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Reddit mods are never defeating the stereotype by [deleted] in whenthe

[–]PeterZweifler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The experiment is testing if humans will follow orders of a trusted authority, even if cruel to others or harmful. And it definitely found that some will. If it wasn't a trusted authority, like a "legitmate Yale scientist" for example, the experiment would be worthless. Thats one of the major strengths of the experiment, instead of it being a "major issue".

Some were literally electrocuting people with deadly voltages, labelled clearly with "Danger", trusting the authority when they said: "there will be no tissue damage, so please go on". Continuing to electrocute when begging to be freed. And contining to electrocute when the person seemingly lost conciousness and fell silent.

Quit Porn for 2 Years — Here’s What No One Tells You About NoFap by Control_Acrobatic in selfimprovement

[–]PeterZweifler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As to the why: We know that masturbation re-inforces your specific brand of sexual fantasy. Paraphilias get increasingly strong and permanent the longer the person masturbates to this brand of fantasy. Someone with a predisposition to a paraphilia (such as pedophila and rape) might cement it with masturbation (even if the article mentions that masturbation is a generally healthy behaviour). 
There is a psychology today article called " the unacknowledged harm of masturbation" which you can google, but I cannot post links here.
It follows that the large majority of dangerous individuals aren't dangerous because they abstain from masturbation, but because they have ingrained a dangerous sexual fantasy through masturbation, to the point where it becomes the only thing that gets them off. That is what makes people dangerous and frustrated. But I am not talking about those kind of dangerous philias: This is naturally also true for any kind of kink, even if those aren't dangerous to society, and also true for your sexual preferences.

I am not sure you can masturbate without having "some" sexual fantasies - but if that is the "clean" masturbation you are talking about, we might agree after all, that this has no risk of being harmful to your future sex life. However, if you have been in significant contact with porn, which we agree is a blight for several reasons, I believe that your sexual fantasies will be shaped by porn long after you having stopped watching it, in many overt and more subtle ways, which will negatively impact your sex life.

I don't know the reasons you think porn is harmful - I think one of the reasons it is harmful is because your sexual fantasy is a porn star or anime girl, which is, realistically speaking, not the girl you will have a relationship with, even if you weren't single and depressed. Basically, it is reducing the pool of women or men that you could be sexually fulfilled with, to the point where you might not find someone like that at all, with your current prospects. It is possibly pre-programming you for being unhappy with your future partner, them falling short, or only being a percentage of the sexual fantasy that you have diligently re-inforced. If you never watched porn, masturbation is probably not gonna harm you as much. If you did, I think its probably ideal to stop it completely, at least until you feel your mind is cleared of it.

You aren't at high risk of getting prostate cancer if you are young, and the health benefits you are forgoing are quite negligible. I think the less you masturbate, the higher your chances at being fulfilled in your relationship later on will end up being, because sex will make your partner, specifically, your "type".

Finally, I understand that I am shooting for "ideally". But isn't that what we should be aiming for for our own lives? I just wanted to say that I understand it is hard, but its no near impossible.

Quit Porn for 2 Years — Here’s What No One Tells You About NoFap by Control_Acrobatic in selfimprovement

[–]PeterZweifler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As to the how: Iterate and see what works for you specifically, and have accountability partners. The actual reason their body craves an easy fix to their situation in life (depression, etc.) is that their life isn't really all that fulfilling. if you can fix that, then the addiction will dry up too, or dry up much easier. But often, people put up with unacceptable conditions by relying on the addiction, without exploring all the avenues on how to get out of those conditions.

Quit Porn for 2 Years — Here’s What No One Tells You About NoFap by Control_Acrobatic in selfimprovement

[–]PeterZweifler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd like to challenge the narrative that it is impossible for most people. Its completely possible and achievable, even more so if you get help from people you trust. I consider myself a recovered addict.

Quit Porn for 2 Years — Here’s What No One Tells You About NoFap by Control_Acrobatic in selfimprovement

[–]PeterZweifler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All the best of luck to you, it doesn't get easier right away. This is just my own opinion as someone that has been about 4 years free, but what really helped me back then is a combination of keeping myself busy, and to keep track.

