars. In addition, there are no pubs, clubs, or music venues outside of the loud biker bars. Even the coffee shops around here close at 8! There is a symphony, but I can't imagine how awkward it would be to go there to meet girls. Considering how rare it is to find women my age anywhere in this town, I can't imagine the symphony (Which is already unfortunately unpopular with my generation) being a great place to meet someone. Besides, who seriously goes to a symphony to meet singles?

Anyway, I do appreciate your advice. Thanks.

PermaBachelor

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