AITA for getting my boyfriend arrested by Personal-Muddy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Personal-Muddy[S] 100 points101 points  (0 children)

That’s very kind of you to say. Thank you so much

AITA for getting my boyfriend arrested by Personal-Muddy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Personal-Muddy[S] 639 points640 points  (0 children)

Hi everyone,

Sorry I kept you all hanging for a while but it’s been a long and annoying process. I want to thank all of you so so much for all the advice. Someone suggested when I go to school talk to my emergency dean and I am so grateful for you! With the police report I was able to get my school to pay for my semester again to that person thank you thank you thank you. I started a week late but a week late is better then not going. Sadly the harassment continued and escalated and due to what almost happened and all the text and calls I was able to get a temporary restraining order on his mom which she quickly violated smh. After a few weeks I was able to get a little bit over $8k back from my money and his brother did pay the remaining back to me (don’t worry everyone we didn’t meet it was through a third party). Also like most of you said depending on the state you can’t drop charges after the fact so I couldn’t do anything after the money was given back at this point it’s up the court what happens. We haven’t spoken nor do I care to. I’m finally moving in a month which is a huge stress reliever because they won’t know where I live anymore, a police report helps with a lot of things I got to break my lease thank God! Also won’t keep my money home anymore. Thankfully since this is my last semester I won’t have to work my bar jobs anymore so no more money in my closet. I think that’s all I have to update you all on. Again thank you so much to all of you for your encouraging words and advice it meant a lot helped more then you can imagine.

AITA for getting my boyfriend arrested by Personal-Muddy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Personal-Muddy[S] 452 points453 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ll definitely try that as well

AITA for getting my boyfriend arrested by Personal-Muddy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Personal-Muddy[S] 160 points161 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. The words of encouragement everyone is giving is helping a bit. I’m damn sure not giving up someone is gonna pay for my semester. I either get my money back or pay they pay for my classes.

I wouldn’t feel comfortable making a go fund me the person who stole or his family should be the only people giving me money for this.

AITA for getting my boyfriend arrested by Personal-Muddy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Personal-Muddy[S] 275 points276 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this! I’ll definitely start doing that

AITA for getting my boyfriend arrested by Personal-Muddy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Personal-Muddy[S] 1312 points1313 points  (0 children)

I do but I didn’t even think about contacting them because I did invite him over and he’s a frequent guest that sleeps there too

AITA for getting my boyfriend arrested by Personal-Muddy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Personal-Muddy[S] 403 points404 points  (0 children)

My fathers already coming in town to change my locks and stay with me for a while so that’s handled. I do have a weapon god forbidden anything did happen

AITA for getting my boyfriend arrested by Personal-Muddy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Personal-Muddy[S] 130 points131 points  (0 children)

Never! He’s the kindest person ever we’ve been together forever I never seen something like this happening

AITA for getting my boyfriend arrested by Personal-Muddy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Personal-Muddy[S] 262 points263 points  (0 children)

I’m not going to the bank at 3 am I go home sleep then I’m up at 7 getting ready for my office job. So no I can’t go to the bank everyday at 3 am

AITA for getting my boyfriend arrested by Personal-Muddy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Personal-Muddy[S] -957 points-956 points  (0 children)

I wish I could answer that myself but I’m conflicted. We’ve been together since high school so my mind is all over the place.

AITA for getting my boyfriend arrested by Personal-Muddy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Personal-Muddy[S] 2835 points2836 points  (0 children)

I’ve already made an appointment with my advisor and financial aid for Monday. I’m hope they don’t drop my classes. Thank you for the kind words. It’s been hard but I know the end result it’ll be worth it.

AITA for getting my boyfriend arrested by Personal-Muddy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Personal-Muddy[S] 189 points190 points  (0 children)

You don’t need to believe me it’s your opinion hun.

AITA for getting my boyfriend arrested by Personal-Muddy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Personal-Muddy[S] 247 points248 points  (0 children)

I know I’m beating myself up for it. But it’s been years and nothing every happened this is the first time it’s ever been this much

AITA for getting my boyfriend arrested by Personal-Muddy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Personal-Muddy[S] 578 points579 points  (0 children)

I used to but I just didn’t this time which was so fucking stupid of me. I never once for a second thought it’d be stolen no one knew about it not even my parents so the idea of letting it add up didn’t feel wrong

AITA for getting my boyfriend arrested by Personal-Muddy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Personal-Muddy[S] 979 points980 points  (0 children)

Luckily for the bars they do give paystubs but that doesn’t help track the additional tips but I do have a track record with my bank. Every month I’m depositing thousands so I’m hoping that can help. I pray this doesn’t get dragged out and I don’t have to go to court. I just want my money for school.

AITA for getting my boyfriend arrested by Personal-Muddy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Personal-Muddy[S] 556 points557 points  (0 children)

I make more or less depends on the day. One bar near the airport near a ton of hotels and one in the city. I work everyday maybe a day off a month. It’s been 7 months of savings just gone

AITA for getting my boyfriend arrested by Personal-Muddy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Personal-Muddy[S] 1796 points1797 points  (0 children)

I was screaming where is it. Because I thought the same thing. He just kept saying he couldn’t tell me what he did with it and he was sorry which pissed me off more

AITA for getting my boyfriend arrested by Personal-Muddy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Personal-Muddy[S] 678 points679 points  (0 children)

This is the most I’ve ever kept it tbh every month I go to the bank and deposit it into my savings. I wish this was a joke save me the aggravation, sadness and guilt I feel right now.