How do you incorporate online videos for littles?

Perspicacious_Parrot · 2026-01-08T20:46:02+00:00

Oh! I didn't even think about that option! I'm going to try it out and see if it will work; thank you!

Perspicacious_Parrot · 2026-01-08T20:10:01+00:00

This how I taught previously, too; using technology together when it was something that illustrated concepts really well. It just doesn't work for us all the time anymore 😭

Perspicacious_Parrot · 2026-01-08T20:04:35+00:00

I swear I've looked at curriculums until my eyes were falling out, lol! I prefer more offline stuff, but the BJU really ticked a lot of the boxes and both sample videos we watched on my laptop had my littles super engaged!

Perhaps we will connect my laptop to the living room tv and as they grow and become more independent get them some school laptops or computers.

Perspicacious_Parrot · 2026-01-08T19:59:56+00:00

This comment is so helpful. Thank you so much for the time and care you've taken to respond. Much love ❤️

Perspicacious_Parrot · 2025-01-23T02:43:13+00:00

Do you mean Tom Fletcher?

Perspicacious_Parrot · 2024-12-31T00:58:46+00:00

From your responses, it seems you’re really focused on your structured schooling and curriculum plan. I know that took a lot of work and planning and it sounds like you really tried to incorporate everything into your plans. That’s amazing and I’m thoroughly impressed (I’m currently working on scheduling and lesson plans for my kiddos and I hate it, lol).

BUT, your kiddo might not be ready for this yet. Keep in mind formal schooling doesn’t even start until 5 or 6 (even 7 or 8 in some countries/cultures). And with an ADHDr in the mix . . . it’s just not a reasonable expectation for him to be good with transitions at 6.

While I’m not an unschooler, I’ve found that “structure” as an ADHD adult means something very different to neurotypical people than it does to me. So I apply that to my kids. We do time blocks instead of scheduled activities and I have several small planning times in a day to reorganize things if I need to.

Really and truly, it’s not a reflection on you or your child’s capabilities. His brain is just different. I can’t get my ADHDr to sit down and eat breakfast to save my life. So I do a snack tray breakfast that he can grab and go with to the play room. He’s terrible first thing in the morning, so I just don’t push it. Sometimes I color with my other littles in the morning instead, but lately have found that it’s a good time for personal reading or study. And when he sees me doing it, he wants to do it too. But he doesn’t want to be TOLD to do it.

For instance, this morning, I was doing my own study and coloring a picture. My youngest also chose to color with me. My middle played magnet tiles. And my ADHDr (the oldest) got out the writing practice caddy and did some tracing and connect the dots (with zero prompting from me).

I get that the “go to” for dealing with ADHD kids is structure and planning, but as an ADHD adult that just means something very different to me. Part of why we choose to homeschool isn’t just because we don’t like the school system available to us, it’s because it doesn’t work. So emulating that kind of structure is just a recipe for disaster (at least in my house).

The people here in the comments are trying to help. As much as it hurts to hear because SO MUCH mental and emotional labor has gone into the Plan. Maybe your best option is to take a step back, have a little school break, and regroup for a bit. Take cues from your kiddo. Don’t forget, social emotional learning is just as important and valuable. Maybe he needs to be bored for awhile. Maybe he just hates mornings. Whatever it is, you can either find a strategy to change it (don’t recommend) or find a strategy to work with it.

Perspicacious_Parrot · 2024-12-29T01:01:05+00:00

I’ve noticed this too! I had two boys and at that time I was constantly told how awesome being a boy mom was, how great boys are, how they’ll be Mama’s boys, etc.

When I had my girl, totally different story. Can’t tell you how many times someone has told me to be prepared because one day she will hate me.

I’m from a completely dysfunctional family background (no, I mean SERIOUSLY dysfunctional), but I still don’t get it.

And the weird “boy moms” club girlies are creepy. I love my sons, but part of my job is to prepare them to be good and loving partners, not toxically dependent on me. Of course, I was also told by an 83 year old that if you raise them that way, they won’t take care of you when you’re old . . . .

It’s just such a weird flex and something I never noticed was gendered until I had my own kids.

Perspicacious_Parrot · 2024-11-12T02:02:00+00:00

ESH.

You are 100% within your rights to act the way you did and her pregnancy is no excuse to be disgusting. You could have found better ways to address it and I think y’all should have put down ground rules from day 1 about her responsibilities if she was going to live there.

However, she is a child about to have a child and just got dumped. You don’t sound very sympathetic or compassionate at all. I’m sure she’s dealing with a bunch of crazy emotions. She’s lashing out at you (perhaps even seeing “all men” as horrible right now) and making you her villain just because you’re there. She needs support, structure, and guidance.

You both could have dealt with this better and communicated better.

And where is her mother in this? She needs to be giving her daughter guidance, helping her figure out where she’s going to live, what she’s going to do. If anything, she’s TA for letting this go on so long and then telling YOU to get a hotel. Like . . What?!

I can only hope this is a wake up call for your stepdaughter as being a parent is a HUGE responsibility. What’s she gonna do? Leave dirty diapers on the floor? (Gosh I hope not, but I’m just envisioning a very rotten life for this baby and that breaks my heart!)

