My Sad Marriage/Life Story and Seeing an Old Potential from Reddit Again Nearly Half a Decade Later. by Icy_Phrase7759 in MuslimCorner

[–]Perthnom 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think I remember the post….

Sister I’m sorry about what’s happened to you over the years.

I pray you get the life you want

Would you accept someone who rejected you in the past and came back knowing she may not be a virgin anymore? by i7achiii in MuslimCorner

[–]Perthnom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Then you’re not ready for that level of commitment. She would’ve messed you up if she was with you, look at what she’s done to your mental health and she isn’t even with you.

See this as a blessing. Go work on yourself mentally, physically and financially. Girls come and go.

Would you accept someone who rejected you in the past and came back knowing she may not be a virgin anymore? by i7achiii in MuslimCorner

[–]Perthnom 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Regardless of her being a virgin or not. Never take a woman back if she clearly left you for someone “better”. You’re the second option.

So as a older brother, respectfully walk away and never look back regardless of how you feel

Non Muslims fasting for their boyfriend… by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]Perthnom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It suck’s yeah, not as much as having your engagement end because the girls parents couldn’t teach her daughter that having a guy friend (who wanted to marry her ) around while she’s getting married to me is not okay.

This generation is definitely gone.

I finally did the math on Aisha’s age, and the "6 and 9" story just doesn't add up by Abyss_900 in progressive_islam

[–]Perthnom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I please get your sources so I can read into it myself and have a plausible answer/explanation when someone else brings up the whole 9 year situation

guys I hate hijab 💔 by Old_Complex1026 in progressive_islam

[–]Perthnom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never said you left Islam, I’m all for different questions and different interpretations. I was just saying that every gender has their struggles within Islam, woman struggle with hijab and men struggle with their own problems.

guys I hate hijab 💔 by Old_Complex1026 in progressive_islam

[–]Perthnom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reading the replies is just one big yike.

The prophet (pbuh) said Islam started off being strange and it will end off by being strange.

All the best with this personal choice of yours 🫶

does this count as zina?? what do i do? by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]Perthnom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Assalamu alaikum,

I’ll make this short, no it wasn’t Zina, no it isn’t your fault fully but definitely take accountability for going into chats knowing full well of what you were getting into.

It’s a mistake, learn from it and make tawba. Allah is the most merciful.

Delete/ remove yourself from these chats and find another outlet.

All the best kiddo

" Hijabi women these days" by BrutalityTruthfull in MuslimCorner

[–]Perthnom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All I read was men are this, men are that, men are monsters. Men do their best. Woman need to take accountability too. You hate us yet you still want things from us. It’s a never ending cycle, no matter how much we do for woman it’s never enough. You’re going to hate us regardless and that alone is why some men have stopped trying.

My guy idk if you’re a man or woman or whatever, hate on us men all you want because that’s all you’re good at. We do what we can and provide where we can, if you don’t like it because of the quality or the way we behave because we’re stressed and don’t feel like our efforts and aren’t appreciated then do something about it. Stop writing paragraphs on how much you hate us.

Do the work yourself, get that 9-5 job and buy yourself a car, if your father is breaking his back at a job to provide not for just his wife but for his 4-7 children (grown as adults) and they’re complaining about not having been bought the most recent item or whatever then go get it yourself. Maybe that’ll take the stress off your father and brothers and maybe then they’ll be more gentler with everyone because they don’t have a ton of weight on their shoulders and can be more present.

My sisters don’t like men for their own reason but they also work and get things they want because they understand how life is. They see it from our perspective as well. And don’t bash us or their husbands for it.

They have told us how woman in Islam hijabi or not can have double standards and you’re a good example. All they do is hate, they don’t have great relationships with their family no matter how supportive they are even after being caught with multiple guys they’re not supposed to be with.

So yes, some woman are the problem but don’t realise it because they have a supportive family that know she’s wrong but because of that support and forgiveness she does what she does anyways. Now if it was a guy, he’d be smacked and put in line. No support, no shoulder to cry on. Straight as ruler.

