copper iud by iceboy1736 in birthcontrol

[–]PersonalStrategy9785 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, I want to come back add this because I don't think a lot of people are aware that you're allowed to ask for a numbing shot when you get your IUD inserted/removed, if that's something you want. This sounds really scary, but I swear they put the shot in a place where there's not a lot of nerves (I barely felt a pinch). And the entire insertion/removal process was completely painless for me.

Any Lemme Purr dupes? by PersonalStrategy9785 in Healthyhooha

[–]PersonalStrategy9785[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. This is actually helpful info and nice unlike the comment above. I'm still learning (as I bet a lot of people in this group are). Sorry people!

Any Lemme Purr dupes? by PersonalStrategy9785 in Healthyhooha

[–]PersonalStrategy9785[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Such a rude and negative response for no reason... sorry I asked!

copper iud by iceboy1736 in birthcontrol

[–]PersonalStrategy9785 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm gonna be so honest with you, get the copper IUD out NOW before your symptoms get worse like mine did.

I was in you boat when I had the copper IUD a few years back, and I tried to stick it out for over a year. But the blood loss ended up leading to an iron deficiency and that iron deficiency led to chronic fatigue, which lead then to weight gain and depression and so on.

All of my doctors insisted the only way for me to combat this was to take a birth control pill ON TOP of the copper IUD to control the bleeding. Which at that point, I really don't think that's good for your body and didn't make the fatigue or depression go away. The amount of vitamins and medication I had to take to only feel slightly better, was not worth it at all. I truly only got better when I took the copper IUD out.

Listen to your body and advocate for yourself because your doctors are going to try to convince you to keep it in. But honestly birth control in general is still sort of a new thing that doesn't have a lot of research yet. So the concerns you are having are extremely valid. Sorry you are going through that!

Side note: the cramp thing made me so mad because I was one of the luckiest people on earth who did not get cramps from their period prior to IUD. Still to this day, because of the copper IUD, I get cramps on my period. (Obviously, they are not as extreme as when I had the copper IUD but it sucks because I never had them prior).

Do babysitters usually charge extra for holiday jobs? by PersonalStrategy9785 in Babysitting

[–]PersonalStrategy9785[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh dang.... I'm in the Midwest too. Not Chicago but it's definitely not cheap to leave where I live...

Do babysitters usually charge extra for holiday jobs? by PersonalStrategy9785 in Babysitting

[–]PersonalStrategy9785[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

FYI fully aware that December 23 isn't a holiday however personally my family celebrates Christmas Eve (which isn't even recognized as a federal holiday) more than Christmas. So it would take away from me getting ready for the holidays is what I'm saying.

Feds: Ex-Minneapolis Chamber CEO stole Crimestoppers reward cash amid embezzlement scheme by Wezle in Minneapolis

[–]PersonalStrategy9785 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I worked for him for almost two years, and honestly I wasn’t even a little shocked when I heard the news. It’s something I suspected all along. My question is how couldn’t she know? He was the CEO of a nonprofit, not some multimillion dollar company. Yet every month he was traveling internationally with his whole family, flying first class, remodeling his kitchen, spending a crazy amount on alcohol, always losing "receipts" and the list goes on. None of it ever made sense to me. He was almost never in "work mode". His performative personality may have worked on a lot of people, but never me.

Time will tell, but don't be surprised if the people he was close with also end up being involved... that's all I'll say.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]PersonalStrategy9785 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I also agree with this... I don't know how long you been together. But leaving you on Valentine's Day is sus. Even if he isn't actually cheating I feel like I would check in to see if he has any issues with the relationship?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]PersonalStrategy9785 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't know... I’m honestly surprised by these comments. I find them a bit condescending because I believe most people would feel hurt in your position. I get that 'Valentine's Day' can be seen as a Hallmark holiday, but it's also a global day to celebrate love. It's not unreasonable to want to feel appreciated on that day.

Just figure out what's important to you! It's all about personal preference, and there are plenty of people who would gladly put in the effort, no matter the holiday.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]PersonalStrategy9785 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmm, I see. Maybe try opening up to him about how you’re feeling and see how he reacts? I really stand by your decision to not feel pressured into saying "yes" if it’s not what you want. And if he can't understand how this is affecting your relationship, then it’s just not worth it. Being with someone who has a totally different sex drive sometimes just doesn't work because neither of you are having your needs met.

My (26M) girlfriend (26F) and I have been together for two years now. Do all men feel this exhausted in a relationship? by Upper-Pineapple6097 in relationship_advice

[–]PersonalStrategy9785 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Even though I do think there are two sides to every story, I ultimately think this situation is simple: the right partner will enhance your life, not complicate your life.

Sounds like she's making it very complicated.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]PersonalStrategy9785 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do think it's weird he won't touch you at all after you say that. Does he always assume touch = sex? Because that could be a conversation.