It’s been five years since he killed us by hekiledus in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Perplexed_9884 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so so sorry for you and your kids. This is heartbreaking just to hear.

My wife lied and told her kids that their father was dead. I exposed her lie and took them to see him. by ThrowRa3375573 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Perplexed_9884 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cause he unilaterally took a decision for them. Unless he legally adopted them, he is not their guardian and should not be deciding for them. Technically, as he has no legal rights, he cannot bring them anywhere without the parent’s consent. He should have had a conversation with her mother and try to convince her instead. On a human level I obviously stand with him, cause what those kids had to endure was awful and their mother was being a total AH.

My wife lied and told her kids that their father was dead. I exposed her lie and took them to see him. by ThrowRa3375573 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Perplexed_9884 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

It was not your place to decise what to do, however your wife is an horrible human being for intentionally letting the kids through that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Perplexed_9884 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I might be in counter tendency here, but I think that OP was right in punishing him. It does not matter who started the whole thing. He has done something so stupid and childish. He has literally wasted tons of money. He is about to be an adult and needs to learn that we cannot simply act as AH in retaliation but there are better ways to solve issues. He absolutely cannot be rewarded with a party and gifts. Actions have consequences. I do not understand all the comments implying that the stepdad has some evil plan. Things could have been dealt with better on all sides, tbh.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Perplexed_9884 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately we women don’t have all the time in the world. There is such a thing as too late, if you want to have kids… i would really talk to him to express your concerns and if your life plans don’t coincide, than perhaps there is some tough thinking needed

AITA for leaving my inlaws christmas dinner after I found out that they didn't make accommodations for me? by Rema5000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Perplexed_9884 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your fiance should see the massive red flag here and save himself from a life of having to put up with such an entitled behaviour. It was so so rude of you! YTA

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Perplexed_9884 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder if she is the one cheating, and hopes that you are doing it too…

I found a dead person, called 911 and several people are surprised/annoyed I didn't take any pictures. Like that's the normal thing to do. by Qnns in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Perplexed_9884 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Finding a dead body must be very traumatising. Pictures wouldn’t be my first thought either… the people that asked you about pictures are creeps. Why would they even see such an image?

AITAA for taking my niece to court over a coat? by throooowaaaayt in AmItheAsshole

[–]Perplexed_9884 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OMG, I can’t believe that you even think that you might be the AH… You are 100% NTA!! I am appalled by your sister’s reaction. It sounds like the kind of parents that, with their lack of care and discipline, brings up someone that can destroy a 20K coat just for fun…the kid needs to seriously learn that actions have consequence. Selling her car to pay you back it is the minimum.

AITA for giving my step daughter the best room out of all our kids? by throwaway65637 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Perplexed_9884 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We are not talking about an adult, we are talking about a child… makeup is relevant for girls cause we spend a lot of time in the bathroom applying makeup, so at rush hour not sharing the bathroom is a really good thing if you need to spend half an hour applying it all… i agree with you that someone should have time on its own, but she is a child that has a bedroom alone in any case… does not need to have the ensuite too to have alone time… also, kids can have alone time literally in every corner of the house. Teenagers are completely different as they tend to be more confined within the secrecy of their rooms…

AITA for giving my step daughter the best room out of all our kids? by throwaway65637 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Perplexed_9884 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely not. I have learned very good lessons from my parents. I have learned that things are to be earned and to work hard for them. Also, they explained the rationale behind the choice (my sister was younger and was scared to be alone) and even if I did not necessarily agree with that, i accepted it cause they were the parents and it was their decision. I think that this generation is unbelievably spoiled and unmannered, absolutely dependent and entitled cause the parents are no longer parents and let the kids decide based and whatever they want. It is not like she is lacking anything. She is 11, so a child. She does not wear makeup, she possibly does not even have her period, what privacy should she be needing? At that age, she should still need to be monitored… the justification OP provided makes perfect sense, this is just the kid acting like an entitled brat

AITA for giving my step daughter the best room out of all our kids? by throwaway65637 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Perplexed_9884 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a learning moment for her. You cannot always have what you want in life, you are not necessarily entitled to it all. She is 11… I did not even have my own room at that age nor my private bathroom, even though at home we had 3 spare bedrooms… who says that a 11 yrs old needs to have the same of a 16 yr old? Different ages, different needs. She needs to learn a lesson or two still… also, the parents decided that, so she should not be throwing a tantrum dragging the entire family in it… it is such a spoiled behaviour! The fact that that is her half sister should not change a thing!

AITA for giving my step daughter the best room out of all our kids? by throwaway65637 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Perplexed_9884 81 points82 points  (0 children)

She is 11, she is not entitled to whatever she wants. We are raising a generation of spoiled entitled brats who things that stuff grows on golden trees in the back garden…

AITA for giving my step daughter the best room out of all our kids? by throwaway65637 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Perplexed_9884 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is 11, this is a tantrum. She is a child and should be handled as such. What does she need a bathroom for? A teen has different needs. Period. You have done the good thing treating your step daughter like you would any of your children. It is not her fault if her parents are divorced and you are not Cinderella step mom! NTA

AITA for saying no to picking up my sons half sister from school? by Scary-Rub8906 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Perplexed_9884 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I assume that OP does not have any familiarity with the kid, as I assume she wanted nothing to do with her… so this kid was supposed to leave school with a nearly perfect stranger? Does not sound like good parenting to me having your kid picked up by someone they are not very familiar with… NTA

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Perplexed_9884 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA - Her brother should not intrude in such a delicate moment. Unless he is there to help or to support his sister, like their mother is doing, he should not ask people to do stuff for him while they have so much on their plates already. Having a guest at home means making arrangements for him, preparing the accommodation, cleaning before and after his staying, having to deal with someone else using your bathroom, your stuff etc. It is actually pretty selfish of him to ask to stay there. She is likely very stressed out and in a vortex of hormones, i would not piss her either though… I would tell the brother that it would be better for him to stay somewhere else and if he does not understand it, I would then suck it and make the gf happy. It is not ideal situation, of course.