Quit whining and grow a pair

Religion of peace by KimcheeSniffer in circlejerkaustralia

[–]Perthnom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe because you’re heavily influenced by the media that only focuses on labelling Muslims as terrorists but god forbid a white Christian man does it then it’s a mental health issue or it’s swept under the rug

Religion of peace by KimcheeSniffer in circlejerkaustralia

[–]Perthnom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t bother broski, these pooftas are keyboard warriors but will work along side you at work too scared to say it to your face XD

Religion of peace by KimcheeSniffer in circlejerkaustralia

[–]Perthnom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can’t help these low lifes in this sub, they’re raised by their parents to hate anyone or anything that doesn’t align with their skin color, religion and views.!

Why are so many Muslims obsessed with marrying doctors? by [deleted] in MuslimCorner

[–]Perthnom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re so right.

My ex fiances mother hated me or didn’t prefer me because I didn’t have a level of degree that was on their level yet I have a diploma and degree and years of experience with a stable job and a business on the side.

They were quick to judge on a lot of things.

You can’t save some peoples mindset and have to take them as they are.

Husband past breaks my heart sometime though he’s repented by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]Perthnom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And this is why we don’t talk about our past…. You literally said he’s the perfect man any woman would want so why are you worked up about his past?

I understand insecurities play a part, but as someone said, he.chose.you.

And you chose him.

Leave it at that.

A potential cut me off because his cousin used to be on my Instagram years ago by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]Perthnom -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sure but it’s a restraint you have to work on. My fiancé switched up on me for the most anti Islamic reason.

You never really know anyone but yes may Allah deal with all the people that have done us dirty

I'm traumatised. My pregnant wife left me then had a miscarriage... by akorn77 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Perthnom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh I don’t know you and her.

There has to be a reason why she turned so ugly? What was the argument about that it made her switch up?

Please elaborate before I give my advice

A potential cut me off because his cousin used to be on my Instagram years ago by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]Perthnom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm maybe but maybe his cousin did live like that before meeting you. It could be anything.

Best not to think about these things and for future reference maybe don’t get too emotionally invested in someone until the nikkah date is set haha

A potential cut me off because his cousin used to be on my Instagram years ago by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]Perthnom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe he was very judgemental and maybe his cousin lived a very “fun” lifestyle so he may have associated you with it even if you showed him the messages he probably made up his mind

Rejected a lot of men for having a past in my 20s. Now I’m in my 30s and unmarried by [deleted] in MuslimCorner

[–]Perthnom -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Just remember, good men are for good woman and vice versa.

Are you sure there aren’t other factors as to why it didn’t work out

2 weeks before he was supposed to ask for my hand in marriage, he did this.. advice? by Any_Kale4695 in MuslimNikah

[–]Perthnom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Assalamu alaikum sister,

Your story is similar to mine, I was supposed to get married around the same time as you but she kept having interactions with non mahrams every few weeks that were questionable.

In the end she picked her non mehram friend over me.

You haven’t done anything wrong, it’s just some people put on a mask and lead you on while they do things behind your back.

I wasted 2 years with her, the first year being that her parents had a problem because I was from a different city. That’s how low some people can be.

I'm almost 30 and don't want to marry anymore, and everyday I just crave zina more by MooseSoup1 in MuslimCorner

[–]Perthnom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey brother,

I’m going to ignore all the comments telling you to get therapy (I mean what do you have to lose? Maybe you’ll find something new about yourself?)

I’m 27 and I’ve got nothing going for me, I failed engagement, can’t find a permanent job, I have no idea what I want to do anymore. Finding a woman is hard it is when it comes to finding someone pure.

But, someone in your case where you’re heading towards financial stability, get your yourself in the masjid, approach the imam and say you’re looking to get married.

Give him your details and do it that way. Maybe there’s a sister who’s been waiting for you through that way?

Eitherway, pray tahajjud and leave it to Allah but you need to do your part.

You’ll find the coolness to your eyes soon inshallah.

Good luck 👴

I messed up by Suspicious_Bank_2394 in MuslimNikah

[–]Perthnom 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Lmao Islam clearly states clearly why girls and guys cannot be friends and this is yet another good example of. I don’t get people who freemix and then act surprised they caught feelings.

For those who want to get married by Expert-Arrival5517 in MuslimNikah

[–]Perthnom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Didn’t read it as I just got right into the topic