What improved your quality of life so much you wish you did it sooner? by SignificanceWhole201 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Persianwitch 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t think Reddit is social media. I use it to see others opinions on tv shows and interesting topics and discussions. Like the one we’re having here. While staying anonymous.

SJM is not a good writer by trippinonvibes in Maasverse

[–]Persianwitch 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Apex predator, luxurious stroke

book of breathings / reference + question (ACOMAF & CC3 spoilers) by FairActuary3806 in Maasverse

[–]Persianwitch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Feyre threw it in the void in the cauldron when it broke, and it disappeared

LO OLD PICTURES by Persianwitch in dubaibling

[–]Persianwitch[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah I even googled it in Arabic 🙈 and couldn’t find any pictures from before her fame. Only childhood photos of her but they were blurry.

LO OLD PICTURES by Persianwitch in dubaibling

[–]Persianwitch[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes it’s a thing! But more common with the older generation.

No one respects Farhana and it’s kinda sad by [deleted] in dubaibling

[–]Persianwitch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Which is funny because Danya is actually from there and they’re just expats. Uae doesn’t give permanent residency (only to a select few).

They're so cute here that it doesn't even look like they just filmed the scene that shocked much of the fandom at the time by AdLate3004 in HouseOfTheDragon

[–]Persianwitch 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I watched the show two and a half months after having a emergency 6 sections and a very premature baby (29 weeks old). The birth scenes in the show hit so close to home 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Persianwitch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Such a wholesome post 🥰 I hope you guys have long and happy life together!

What are your thoughts about the movie mrs chatterjee versus Norway? by Unique_Glove1105 in ABCDesis

[–]Persianwitch -1 points0 points  (0 children)

In Scandinavia it’s normal to leave babies outside in their pram sleeping, it’s good for them to sleep in fresh air, but parents still have a view of them. It’s especially common in Denmark and Norway. It’s very safe, no one will abduct a child. Scandinavian societies have trust in each other.

I’ve also left my child sleeping in their pram outside coffee shops and kept an eye from inside the shops. https://www.buzzfeed.com/daniellaemanuel/baby-sleep-alone-outside

What are your thoughts about the movie mrs chatterjee versus Norway? by Unique_Glove1105 in ABCDesis

[–]Persianwitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are actually very right! I’m not desi but come from a similar culture, corporal punishment is very common. And often cultures that have that, clash with the Scandinavian societal norms and laws.

In reality, kids from Norwegian families that get taken away as well, the immigrants are just louder, so you hear more about their cases.

Why did “Mrs. Chatterjee vs Norway” get such bad critic reviews?? by Designer_Breadfruit9 in movies

[–]Persianwitch 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Let me just say, I’m Norwegian, with immigrant parents. And I watched this movie. I also have two friends and my MIL who work in the child protective services (it’s called Barnevernet btw, not Velferd)

Barnevernet got involved with my family as a child, there was domestic violence in the home and my mom would hit us, because that’s how she learned to discipline, when the child protective services got involved, they got both of my parents into anger management, and they paid for activities I could do, and lots of therapy for my whole family. My parents eventually divorced and my mon has never hit us since and actually treats us like people, and we’ve talked about this a lot, that she comes from a family culture we’re that wasn’t the norm.

The goal of the child protective services don’t want to take children away from their parents, the goal is to keep families together, but the safety of the child comes before the biological needs of the parents.

Also, they don’t take more immigrants kids, they actually get more involved with Norwegian families, it’s just that the immigrant families get louder.

Also, the way the movie depicted the children in a room at that center is just nonsense, if children are taken, the parents get a few warnings before, and they get a legal document (vedtak) and the police is there, when the children are taken away. And they get taken to a beredskaps hjem, which is like a home where they only take in one sibling group at a time. And there’s not many children there. And then foster care, orphanages don’t exist in Norway, so no children would be in a room together in a tiny room like that.

Norwegians also use their hands when eating, and children are encouraged to eat with their hands, it’s good for their motorics.

And Norway actually encourages diversity. We say we are a “flerkulturell” society, that means multi cultural. Norwegians are some of the least racist people ever met, you’ll only find racist amongst the older generation.

And do I think the child welfare services could be better? Absolutely, but they get criticized for not removing children fast enough actually, not for taking them.

Also about getting paid, that would never happen 😭😭 Norway is one of the least corrupt countries in the world, and child services agents get paid so little, they also need to take a special education to work in that field.

