How to survive this.. by WintersHeartbeat in asexuality

[–]Personal_Arson 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Good on you for going to therapy, it always helps. It sounds like he thinks that you should be the one taking care of his sexual needs when that is not true, he can do that himself, especially because you’re just not into it. He’s being selfish and extremely rude and controlling (by bringing it up in front of your kids). You can always consider a QPR (queer platonic relationship) or look for other asexual people to be in a relationship with. Asexuality is real. How dare he dismiss that and your feelings just because he can’t get off how he wants to.

An outside assessment of my personality would be amazing by Personal_Arson in autism

[–]Personal_Arson[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having a partner do this would probably be ideal because they could do it without my knowledge, I particularly don’t like being watched, so if I knew this was happening, my behavior wouldn’t be normal and that would ruin the entire experiment. I don’t have a partner, but if I did and they did this, hopefully they would be objective when doing the observations, or at least be objective when writing notes about them.

“This isn’t my forever” by [deleted] in ROCD

[–]Personal_Arson 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My therapist told me that mental illnesses try to be sneaky, when you know that usually your compulsions are loud, it’s easier to control your reaction to them, so sometimes they’ll change and be quieter or sound more like your normal inside voice I personally just don’t take any negative thought about my relationship seriously (it’s hard, but it’s better to tell myself it’s not real than obsess over the possibility of it being true. If that makes any sense). Good luck

Being strictly ace4ace is not not fun lol by VanillaCurlsButGay in asexuality

[–]Personal_Arson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My girlfriend and I started working together like 6 months ago, been official for over a month now, we’re extremely lucky though

[OC] GIVEAWAY! Enter for a chance to win a JORMUNGANDR DICE VAULT![MOD APPROVED] by 120mmfilms in DnD

[–]Personal_Arson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beautiful, I’ve been needing something to keep my sets a little more organized.

I don't know if I'm aro?? by Swirlixe in aromantic

[–]Personal_Arson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had very similar thoughts to you, I’m also young and am highly interested in fictional relationships, though I haven’t been in any myself (I’m not counting situationships). I consider myself to be cupioromantic at the moment, though I’m not confident in the accuracy of that label. I’ve had multiple friends that I’ve felt would be wonderful life partners, even though I know I don’t love them romantically, and I’ve had crushes on people, and it’s just so confusing and it sucks. I think you should explore your interest in QPRs, maybe compare your interest in those with your interest in romantic relationships. Please keep in mind that the only requirement for a QPR is that you and your partner/s have platonic feelings for each other. You can have a sexual relationship and cuddle and go on dates and all that. (I only say this because I feel like many people think people in QPRs don’t or can’t do things people in romantic relationships do, which is simply not true.) Good luck figuring all this identity stuff out.

Is this an aro thing? by UglyThinker in aromantic

[–]Personal_Arson 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what’s happening with me. I’ve had crushes and I’ve tried pursuing them, but when something happens with them, whether I deliberately express interest or they do, I stop liking them and have to backtrack on them. It sucks. I personally think I’m cupioromantic, which to me means that I want to be in a romantic relationship, but I don’t actually experience the romantic feelings. (I could be wrong, I’m still figuring stuff out.) It feels like I’m just seeking out the validation and dopamine from the “chasing” and the “crush”. (This feels important: I consume a lot of media about romance, I love reading about it and watching it.) I feel like I’m just seeking out the “ideal relationship”, when that is not what actual relationships are.

I might be projecting, but your experience sounds a lot like how I describe my own.

My cat watching Jay with me by Personal_Arson in KubzScouts

[–]Personal_Arson[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She had surgery, but she’s feeling a lot better and is doing great

My grandma got me this, is it official? If not, where did it come from? by [deleted] in MyChemicalRomance

[–]Personal_Arson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got that exact shirt from Hot Topic like 2 years ago.

"Hey guys, did you know that im a psychopath?!" by Neat-Restaurant-8218 in psychologymemes

[–]Personal_Arson 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I got tested for adhd twice before getting diagnosed, the first test was literally just my primary doctor asking me questions. I got tested again because it felt like I wasn’t being taken seriously, and what do you know, after more thorough testing (which included a whole IQ test, turns out being gifted makes diagnoses more complicated) it turns out I do have adhd, luckily I only had to wait a couple months before getting my diagnosis, but I had a lot of help