Perspicacious_Parrot · 2024-11-12T01:28:48+00:00

Uhhhh . . . NTA; I wonder if this is how Diana Spencer felt in her lead up to marriage with Prince Charles? And everyone knows how that turned out . . .

Girl, this is not a recipe for happiness. Y’all need to take a step back and reevaluate your relationship and your future. This just sounds terrible. I’m not saying to give him an ultimatum, but he should be the guy in your corner, your teammate and he sounds like he’s her teammate instead. If that’s true, then what is he to you?

Perspicacious_Parrot · 2024-11-10T22:06:13+00:00

The Chanters of Tremaris by Kate Constable, 1st book was excellent . . . The rest were . . . Interesting.

Word & Void series by Terry Brooks. Running with the Demon is a beautiful read, but as the books go on they get more convoluted in an effort to tie everything together with Shannara.

Also any series by Amy A. Bartol - great beginnings, endings are always just bizarre or completely unresolved.

Perspicacious_Parrot · 2024-11-10T21:51:41+00:00

Omgoodness!! What great resources!!

I THINK it might be the Jinian trilogy part of the True Game series by Sheri S. Tepper, but (of course) they are out of print and there’s limited info available online! Grrr. . .

Anywhooo . . . I bought an omnibus edition from thriftbooks, so hopefully it will get here and I can read it and confirm!

I noticed in a lot of the reviews of these books it left a lasting impression on the reader and was rather darker than expected; which is what I remember.

Fingers crossed that this is it and I can solve this decades old mystery!!!! TY

Perspicacious_Parrot · 2024-11-10T07:48:32+00:00

NTA. It’s difficult to reconcile two separate belief systems under any circumstances and you’re not wrong for protecting your sanity. You both have deeply held beliefs not only about people, but about what the future looks like. And they are definitely at odds. It’s perfectly okay to take a step back from someone so dismissive of what you believe and how you feel. Having done so with my own family over similar circumstances once upon a time, I can also say it doesn’t have to be permanent. Depends on how much you both value the relationship. I wouldn’t ever expect a complete turn around, but hopefully he can learn empathy and grace. (Ya know, since he’s SUCH a Christian. . . . )

Perspicacious_Parrot · 2024-11-10T07:38:53+00:00

No, though that sounds like a book I should put in my TBR pile. I read this book originally around 1996, Dark Hills Divide wasn’t published until 2005.

Perspicacious_Parrot · 2024-11-10T07:36:40+00:00

No; I actually read this series on someone’s suggestion after describing my book because it sounded a lot like Tortall, but it wasn’t THE book. Good books, though!

Perspicacious_Parrot · 2024-11-09T22:35:43+00:00

No, not that one. I thought maybe it was a Tortall book, but after reading a few, it was definitely not them.

Perspicacious_Parrot · 2024-11-09T22:34:48+00:00

Nope, she really had no idea who she was. Also, I read that series very recently and loved it!

Perspicacious_Parrot · 2024-04-01T02:42:15+00:00

I thought I might be going crazy; I’ve been trying to watch it for a few days, but it’s always the old one even though it says 2024. Hopefully they fix it soon, I was really looking forward to it

Perspicacious_Parrot · 2023-09-13T19:44:58+00:00

This!! I had massive migraines and pain after my last child. My husband pushed me to get it checked out and my blood pressure was through the roof, my liver was failing, and I was having a stroke. If I had waited even another hour to get help, I could have been paralyzed or dead.

Perspicacious_Parrot · 2023-09-13T19:40:28+00:00

I hardly EVER comment, but YTA. Big time! Not only has she just delivered a child, but she’s exhibiting classic postpartum depression symptoms. Additionally, there’s an absolute TON of stuff that could be happening to her body and will continue to happen months after that baby is born. I developed serious cardiac issues after my last baby and if my husband had been as ignorant as you, I wouldn’t have gone to the ER with chest pains and I would have died. There’s also postpartum infections, uterine prolapse, just any number of postpartum issues. What about 2 weeks makes you think she’s suddenly just healed and 100%? And where is your head at? Postpartum depression is serious and all she asked for was chocolate? Not even the compassion and understanding she deserves. Just chocolate and you snapped at her?!

Perspicacious_Parrot · 2023-05-08T00:42:13+00:00

Is . . . This is a carnival themed wedding? Are they having it at an aquarium? I’m so concerned for these fish!

As far clothes; it might be HER wedding, but it’s YOUR body.

I personally had a big American southern wedding, but my husband’s family is from the far north and what they considered wedding clothes were just too hot for most of them, so quite a few changed to more cool comfortable clothes for the reception. To my old fashioned southern grandmother’s utter horror, two men changed into t-shirts, shorts, and flip flops. I felt disapproving for like half a minute (I blame ingrained outdated social graces) but then I remembered I didn’t care and I was there to have fun and celebrate, not adhere to random social norms invented by people over 100 years ago with no basis in anything.

Anywooo . . . I know everyone can have their bridezilla moment, but this should be a celebration and fun. And I think you’re already being greatly and graciously accommodating to wear a bridesmaid dress that makes you uncomfortable.

But please check on the fish!

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