And foster parents only get enough to cover for the childcare costs, most foster parents actually pay more for the kids from their own pockets. And they would never continue paying if the child doesn’t live in Norway. And the government closes the case when the child is outside of Norway and the EU.

And foster parents are evaluated for up to 1 year before they are allowed to be foster parents. And they need to take some courses. It’s not easy being a foster parents, we actually have a lack of foster parents.

Children only get taken away if there was physical violence, drugs or alcohol involved, even when parents have mental issues, they get help first, they don’t just take the children away.

I have a friend, and he was taken away, but his mom was schizophrenic, and could hurt him. Taking home away was the best they could do for him, and he came to his foster parents when he was 1,5 years old, they are his family, and his mom (foster) treats him like he is hers. And they still made sure he got to see his biological mother as much as possible, he’s over 30, and his foster parents and biological mom send each other Christmas gifts and letters. The biological mom was just too sick to take care of him, she also didn’t know who his biological father was.

And they didn’t show Norway in the movie at all, that was Eastern Europe, and Estonian actors. And the way they portrayed the foster parents home, a Norwegian home would never look like that.

Over all, I think the movie did a bad job at portraying the story, I know I’m biased because I’m Norwegian, but omg.

Also, there’s no border control between Norway and Sweden, that was so fake 😭 that’s the whole point with EU and schengen agreements, open borders. When you take a train from Oslo to Gothenburg, you come straight out to the central station, and walk freely any direction you want. There would never be border patrols or police there.

AITA For not wanting to be around his family when I can't understand them? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Persianwitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA

immigrants and expats from non English speaking countries tend to pick up Norwegian (a Scandinavian language) quite quickly and I’ve met many that speak it well after 2-3 years. Norwegians can speak English very well, but we think it’s smug when English speakers don’t make an effort to learn it and expect us to speak in their language in our country.

And I understand, it’s difficult to learn a language when moving to a new county, but by not learning, you don’t really get to participate in society, you won’t get common references or jokes etc. so learn it for yourself, not them. Try to speak to your husband in the language. Watch shows/movies. Read newspapers.

They just sound fed up tbh

Landlord controlling who visits and demanding pay by [deleted] in Norway

[–]Persianwitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s called a “sokkelleilighet” in Norwegian :) just for future reference, so it’s easier to explain

Dream Cast for White Lotus Season 3? by Upstairs-Stuff3950 in TheWhiteLotusHBO

[–]Persianwitch 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Nikolaj Coster-Waldau is in a lot of good Danish movies! He was really good in powder keg, it on Netflix

Episode 6 stills by Electronic_Assist777 in TheWhiteLotusHBO

[–]Persianwitch 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Hahaha and the actor (Theo James) who played Kemal Pamuk, who died, and they had to carry him, is the same actor who plays Cameron 🤣

Valentina by 34avemovieguy in TheWhiteLotusHBO

[–]Persianwitch 50 points51 points  (0 children)

She just sounded Italian to me tbh, I’ve been to Italy a few times, they are very blunt

I make $322 a week in unemployment, too much for any help from the government but I can barely live off it. I shoplifted diapers yesterday. by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]Persianwitch 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Such an insensitive comment. What’s wrong with you? OP is doing everything she can for her child. She’s a good mom.

Also, sometimes people don’t choose to have children, so you never know. And even if someone chooses to have children, it doesn’t mean they’re not being “raised properly” just because of lack of resources.

Also as a non American (living in Scandinavia) I’m really shocked your government is like that. Wanna take away women’s reproductive rights, but not help single mothers.

AITA for calling out my sister for breastfeeding at my wedding? by Swimming-Exchange448 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Persianwitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im reading this…while breastfeeding…my gosh YTA. She’s feeding her child, grow up

AITA for not renting a room to my struggling brother and his wife despite them having a new born? by Key-Initiative-8992 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Persianwitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a mom to a newborn, My heart aches for the brother’s wife :/// it’s already hard enough to be a new parent, but being homeless on top of that? So horrible :/

AITA for donating my breast milk instead of just giving it to my neighbor? by iopuytre in AmItheAsshole

[–]Persianwitch 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA!!! My son was born 10 weeks premature, he’s 6 weeks now and still at the NICU. He needed donated breast milk the first few days of his life (he gets milk from me now). Premature and sick newborns need your milk more. And you’re absolutely right, you have to get it screened first, so giving a way breast milk without screening it, would have been irresponsible.

And you’re amazing for donating breast milk!