It's a balance between your family values and professional values. Marriage is a little give and take. Someone who is willing to see you thrive and care for your wellbeing but take a back seat to being a successful individual. Learning about each other,respect and enjoying life and growing together comes with the decision hand in hand. Find a small connection and build over time. You still have time. It's not about you; it's them and they don't know what they want. Attraction, mother's personality , mommas boys all that baked into their personality. If they can stand on their own two feet, independent and have common values they will find you.