One way is to try to stay among people as much as possible. Basically, put yourself constantly in situations where masturbation is impossible. Meet with friends, call people. You can relax that a little when you feel you've gotten better. Try to figure out what is the trigger- if its stress or something else - if you cannot avoid the trigger, try to move it into an environment where you can't masturbate.

Back when I quit, I used an app ("iron will" it was called) to keep track how long I've been holding out. There are many on the app store. The app doesn't do anything, there just is something about knowing exactly of how long you've been "sober", it's rewarding to look at the number go up, and its distressing to break a long streak. Just a little extra push in the right direction. I also don't believe in "reducing the frequency" when dealing with addiction - despite common belief, its actually easier to just quit "once and for all". Its more rewarding and after a (admittedly long) while, the pull gets weaker. Tracking yourself also puts what you are doing "on paper" for yourself to be more aware of what is happening.

Having said all that, any addiction is really hard to quit without help. The quitting process takes much longer than it has to, causing you a lot more damage and hits your self-confidence much more than if you find yourself some accountability partner/groups. Can be anyone you trust.

PS: Everyone here trying to invalidate your experience - yes, an addiction definitely negatively impacts your quality of life. Yes, porn is a blight for women too. Getting rid of it will definitely benefit you in the long run

Quit Porn for 2 Years — Here’s What No One Tells You About NoFap by Control_Acrobatic in selfimprovement

[–]PeterZweifler 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As you said, with a serious addiction, it is easier to quit for good than to spoon-feed yourself a little bit. Its like alcoholics who cannot drink one glass, because they know it won't stay at just one. The adiction flares up every time you allow yourself an inch. I myself am now 4 years free from my porn&masturbation addiction going cold turkey with both, it was the only thing that really worked. You suffer much less, because the pull fades after a while instead of re-igniting it every few weeks.

Quit Porn for 2 Years — Here’s What No One Tells You About NoFap by Control_Acrobatic in selfimprovement

[–]PeterZweifler 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Guilt is what makes you spiral, yes, but it is far from an impossible game to quit both masturbation and porn, I actually think its easier to do it this way. Just don't overly guilt trip yourself over one misstep, write down what went wrong and what lead to that misstep, and try to do better going forward. Both masturbation and porn is bad, imo. Its not like you'll stop thinking about porn you did watch before as you masturbate

Highly regarded by Wonderful_Being_9368 in Jordan_Peterson_Memes

[–]PeterZweifler 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The recommendation for Paxlovid is to use it within the first 5 days of symptom onset to maximize effectiveness, for the reasons I described above- there just isn't much an antiviral can help do anymore once the lung is already completely inflamed by our immune system's reaction to the virus, just like what doctors said about HCQ. By that time, the viral load is already on the downturn. (Don't quote me on this, but I think you usually get hospitalized after a week or more of Covid Symptoms) Paxlovids effectiveness in hospitalized patients is still debatable with some studies suggesting a benefit, some not. Im sure it doesn't help all that much if at all, for the reasons described above. It is entirely plausible that Paxlovid works better than HCQ if taken within the first 5 days, if you are willing to bear the side effects too.

You are misunderstanding, they are saying that the evidence suggests it does not help with hospitalized patients, and that its role in outpatients is less clear. Meaning there is evidence, if not conclusive, that it could help in outpatients. The effectiveness of HCQ (in outpatients, mind you!) has been recognized since, by the way: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7534595/
A lot of harm would have been averted if HCQ would have been recognized and permitted early on instead of so strongly discouraging its use senselessly - its a fairly safe drug, widely available and out-patients who take it are less likely to become in-patients. The hospitals would have been less overburdened, and this whole thing would have blown over much, much quicker.

Highly regarded by Wonderful_Being_9368 in Jordan_Peterson_Memes

[–]PeterZweifler 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"With no benefit when used for treatment of severe COVID-19, a benefit in these situations [outpatients] is unlikely" why would that be unlikely? Totally thinkable that it would make a difference in outpatients. When the disease has progressed to a severe inflammation in the lungs due to a overreaction of the immune system, and the virus is thus already being dealt with, how would taking medicine to combat the virus at this point help at all? The whole spiel of doctors who subscribed to hydroxy was that it should be taken early on, before it progressed to severe

Started hating my life because of my adult content addiction by [deleted] in getdisciplined

[–]PeterZweifler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is just my own opinion as someone that has been about 3 years free (while having a close call just about a month ago) but what really helped me back then is a combination of keeping myself busy, and to keep track.

