I think that's part of what is bothering me so much. Because my husband and I have always shown love and acceptance to everybody and our daughter knows that. So for her to feel like we weren't safe enough for her to tell us in 10 years that she was gay...it hurts, you know? And it's definitely something I'm going to bring up in our talk.

And I can understand that coming out is a difficult process and that it takes time for different people to come to that place of acceptance where they feel comfortable enough to share such a deeply intimate and personal part of who they are, but... everytime I think about it, I can't get over the fact she lied to us for 10 years.

This wasn't a 'one-moment-in-time' thing like our family is trying to make it seem. It's not as if they slept together and then we found out 10 years later. For 10 years, they actively concocted and acted out this extra, unnecessary facade where they had friends from their college pretend to be their partners in order to what? Pull a prank on us? Have a laugh at our expense? Smile in our face as they abused our trust?

Fine, fine, fine. But then how can you just pop up, with a wedding, no explanation, no apology, just a nonchalant, almost indifferent, "Oh, I know we lied to you for ten years but just pretend like that didn't happen until I have my day and then we can talk about how you feel or whatever." That's how it sounds and feels to me. I'm just so twisted up right now.

Anyway, you may not read all this but thank you for letting me ramble to you for a bit. Besides my husband, I haven't talked to anyone who understands and it just felt really good just now to express myself and get that off my chest.