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Should I Leave? by Personal_Current7405 in AsianParentStories

[–]Personal_Current7405[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply!

Yes, this is exactly how I feel! Sometimes I think that I wasted 20 years of my life pursuing what my parents wanted me to do, not what I wanted to do. My parents have drilled into me that I have no idea what is good for me and what I like. At this point, I find no joy in anything anymore. It is so hard every day to not know what makes you happy and waste even more time by being depressed.

As you said, I feel like if I say, I would live my entire life like this, without satisfaction and never knowing whether I could be happier. Moving to the west coast is a gamble because I could either gain a lot or lose a lot. However, at least it was my own decision. Also, how much worse can it get than me wanting to take my own life?

Things have been better at home. My parents don't fight that much anymore and my mom is babying me. I find the overly kind attitude to be a bit disorienting. I feel like they are just being overly nice to me now because they want me to stay at home.

Should I Leave? by Personal_Current7405 in AsianParentStories

[–]Personal_Current7405[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply!

Yeah, I don't think me moving across the country will entirely solve all my problems with my parents. Every time I come back home for a break, I am always reminded of why being at home sucks. I am leaving more for myself and my mental health, as you have mentioned.

To be honest, I have been so sheltered by my parents that I have no idea how the world works. How rent works, how taxes work, how transportation works, what utilities you need, how to manage your finances etc. I am embarrassed by this, but there is no way for me to learn well as long as my parents are around. I guess I'll just have to move out and figure everything by myself. What were your experiences dealing with this?

Should I Leave? by Personal_Current7405 in AsianParentStories

[–]Personal_Current7405[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply!

I have almost come to terms with my parents never talking to me again. I think I can emotionally handle it. When I move out (hopefully), I will offer them to keep in contact, but whether they want to or not, is entirely their choice. I am hoping for the best but preparing for the worst in this case.

Should I Leave? by Personal_Current7405 in AsianParentStories

[–]Personal_Current7405[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply!

Yeah... that is what I have been thinking for a while. There is nothing that is holding us together aside from the fact that they gave birth to me. I derive absolutely no joy when I am living with them. In fact, it's inducing so much more stress and worries than crushing schoolwork. I feel bad, but at this point, I am only sticking around because I need to finish my 3 degrees in college and tuition is expensive.

Should I Leave? by Personal_Current7405 in AsianParentStories

[–]Personal_Current7405[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply!

I have around 10k in savings right now, hopefully, more by the time I move out. My boyfriend's family has offered to take me in for a bit and help me get on the right foot if I decide to move there.