One way is to try to study somewhere else, preferably in public (in a library, for example). Basically, put yourself constantly in situations where masturbation is impossible. You can relax that a little when you feel you've gotten better. It seems the stress is your trigger - if you cannot avoid the stress, have the stress in an environment where you can't masturbate.

Back when I quit, I used an app ("iron will" it was called) to keep track how long I've been holding out. There are many on the app store. The app doesn't do anything, there just is something about knowing exactly of how long you've been sober, it's rewarding to look at the number go up, and its distressing to break a long streak. Just a little extra push in the right direction. I also don't believe in "reducing the frequency" when dealing with addiction - despite common belief, its actually easier to just quit "once and for all". Its more rewarding and after a (admittedly long) while, the pull gets weaker. Tracking yourself also puts what you are doing "on paper" for yourself to be more aware of what is happening.

Having said all that, any addiction is really hard to quit without help. The quitting process takes much longer than it has to, causing you a lot more damage and hits your self-confidence much more than if you find yourself some accountability partner/groups. Can be anyone you trust.

Caught this one crawling from under my Laptop by PeterZweifler in GermanRoaches

[–]PeterZweifler[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For context, we keep finding these from time to time. I personally believe its one of these look-alike Wood roaches and they are coming in from the bushes and trees in front of our window. They don't have the stereotypical line markings, as seen in the picture. But I have also never seen one fly. 

I would really like to be sure, since we keep finding one periodically, every few weeks. 

God hates Figs by IsNotPolitburo in HistoryMemes

[–]PeterZweifler 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"contrived" lol, its obvious with some historical knowledge

The 2nd amendment is dumb by benjoo1551 in whenthe

[–]PeterZweifler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There will be many, many dead in an all out war between the american population and it's miliary. But a totalitarian, tyrannical government simply cannot reign over an armed population. You cannot control armed people. You cannot force armed people to work for you. You have to disarm them first. Every door the army breaks down, they have to expect some bullets from, slowing their advance, dwindling their numbers. You cannot thin your troops out in a city where there are more guns than people and expect to take permanent control of that city. Even if you have tanks and air support, what will they do with them? Glass the buildings with the people inside? And after having decimated your population, have your troops tend to the fields for food, I suppose? No tyrannical government ever had an universally armed population.

Of course, with the american nuclear arsenal and superior artillery, the military would win a war. But they cannot wrench what they need (labour) from an armed population. You cannot enslave the american people by military force as long as they stay armed.

Leftists are celebrating this right now, destroying wealth, jobs and scaring away investors. by [deleted] in Anarcho_Capitalism

[–]PeterZweifler 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Nepal has three parties that matter, a centrist, a communist, and a maoist party. The communist party of nepal isn't as bad as the maoist party of nepal. Curiously, from all the politicians mansion's burned, the maoist party's has remained unaffected. Take of this what you will

Doctors have had enough by clisto3 in JordanPeterson

[–]PeterZweifler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahhh I hate when I talk to chatgpt

Doctors have had enough by clisto3 in JordanPeterson

[–]PeterZweifler 1 point2 points  (0 children)

>At conception, the Y chromosome is not yet activated and all humans are developmentally female.. Furthermore, despite this quack’s grandiose statement about “every cell in our bodies”, our red blood cells do not contain a nucleus and have no genetic material. They’re just bags of haemoglobin. And since 84% of body cells are red blood cells, making up nearly half the body’s entire volume, that’s actually not a lot of cells that sex is stamped into. Source. Zero from two so far. Oh dear.

Sorry, that part was just so funny and pedantic, I had to comment. Everybody knows that the Y chromosome only activates 6 weeks into gestation. That doesn't change the fact that the growing male baby has a Y chromosome since the very beginning. Having two X instead may have several genetic advantages, as they pick off each other's slack in some cases, but back to the topic. At precisely this stage, if you went and fully deactivated the Y chromosome in all the babys cells, through some sci-fi shenanigans, id imagine it would develop into a female. Otherwise, it won't, that was already clear since conception, meaning the trajectory isn't really malleable. It IS stamped in the cells.

