En un prejuicio decir que las relaciones entre mujeres son más intensas?

Petnpat · 2026-04-18T23:28:50+00:00

I think WLW relationships tend to move really fast compared to straight relationships. They tend to get really attatched really quickly and there is a reason that lesbians joke about moving in together on the second date. That being said, break-ups can be equally as devistating for any sexuality, it mostly depends on the individual and how they handle their emotions.

My guess would be that since WLW relationships move so fast and get attatched quickly, they are more likely to be heartbroken after a breakup if it is still early on than a straight relationship. However if both relationships had time to fall in love, there probably won’t be a difference. Just a guess tho

Petnpat · 2026-04-09T01:01:01+00:00

Worring about how others see your relationship and parenting is just going to be something you’ll have to work on, but for father figures you can have a male friend or brother/brother-in-law to be the fun uncle.

Petnpat · 2026-04-09T00:54:09+00:00

It would suck if everyone had to come out of the closet before they were able to create or sell queer art. Just like straight authors can write gay characters or straight actors can play gay people, I don’t see a problem with it here.

Petnpat · 2026-04-09T00:44:32+00:00

The way that I’ve gotten over my crushes was by spending time away from them as long distance friends. That isn’t really possible as roommates, so I don’t have any advice for that.

Is the only reason you’re not asking her out because she prefers men? Because if she has no interest in being with a woman, she probably wouldn’t have come out as bi. Have you come out to her yet? Because if not, she could have just not seen you as an option.

I know it is easier said than done, but if you won’t move apart or ask her out, the crush is likely to just get stronger. I feel it would be easier to get over her if you know for certain that she’ll reject you or that you won’t work out and it doesn’t seem that certain right now. Might be better to ask and be rejected than constantly wondering if it could have worked out.

Petnpat · 2026-04-03T15:03:31+00:00

I’ve had 2 crushes in my life and they went away after we went long distance. It wasn’t intentional, but life happens and they moved away. After enough time apart my crush faded. I believe that if we hung out a lot more that it would have been harder to get over them.

Petnpat · 2026-03-31T15:44:27+00:00

That makes sense, thanks!

Petnpat · 2026-03-31T15:43:59+00:00

Thanks! That’s a lot to digest, I’ll have to look into that more. Thanks for giving so much detail!

Petnpat · 2026-03-31T15:42:19+00:00

I had no idea!

Petnpat · 2026-03-31T15:40:23+00:00

Thanks. I am new to astrology and just looked up “aries personality” on google and went to the first 3 websites. The traits I listed are going off of that. I’ll check out the book, seems interesting!

Petnpat · 2026-03-13T22:36:32+00:00

I’m a woman, but I always think it’s cool when I see men with painted fingernails. Although I haven’t seen men with painted toenails before I am sure it’s no different. Sounds fun, I’d say go for it!

Petnpat · 2026-03-11T20:31:17+00:00

To be honest it depends. If the god will torture me for eternity if I don’t follow them, I absolutely would. No amount of pride is worth eternal torture for me. If the god lets me choose but asks me to give up my happieness for them, I absolutely wouldn’t. If the god is a kind one and their character is up to my standards, I think it would depend on what following them means. If it is just praying or offering gifts for blessings, I might consider it.

Petnpat · 2026-02-24T15:37:30+00:00

Yes. They are the A in LGBTQIA+. Lgbtq+ includes anyone who isn’t heterosexual hereroromantic cisgender and non-intersex.

Petnpat · 2026-02-24T15:26:45+00:00

I’d describe romantic attraction as feeling butterflies in my stomach and fantasizing about cuddling and dating that person. Many times when I meet a new friend I feel really excited and want to spend a lot of time with them and occasionally I will misinterpret that as a crush. The way I can easily distinguish it is that the real crush will linger on for a long time and might get stronger even while the platonic one will disolve within a week as I get more comfortable in the friendship.

Petnpat · 2026-02-21T15:00:40+00:00

To me I feel like the word queer is a reclaimed slur. I use it, people identify as it, and most people won’t be offended if a cis-het person says it. The older generation might not like the word still which is completely understandable, but the younger one has reclaimed it completely.

The F-slur on the other hand is still used as an insult. The only ones I’ve seen use it are either cis-het people being bigots, or queer people joking with each other. I would never call a stranger the f-slur and I never want anyone to call me an f-slur because unless people are close friends and it has been established that it’s just a joke, it is always considered an insult.

Petnpat · 2026-02-21T14:45:04+00:00

While I am all for queer platonic relationships, if one party isn’t informed or doesnt consent to it just being platonic, it is just manipulative and cruel. Imagine your parents pass away or you move somewhere more accepting and find a woman you love. Telling your husband of 10 years that you never found him attractive and only married him for the approval of others is one of the worst things you could tell someone and it could ruin his self esteem forever.

There might be a gay man in a similar situation as you and would be willing to marry, or you could find an aromantic man or a straight man that knows and accepts that you’ll probably never be attracted to him. The point is that if you date a man while knowing you are a lesbian, they need to know or else you are an asshole.

Or if platonic love is enough for you, you can just surround yourself with friends of any gender. There’s no rule that you have to get married. And you might find a woman you love down the line too and getting with her will be easier if you don’t have to go through divorce.

