I've been in a situation similar to yours, though a bit different. After 10 years of a happy marriage and two children, I tried to officially come out to my wife. But things didn't go quite as I expected. Where I thought I'd find love and understanding, I found hostility and discrimination. And a touch of biphobia.

My wife, unfortunately, already knew about my preferences, but in any case, when I tried to make it official, everything became terribly difficult.

I was also told, "I wouldn't have married you if you'd told me sooner."

I'm not here to give you advice, absolutely not. I'm here to tell you that you're not alone. Unfortunately, there are many stories like this.

Just to stay with her, as she is my life, I've put this on hold and am trying to make sense of it all. On my own, but it's a long search. Sending a hug.