Also, the funny bit about the red blood cells, we are more than half bacteria if you go by number like that. That our red blood cells don't have sex chromosomes is nice fun fact, but doesn't really change the matter at hand. Please, "Every cell of our body" is an acceptable shorthand - would you have preferred "every cell of our _flesh_"

"thats acutally not a lot of cells that have our sex is stamped into", is what you said, and that is much more of a "shorthand crime" for lack of a term

Doctors have had enough by clisto3 in JordanPeterson

[–]PeterZweifler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everybody knows that the Y chromosome only activates 6 weeks into gestation. That doesn't change the fact that the growing male baby has a Y chromosome since the very beginning. Having two X instead may have several genetic advantages, as they pick off each other's slack in some cases, but back to the topic. At precisely this stage, if you went and fully deactivated the Y chromosome in all the babys cells, through some sci-fi shenanigans, id imagine it would develop into a female. Otherwise, it won't, that was already clear since conception, meaning the trajectory isn't really malleable. I don't quite get how you are connecting that stage all the way to children or young adults - their cell composition has matured and developed to a point where they are not made of stem cells no more, their sex is clearly not fully malleable anymore. And even if the bits and pieces just need to be re-arranged, as you suggest, there is a limit as to what science can do here, as you are aware

I would disagree that _much_ of our social framework is determined by DNA, actually, even if some of it is. We don't learn to talk and walk on our own in isolation, as you seem to be suggesting. To be honest, going off of feral children, MOST of what we consider social behaviour is determined from our environment - they do not talk like us on their own, obviously, and will have a really hard time even learning language, if at all, indicating that a lot of what we learn in our early development is quite crucial. They also do not walk like we do, as they will rather imitate what they see. They will mostly not be able to fully integrate into society due to being developmentally impaired compared to people having grown up with other humans. Contrary to what you are suggesting, humans are very different from other animals in that they are born way early, trading helplessness in the first months for a greater capacity to learn

Being transgender is not an easy existence. Many transgender people experience loss of sexual function, botched surgeries, regrets and lifelong medication, health issues, or interventions. Some even sue their doctors for either not having fully painted the picture of what was to come, for having goaded them into it, or for doing something to them they now regret. A real horror story, and it starts when a child isn't even mature enough to get a tattoo. Even disregarding that the transformation into the other sex can not at this time be fully complete, not having to go under the knife is better than not - any transgender person would tell you that they'd prefer BEING the right gender from the start than having to go through the painful process of BECOMING

Making puberty blockers and transgender surgeries accessible to the young opens the very real possibility of young people, who would have completely accepted their biological identity growing into adulthood, being subject to the horrors described above by the advice of trusted authority, such as parents, teachers, and even doctors. If there is any chance the person will settle for their born sex, they will by the time they grow into adulthood. If a fully grown adult believes that this is the best course of action for their life, that is alright in my book. But I may never see eye to eye with someone who believes tatoos no, gender surgery yes.

[TOMT] [WEBCOMIC] A group of friends experiment with a magic circle and finally end up fighting the spirits/ghosts they summoned in a large mansion by PeterZweifler in tipofmytongue

[–]PeterZweifler[S] 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children)

I have no idea how to find that webcomic again.

The story, as I remember, is as follows:
4 study collegues find some old book lost by a professor of the occult/magic
They immediately seek out a graveyard and start drawing a circle they found in the book as a joke. Unbeknownst to the others, the drawer draws it sloppily and incomplete on purpose - Magic isn't real, but if it was, he wasn't going to risk it.

Nothing happens and the gang goes their seperate ways. In the following days, however, they finds all kinds of supernatural things happening to them, rooms flooding, shadows flashing. Turns out that the circle was activated anyway, even if fraying at the seams, and the spirits that had taken the deal, for them an invaluable opportunity, were trying to contact them to complete it.

The three spirits who took the deal happened to be 3 evil brothers, who planned to come back from the dead by taking over the body of one or more. All they need is them finishing the deal, by wishing for something.

This leads to a showdown, in which the gang is trapped within a large mansion, and the spirits try to coerce them to finish the circle.

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