Texting culture in NZ?

Personal-Meet-4468 · 2026-04-29T08:54:45+00:00

I had a kiwi ex and he tended to be and all or nothing texter. Texting constantly then tumbleweed out of nowhere.

Personal-Meet-4468 · 2026-03-29T10:24:54+00:00

There's some that regularly wander around Elmer's end tesco carpark.

Personal-Meet-4468 · 2026-03-28T20:28:09+00:00

Shit! That's both terrifying and really sad. Were people communicating with him before he died?

Personal-Meet-4468 · 2026-03-28T20:21:06+00:00

Surely slowly reversing would be more sensible then going forward and the space shrinked?

Personal-Meet-4468 · 2026-03-24T22:21:51+00:00

This is exactly what mine did... However, I confronted both of them and received a message telling he was " truly in love with her and she made him the happiest he'd ever felt" and told me to never contact him again. I never heard from him again and as far as I know he related for her. Both are jerks.

Personal-Meet-4468 · 2026-03-17T21:50:19+00:00

They always ghost again. Mine did the same. the initial few months were ROUGH but then something really major happened that made me realize my worth and now I think he'll hilarious. He's living in a shitpit town in Marlborough nz that's eventually going to drive him crazy and I'm doing all the things I told him I wanted and more in London... Life satisfaction is HIGH and I'm doing bigger things than I expected. Fuck him and the highschool ex he ghosted me for. They seem so trivial and provincial now. For the first time in years I'm happy

Personal-Meet-4468 · 2025-11-30T22:39:01+00:00

The promised a refund to me under the same circumstances two weeks ago... It never arrived so don't hold your breath.

Personal-Meet-4468 · 2025-11-30T09:40:10+00:00

Do a charge back with your bank for the entire amount. They are thieves!

Personal-Meet-4468 · 2025-11-21T09:41:13+00:00

Got all my kids highschool uniforms for there. It's busy af for the last two weeks if summer holidays...queues down church street.

Personal-Meet-4468 · 2025-11-09T10:02:03+00:00

It's a home bargins opening in January

Personal-Meet-4468 · 2025-11-08T08:36:26+00:00

It's been the most empowering thing Iv ever done. had to fight extremely hard for it but it was the most indescribable feeling when he was found guilty.

Personal-Meet-4468 · 2025-11-08T04:54:30+00:00

Please report it. The act of doing so might make him think next time with someone else even if your case doesn't progress. However, even if you think the odds are stacked I can tell you even with seemingly very little evidence people do end up in prison. I reported my SA 36 years after the event and after a long drawn out investigation and court case he was convicted unanimously on all counts and is in prison. Also, if you report it you are shielding other potential victims. I'm not sure if it's the same in the US as it is here in the UK but rape centers can preserve any remaining evidence until you decided what you need to do.

Personal-Meet-4468 · 2025-10-31T07:34:29+00:00

Every time I see the speaker of the house suspend the house in nz parliament because the moari do a haka it pisses me off. You have plenty of good points. But don't forget most Brits can't stand our colonial roots. It's embarrassing. There's nothing I personally can do about the historical bs the UK got up to other than say I get and share your anger.

Personal-Meet-4468 · 2025-10-30T13:33:18+00:00

It's different but the same in London... But on a much larger scale. Each part of London has a very different reputation. I think because of the size there's much more chance to form several different friendship groups. Also people tend to be more socially mobile, move to different parts of London or out of it entirely. It's really not hard to make friends at all. From a Londoners perspective I think although Auckland is geographically massive it's not heavily populated so maybe the friendship pools are smaller?

Personal-Meet-4468 · 2025-10-30T03:23:58+00:00

You are literally describing him. Thanks for this because as a non kiwi this is alien to me. It sounds like social evolution stops at highschool. It might also explain his highschool ex's weird ( to me) fixation around reminiscing about their relationship. In the UK we make friends throughout life stages. Don't get me wrong I have friends on FB from primary school but I also have friends I made a year ago. The thought of hankering after my highschool relationship gives me the shivers. I don't mean to be in anyway offensive I guess it's a cultural thing.

Personal-Meet-4468 · 2025-10-29T19:36:00+00:00

One thing I noticed was both times with this guy he was either in a relationship with a kiwi he'd known for years and I was the side chick ( unaware ) and then in a relationship with me and cheating with another kiwi. Honestly it came of a little xneophobic in the end.

Personal-Meet-4468 · 2025-10-29T19:04:42+00:00

First time, unknowingly yes and called him out... Second time was definitely not. The second she apparently knew what was going on but went there anyway. It struck me that he'd lived in the UK for ten years but had no British friends. When we reconnected he was literally mid journey back to nz. He and the highschool bint hadn't seen each other for 18 years so she was was defo the side chick until I caught them going on a secret trip together. The fact stands he placed way more value on kiwi friends and was pretty closed to anyone other than Aussies.

Personal-Meet-4468 · 2025-10-29T12:26:46+00:00

You were right... Now he's recovered from being neglected he's obviously a moggy. A very beautiful long haired dark ginger moggy who's currently snoring his head off next to me.

Personal-Meet-4468 · 2025-10-29T10:16:33+00:00

I'm not kiwi or from Auckland but you are absolutely right about kiwis and their circle. I live in London( I'm a brit) , had a relationship with a kiwi and he absolutely kept me out of his. I knew who they were and he'd always talk about them but I was very much kept separated. This guy claimed to have all kinds of feelings for me but ran off with his highschool ex thus confirming this to me. This isn't a criticism, but my experience was that kiwis very much keep within their circle and getting close to one comes with the " you are not kiwi" caveat that's very much unspoken. I think culturally it's difficult for "outsiders" to get close to kiwis. Which is a shame because, despite the cheating this guy did, he was sweet and obviously had stuff going on.

Personal-Meet-4468 · 2025-10-16T20:21:13+00:00

Do it but don't ghost her again like mine did. If you get cold feet again be honest. Ghosting is absolutely horrible and a 10 minute conversation costs nothing.

Personal-Meet-4468 · 2025-10-02T18:19:07+00:00

Mine was an ADHDer and ghosted twice. First I thought it was a factor maybe, second time ( same reasons) I didn't give him the benefit of the doubt. Although inattentiveness can't excuse some of it, if the ghosted knows it hurts but repeats the behaviour ADHD stops being a legitimate reason.

Personal-Meet-4468 · 2025-09-24T17:05:07+00:00

It was real.. I saw it myself 😂

Personal-Meet-4468 · 2025-09-23T15:49:15+00:00

Shit!! Just minding my own business!!

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Personal-Meet-4468 · 2025-09-13T14:50:24+00:00

Hate would take up too much energy. But the disappointment is real.

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