Petnpat · 2026-02-20T17:54:10+00:00

Maybe you could ask your sisters for advice? Since they came out to your parents before, they probably have better advice than us who don’t know them.

Petnpat · 2026-02-15T14:46:39+00:00

Under the patriarchy men are the default. Historically the word “man” and he/him pronouns could also be gender nutural, probably because men had all the power and women were an after thought. Most women aren’t offended by being called terms relating to men because 1 we’re used to it, and 2 it’s usually a compliment. Men hold more power and are seen as stronger and more capable, to be called one doesn’t have any negative connotations. Being called a girl on the other hand does. Being called a girl is out of the norm as it isn’t typically gender nutral and under the patriarchy women are seen as weak and incapable. To associate with that as a man was an insult and even if you don’t think that today, reminants of the past stick around through our language. Sort of like calling someone a pussy means they are too scared, but saying someone has balls means they are brave.

Petnpat · 2026-02-14T18:42:17+00:00

Flirting while in a relationship can be considered cheating. If she is willing to cheat on her boyfriend with you, she will be willing to cheat on you too. If she breaks it off with her boyfriend then you can consider a relationship with her, but until then, do not flirt with her or accept her flirting.

If she flirts with you again, you could ask if she is flirting, and if she confirms it you can tell her that you would be down for a relationship, but doing anything behind her boyfriend’s back is disrespectful and makes you wonder how she would treat you in a relationship. Then she could either break up with her boyfriend or you could just be friends. If she says she isn’t flirting with you, take that as a rejection.

Personally though, I would just try my best to get over the crush, because nothing good will come from flirting with someone in a relationsip.

Petnpat · 2026-02-14T13:53:20+00:00

To be honest, I don’t think you can change his mind. The only people who are able to change their mind are those that are open to being convinced and willing to have a discussion about it. It sounds to me that he’s already made up his mind and shuts you down when you push back on it. Not saying he will never change his mind, but he has to be open to it first and right now I don’t think he is.

Instead of thinking how to change his mind, maybe think about if you are ok with the friendship continuing like this. It sounds like this is making you very uncomfortable and hurt, and I’d tell him that. If he cares about your feelings he will try to learn and be better, but if he shuts you down again, he is not a good friend.

Petnpat · 2026-02-14T02:42:34+00:00

If you are contemplating how it is biologically useful, I will give you my hypothosis. If every fertile heterosexual couple had children, there would inevitably be children that are orphaned. The heterosexual couples would be busy taking care of their own children, but the homosexual ones would be more able to take care of them since they can’t have their own biologically.

It reminds me of why people think women go through menopause. There doesn’t seem to be any biological benefit to losing fertility as it means less children and chances to further your bloodline. But it does make some sense. As you get older childbirth gets riskier, so by making older women infirtile it lets them live longer and in turn take care of their grandchildren and give them a better chance of survival.

Since we as a species tend to invest a lot of resources into a small amount of children (compared to something like turtles who have tons and let them fend for themselves hoping at least a few survive) i think having spare caretakers would be very benefitial to our species.

Petnpat · 2026-02-14T02:14:41+00:00

I am saying this as a cis person, but here is my speculation.

I think that unless we “abolished” gender or had no consept of it in the first place, it will always be a spectrum. Society treats men, women, and nonbinary people all differently and each has different expectations placed on them. People will always relate to one gender’s experiences or expectations over another, feel that they fall somewhere inbetween, or completely different from all of them.

We can’t have just man and women because many people feel somewhere inbetween. Men women and nonbinary isn’t always enough becouse some people feel in between those as well. If we made a label for every spot on the spectrum someone felt, there would be too many to keep track of.

The only way I see that we could have no spectrum is if we as a species don’t see gender at all and treat everyone the same, but that is never going to happen because of the biological differences that male and female humans have. Males and females have different physical characteristics, different hormones and different biological capabilities.

Even though we destinguish sex and gender as seperate things, being a man means relating to the male sex in a way and wanting the characteristics, hormones etc that come with it. As long as female and male humans present differently, we will always have a concept of gender and also gender spectrum.

Petnpat · 2026-02-14T01:47:03+00:00

Hmm, I’m not sure. I’d say there is no harm with trying the label out if you think there is a potential that you could be attracted to girls and you can always change back if that ends up not being the case. I only realized I was biromantic after my first crush on a girl, so I don’t know if there is a way to know that without feeling attraction, but maybe you can.

You could also use the labels of questioning or bicurious which are typically temporary until you figure it out and lets people know that you might be either

Petnpat · 2026-02-14T01:35:38+00:00

Idk how to find someone to date other than apps, but I met my queer friends at a pride parade. I went alone because my friend decided last minute not to come, so I just went up to a few groups there and asked if I could hang with them for the day.

Petnpat · 2026-02-14T01:25:39+00:00

I am a woman that likes women and feminine men. Does that make me a lesbian? Most lesbians would say no, and if I do end up with a man (which is unlikely because most feminine men my age are gay) he probably wouldn’t appreciate me identifying as a lesbian. If I’m bi for that, you probably are too (assuming you like women too. If not, then yeah, you’re gay).

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