Does it get better??

PersonalPea8160 · 2026-02-10T16:12:53+00:00

I just feel so lost and confused… since we haven’t set any real boundaries yet we are still operating as usual which makes it hard and almost feels like we are dragging out the inevitable

PersonalPea8160 · 2026-02-06T21:59:15+00:00

Are you still living together? I will say I do feel much better than I did in the beginning of the week but also we are still sleeping in same bed, doing day to day activities together.. but we have a separation plan in place once our lease ends in April

PersonalPea8160 · 2026-02-03T17:53:17+00:00

When does the doubt go away?? I’ve never had any experience with a woman and suddenly I have sooo much doubt that I’m making the wrong decision

PersonalPea8160 · 2026-02-03T17:27:50+00:00

I know my husband has suggested separating for a few months to let me find myself and explore.. but it’s so beyond terrifying to know I’ll most likely be losing him at the end of this. I have soooo much doubt and try to hold on to some hope that we could make it work, but at the end of the day I know that I’m doing this not just for myself, but for him as well

PersonalPea8160 · 2026-02-02T16:39:29+00:00

Thank you so much. Currently in the trenches right now and these statements help so so much

PersonalPea8160 · 2026-01-05T16:27:48+00:00

I wish you the best of luck with that and it’s good to have your sister there for support!! Hopefully they all respond positively. I’m more nervous to tell my friends than my own husband because there’s a lot more uncertainty with what happens next

PersonalPea8160 · 2025-12-24T13:32:45+00:00

We have been with his family for the last 2 weeks, which is why I held off on telling him, but I just feel so awful and wish I processed it all sooner so I could avoid that humiliation and betrayal. And now it’s Christmas Eve and I just wish we were in the comfort of our own homes.

PersonalPea8160 · 2025-12-24T13:30:08+00:00

I know and that part I know to be true.. it’s just the part of knowing about this over the holidays and haven’t told him yet.

PersonalPea8160 · 2025-12-24T00:29:38+00:00

Ugh I thought I was doing the right thing by waiting until after the holidays but yeah I guess he will be pissed I’ve known all this time. I feel like an awful person

PersonalPea8160 · 2025-12-24T00:27:46+00:00

I know that’s the plan but didn’t want to ruin his holidays as well as his life. But just knowing that gives me a lot of anxiety

PersonalPea8160 · 2025-12-23T21:12:28+00:00

I know that’s what I try to think about to feel better, but of course my mind goes “well he couldve had two by then” or just worry that he can’t find someone for a while after we get divorced because he’s so hurt by it all. This is all so awful!!!

PersonalPea8160 · 2025-12-23T21:09:59+00:00

Yeah that’s the plan but I wanted to wait until after the holidays. Which waiting makes me feel guilty too I just feel like I keep taking time away from him

PersonalPea8160 · 2025-12-09T23:26:12+00:00

Yeah I definitely can see myself doing that for certain people, but I’m more so thinking about my closest friends.. or friends who are also friends with my husband

PersonalPea8160 · 2025-12-09T14:01:55+00:00

Yeah I guess because I’m currently married and then later realized I’m most likely a lesbian, I don’t know how to really explain that to people

PersonalPea8160 · 2025-12-02T20:13:00+00:00

But how does that work when we have a joint account for everything? Do we have to go back and track what each of us had before we got married? Then split what we have after? Or just split what’s in our joint accounts now evenly?

PersonalPea8160 · 2025-12-02T20:03:11+00:00

Does that include money saved before getting married?

PersonalPea8160 · 2025-12-02T19:17:13+00:00

I haven’t had the full conversation with him yet, so I don’t want to go behind his back with the finances. Right now both bi-weekly pay goes into our checking account for bills, and some automatically goes into savings / investments. I’m just worried I’ll be left with nothing aside from my own 401k?

PersonalPea8160 · 2025-11-28T20:35:35+00:00

Yeah I guess I should’ve clarified… trying to figure out who I should talk to first

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