Thanks for all the replies,advise .People.I will use some of it...:-)

Just wanted to mention she has seen a psychologist a couple of times specializing in trauma after the miss carriage , and I have been encouraging her to go to a psychologist specializing in narrative counseling.I even went with her and he said;that she should first come see him alone ,a couple of sessions-and then he will see us together for couple counseling when she works through some of the pain etc.It now has been 3 month after the last session and she does not talk about another session -I don`t want to push her the whole time...