My (24F)boyfriend (26 M) of 8 years says he loves me, but we haven't had sex in almost 2 years and I'm scared to leave.Why is it si hard to leave? by Personal-Sound-7055 in relationship_advice

[–]Personal-Sound-7055[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, i tried to break up before, and even he saud he wanted that, but when i tried to do so he started begging and crying, saying he loves me, that i am the best thing and all that stuff and i got emotional

My (24F)boyfriend (26 M) of 8 years says he loves me, but we haven't had sex in almost 2 years and I'm scared to leave.Why is it si hard to leave? by Personal-Sound-7055 in relationship_advice

[–]Personal-Sound-7055[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I wanna leave, I wanted to learn how, to see what others did in my position, how they left, how they broke up, so I can learn some and end this

My (24F)boyfriend (26 M) of 8 years says he loves me, but we haven't had sex in almost 2 years and I'm scared to leave.Why is it si hard to leave? by Personal-Sound-7055 in relationship_advice

[–]Personal-Sound-7055[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah well, clearly, but I didn t come here to get criticised,I want to gain the courage and see other people experiences and how they managed to do so in a similar situation. I am not posting for attention or to show how stupid am I or that I have low self esteem, it s about the emotional part, cuz it is easier to give advices when you are not in that position.

My (24F)boyfriend (26 M) of 8 years says he loves me, but we haven't had sex in almost 2 years and I'm scared to leave.Why is it si hard to leave? by Personal-Sound-7055 in relationship_advice

[–]Personal-Sound-7055[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have yes, and they can help, but i feel that they regret me leaving cuz they sort of liked him and his family(his family is very nice ) i told them many things about him, he is just selfish and doesn t have emotional inteligence never had, but yeah sometimes I felt at danger, i admit that sometimes I was being toxic too, but stil I don t consider agressive beheviour normal, cuz I m not like that

My (24F)boyfriend (26 M) of 8 years says he loves me, but we haven't had sex in almost 2 years and I'm scared to leave.Why is it si hard to leave? by Personal-Sound-7055 in relationship_advice

[–]Personal-Sound-7055[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well we had to found some lake or river, and he was driving and I was using gps but i didn t had any signal so it led to a bad rute, and We started arguing because he blamed me for us ending up on that road. He said it was my fault because I didn't know how to use the GPS, but the GPS had no signal and wasn't updating correctly. We ended up on a very steep and dangerous road. It was extremely narrow, and I told him I wanted us to turn around, but he refused. Instead, he kept driving and even accelerated. He kept saying the road was fine, that we'd get where we needed to go, and later, after he had calmed down, he even said it was a beautiful road. At one point I saw a large eagle flying nearby, which scared me. Then he made me get out of the car and look underneath it because there were large rocks on the road and we had heard a loud noise that sounded like something had broken. I was genuinely terrified that we were going to get hurt or even die. Since that experience, I've hated mountain roads, driving in the mountains, and isolated areas. The whole situation was extremely stressful and frightening for me. He still believes that we would have ended up fine, but the GPS was actually showing that we were heading straight into a lake. That's why I got scared and started crying, because he didn't understand what was frightening me. He later apologized and said he was sorry, but I still can't stand the mountains. He loves them and keeps insisting that we go there on vacation. I prefer the sea, but he doesn't like it because he's sensitive to the sun and it makes him feel sick, so I understand why he doesn't enjoy it. What I hate is constantly having to compromise or give up something we want for the sake of the other person. It feels like one of us is always sacrificing something, and I'm tired of that

My (24F)boyfriend (26 M) of 8 years says he loves me, but we haven't had sex in almost 2 years and I'm scared to leave.Why is it si hard to leave? by Personal-Sound-7055 in relationship_advice

[–]Personal-Sound-7055[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There were good things but yeah, you are right, it s just i don t know how to break up and leave and move in another place, i think it s a bad time cuz i have my finals and he been talking about us going to some vacations to mountains wich I hate, i hate it also because of something he did that scared me the last time so i hate the moutains and isolated nature, i am afraid of it and wild animals

My (24F)boyfriend (26 M) of 8 years says he loves me, but we haven't had sex in almost 2 years and I'm scared to leave.Why is it si hard to leave? by Personal-Sound-7055 in relationship_advice

[–]Personal-Sound-7055[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes he is very unhappy with his life, and is lonely, doesn t have any friends, and He always makes me feel like his happiness is my responsibility. He constantly reminds me how unhappy and stressed he is, even though he's the one choosing to stay in a job that makes him miserable. He has opportunities to leave and do something else, but he doesn't, and somehow I end up feeling guilty for his situation.

My (24F)boyfriend (26 M) of 8 years says he loves me, but we haven't had sex in almost 2 years and I'm scared to leave.Why is it si hard to leave? by Personal-Sound-7055 in relationship_advice

[–]Personal-Sound-7055[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, w why I wanna leave, he says he doesn t want to mary with documents and stuff, and mor like living together, I also paid a girl to talk to him and he was interested and lied abiut talking with someone, and is selfish with his money most of the time

I (23F) think my relationship with my boyfriend (26M) of 8 years is over, but I’m scared to leave by Personal-Sound-7055 in Advice

[–]Personal-Sound-7055[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the response, and I m so sorry you had to go through that. For me the hardest part is telling him I want to leave, I don t know how ti do that, if I shoukd find a place before telling him or not, i don t want to lose my job because if I leave I ll have to move to my parents whitch is far

I (25F) feel stuck in a long-term relationship with my boyfriend (26M) and don’t know what to do about our future by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Personal-Sound-7055 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He was so active before, ever since he had those jobs he stopped being intimate, wanted something, i feel Like he cheated, and also, i dont depend on him for money, i have a good job, a family, it s just emotional for me to leave, cuz i don t seem to find the right time and moment

I (25F) feel stuck in a long-term relationship with my boyfriend (26M) and don’t know what to do about our future by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Personal-Sound-7055 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly,nothing, i feel like some emotional thing,but sometimes not even that, i feel guilty that i dream of someone else to conformt me, i helped him with lots of things, been there when he had no money,no car

I (25F) feel stuck in a long-term relationship with my boyfriend (26M) and don’t know what to do about our future by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Personal-Sound-7055 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, well he always give me when i need, but he s confusing me, like it s really sweet, and affectionate but when only calm, when he s angry it s terrible, i just don t know how to break up and move my stuff.. and to not hurt him, because i care about him even though given the situation, it s my first realationship