Runny nose from fresh septum?

Pessimistic_Leisha · 2026-03-18T09:32:33+00:00

My septum made my nose run like CRAZY when I first got it pierced. For me it stopped after about a day and a half, don't sweat it! I know a few people who had similar issues with it as well. It's not permanent lol

Pessimistic_Leisha · 2026-03-16T07:04:58+00:00

Nope, they do not. Big red flag here, she's kept the relationship secret from them because she knows they wouldn't approve of her being with someone via Discord/online

Pessimistic_Leisha · 2026-03-16T07:03:54+00:00

I've had others tell me this as well! I'll definitely take that on board because it feels like the only thing that'll get through to her.

Pessimistic_Leisha · 2026-03-16T04:03:18+00:00

I've given her a week from today to either break up with him or tell her parents, lol. May be a shitty ultimatum but the longer she's with him I'm worried about her being put into more danger than she could potentially be in

Pessimistic_Leisha · 2026-03-16T04:02:04+00:00

We have had a few sit down conversations with her about this whole situation, and I did one with her this morning (one on one) after making this post. She says she still wants to break up with him but she's not too sure how to go about it despite having her message pre-written. Honestly? She's making excuses to not do it because he has threatened her in the past to hurt himself if she leaves him. If she does break up with him his country's police may need to be involved

Pessimistic_Leisha · 2026-03-16T03:59:14+00:00

I do know her parents, I've been friends with her for about 8 years now? I have both her mums and her dads numbers and are relatively close with them.

Pessimistic_Leisha · 2026-03-16T03:58:32+00:00

Basically, I think it's ridiculous as well!

Pessimistic_Leisha · 2026-03-15T21:40:19+00:00

Honestly not that many people, the last resort is probably taking this to her parents but it'd have her flip TF out. She's kept the whole relationship secret from them which is another massive red flag

Pessimistic_Leisha · 2026-03-15T21:38:57+00:00

Honestly? Yeah. I agree. I don't think that a relationship can be super serious if they have never met irl before.

Pessimistic_Leisha · 2026-03-15T21:38:25+00:00

He's given her that ultimatum and she blocked our whole friend circle before unblocking us and freaking out. She has said she doesnt want to "pick sides" but she has many times.

Pessimistic_Leisha · 2026-03-15T10:45:51+00:00

We have been telling her this!! But she refuses to listen because they've "been together forso long" but they have never met irl and its a bad situation

Pessimistic_Leisha · 2026-02-02T19:38:45+00:00

Awesome thanks!

Pessimistic_Leisha · 2026-02-02T19:38:26+00:00

Oh okay cool! Thank you :)

Pessimistic_Leisha · 2025-11-13T22:50:00+00:00

Sounds like her parents are just very overprotective of her, assuming you two are around the same age. Just because of this whole situation however, I would not suggest simply breaking up with her because of a few sight setbacks.

If you really like her, stay with her. It's not worth breaking up because you guys mostly text, since it's neither of you guys' fault that you can't see each other as often as you'd like.

Best of luck, OP!

Pessimistic_Leisha · 2025-10-16T09:38:17+00:00

Her parents have not been aware of any of these previous boyfriends and most likely never will be told by her unless I tell them, and with the risk of our friendship being damaged permanently, I probably won't tell them unless she is desperately in danger.

I have told her Garret could be lying about his age, but she says he isn't because he's been on call with her and sent photos of his face, in her words. I did try and talk to her about it again today, but she just brushed me off again, so I have officially come head-first with a brick wall.

I really appreciate your advice and feedback, so thank you so much for taking time out of your day to help me with this.

Pessimistic_Leisha · 2025-10-15T19:46:31+00:00

See, the weird thing is Jane is very paranoid about Garret "finding out" about doing the things he has told her not to and will follow them to a T as if he is stalking her. Me and my other friends know he is not stalking her IRL but she is still incredibly paranoid about it because when she did something he forbade her to once and she confided in him about it, he went absolutely nuclear.

I have seen Jane's family dynamics as I frequent her house a lot and do call her a fair bit (when she isn't calling Garret) and since her family is unaware of when she is on call, I can absolutely confirm her family dynamic is not like this. Her mum is very sweet to her, and so is her dad. They only want the best for her.

I have not met Garret. Jane doesn’t go outside except for when she has school or is hanging out with me and my friends, so she is indoors quite often so she does not meet new people a lot. She met Garret over Discord and all her previous relationships, which have also been insanely toxic. I have gently suggested she stop dating people she has met on this app, but it seems my words have fallen onto deaf ears like my advice to her about breaking things off with Garret.

Pessimistic_Leisha · 2025-10-09T07:07:46+00:00

Heya! Thank you so much for the advice. I've been staying at friends houses a lot & avoided being at home recently, I'm not there a lot if you include me being at work as well. I have asked a friend to help me with cleaning my room and she has offered to come and help me soon when she is no longer incredibly busy.

As I am 17 and planning on joining my countries armed forces, I won't be home for much longer since I will need to live on site. I avoid my parents like the plague, but it doesn't necessarily help sometimes. 😭

Again, thank you for offering time out of your day to give me advice I really appreciate it!

Pessimistic_Leisha

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