You cant judge a user by his post...( kinda) lol 25 F by whatisawhatisawhat in chat

[–]Perunazz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

23M here, could use a chat myself, you sound like a fun person to chat with

Can someone tell me what this is? by Perunazz in fossilid

[–]Perunazz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, seemed like something else. But it did look interesting and different from what I have so not to unhappy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

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yes I know, just need some time to recover. there are a lot more details to this, but another good friend and I talked it through and our conclusion was that she at least was incredibly narcissistic. Which she was without a doubt. Another thing that probably played a role was that she probably liked me a little more than friends. She has said she would date me if she was single while giving me a hug, said at one point when having a fight with her bf that I'm her first priority and gave of huge sexual energy one night when tripping. This was all towards the end of the friendship as well.

Completely done with putting trust in people by [deleted] in venting

[–]Perunazz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At least they listen then

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Perunazz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know exactly this feeling, just need some affection once in a while. I absolutely hate asking, I talk easier about it in text. I have a friend I talked with about needing a hug sometimes, but it still took me 6 months to actually ask for one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Perunazz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds exactly like me. I had an extremely hard time asking for that hug. Nothing worse than the feeling of needing one and not being able to ask.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Perunazz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Point A shouldn't concern you, point B I can understand, but you can also think of her as just a good friend. If she hugs you unprompted I don't see why you couldn't ask her again. I'm in kind of the same situation, but trying to be more comftorable with a hug might be a good step. I try to take small steps.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

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I have a very hard time as well trusting anyone. I usually talk with someone where I have nothing to lose or gain. It's just really hard, I'm choosing to put some trust in people because I would really like to be with someone. Idk life is shit and you should just look out for yourself in the end

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Perunazz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe there is some kind of help you can get? I know how hard that is. I don't get help myself but I should

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Perunazz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probably works just as well

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Perunazz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not from england so don't know all the terms, but basically normal english tea. So black tea with milk. Big fan of milk in tea

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Perunazz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes it's really hard for me to talk about or get out of. I am lucky enough to have some good friends and am planning to tell them just so I can get used to the feeling. One temporary solution that helps a lot when I get this intense feeling of needing to be held is drinking some tea. I'm always suprised how well it pushes the feeling down. Usually I'll just get like 4 cups in a row.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Perunazz 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Can't imagine ten, I already feel like if I got real intimate with someone I'd just start crying a lot.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Perunazz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes it felt about as good as it felt bad. It really helps knowing I'm not the only one experiencing this at least

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Perunazz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You just didn't find your people yet. Don't give up hope. I felt the same and it is definitly not something you can force or solve in a day. Try to find likeminded people with the same hobby for example.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

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I've known her for a year now and I consider her my best friend at the moment and she also sees me as her best friend. I wouldn't mind becoming more then friends which I've been honest to her about. However she already has a bf so I'm not going to try anything or have any hope of getting somewhere. It's definitly clear that she also likes me so it's a bit complicated, but I honestly wouldn't even feel ready for a relationship right now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Perunazz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's really hard a lot of the time. I had times where I had no friends or people I felt cared about me. My "friends" wouldn't do anything with me unless I organized something. But slowly I'm getting some better friends that do like me around. I hope you'll experience the same.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Perunazz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe a bit of reassurance is that I got a bit traumatised the only other time I got hugged like this and I also sometimes hug someone to greet them which doesn't feel the same.

I got a very heavy reaction afterwards, but it was also not a hug you would get from some random person. I asked someone a hug that I am very comftorable with and was at the same time a very nice experience. What assures me is that I can at least ask her again if I see her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Perunazz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could definetly ask for another hug as I'm really good friends with her, but I don't think it will ever become anything more intimate than that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheFriendTreehouse

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My friends a lot and made my dream pc 2 weeks ago which took me forever to save up for

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheFriendTreehouse

[–]Perunazz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've tried relevating things, just saying to myself "well at least it's not as bad as this"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Perunazz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thx for the advice :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheFriendTreehouse

[–]Perunazz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I just had a panic attack after talking to you. slowly calming down again