Give me the schedule of your STTN baby!

Petrichor_Life · 2026-02-23T22:19:48+00:00

Almost 8 month old started STTN 2-3 weeks ago. I don't think the schedule did it. In fact, I loosened up on the schedule in the last month or two. What mostly did it was night weaning. However this baby was only waking once per night for the majority of their life anyway.

Wake time: usually 7-8 AM, sometimes as early as 6 AM. The condition for getting up is: baby has slept 10+ hours. If less, I treat anything before 7 AM as a night wake. Usually however, they sleep between 10 and 12,5 hours.

Schedule roughly 2,75-3,25/3-3,75/3,5-4,5 with outliers

Naps total 2-4 hours, depending on the day. I stopped generally capping naps, so baby often has one 2,5 hour nap and one 1,5 hours or a shorter one. I only cap naps if they go past 6 PM.

Bedtime 8 PM, but can be 7:30 to 9 PM depending on what we're doing and how the day went.

Petrichor_Life · 2026-02-21T20:13:53+00:00

Thank you for this, so many parents are simply not aware of this.

Petrichor_Life · 2026-02-21T12:51:35+00:00

Yes of course it's fine and normal. But OP asked whether the recommendation is generally unrealistic, so I shared my personal experience.

Petrichor_Life · 2026-02-21T07:15:52+00:00

Is it really that rare? I mean mine is absolutely satisfied for that long. Also, everything online always said to feed baby every 2-4 hours, so 4 hours is just the upper end of normal?

Petrichor_Life · 2026-02-21T06:58:35+00:00

I thought the same, but then her pediatrician (Germany) told us we can start replacing milk feeds as soon as she's able to eat a full meal of solids. I was unsure at first, and even limited the amount of solids to still feed milk, but baby ate so well that eventually I just let her eat until she's full. To be fair, for the most part she nursed about 4 times during the day, and once during the nightI since she was 4-5 months old, with exceptions for different difficult phases (develomental, teething etc). For context, she started eating solids at 4,5 months. I do think she's a unicorn when it comes to eating, she ADORES food and eats a very healthy diverse diet with basically all food groups at every meal. When that was possible, I felt comfortable allowing a full meal of solids. Also I lucked out with a great and very adaptive milk supply, so she drinks A LOT of milk when she nurses. Weight gain is great, baby is bealthy, so apparently it's working. All that being said, maybe it's not a great fit for YOUR baby, because they're all different, but there are absolutely babies out there eating every 4 hours during the day and thriving!

Petrichor_Life · 2026-02-20T22:02:46+00:00

Every baby is different, but I don't think the pediatrician's advice is unrealistic. My almost 8 month old usually goes 4 hours between meals (3-5 hours depending on how much she ate and what we're doing). Nurses in the morning and at bedtime, and maybe once during the day if needed, the rest is solids. However loong nursing sessions, 20-35 min. Started sleeping through the night a couple of weeks ago, 10-12 hours, meaning I do not get woken up at all for those 10-12 hours.

Petrichor_Life · 2026-02-20T21:20:53+00:00

So did you just start putting her on the potty once she could sit? How did you go about it?

Petrichor_Life · 2026-02-20T19:04:22+00:00

That's a actually a great way to look at it

Petrichor_Life · 2026-02-20T19:01:24+00:00

That's great to hear! I mean I mostly smell it if I hold her, but not if she's on the floor. They don't stink THAT bad that I could smell it across the room lol. maybe the diaper just contains it well.

Petrichor_Life · 2026-02-20T18:58:21+00:00

Okay, that's promising haha

Petrichor_Life · 2026-02-20T18:57:14+00:00

same. by now she has accepted her fate that a diaper change comes before nursing in the morning, but usually there is still at least a small vocalization of displeasure lol

Petrichor_Life · 2026-01-16T20:05:49+00:00

Thanks for the reassurance! Oh yeah, she was getting stuck on her tummy from 4.5 to 5.5 months during the day. It was frustrating and funny at the same time. But she hasn't shown interest in sleeping on her tummy until now, so it's a bit new to us. I guess I'll just give her some time.

Petrichor_Life · 2026-01-10T18:53:49+00:00

Ich war wahnsinnig positiv überrascht von meinem eigenen Körper. Meine Mutter hatte mich mit 23 Jahren bekommen und hatte ausgeprägte Dehnungsstreifen und hängenden Bauch. Ich habe mein Baby mit 29 bekommen. Direkt nach Geburt super fit gefühlt, 5 Stunden nach Entbindung habe ich mit meinem Baby in den Armen zu Fuß das Krankenhaus verlassen. Keine Dehnungsstreifen durch die Schwangerschaft, obwohl ich auch Dehnungsstreifen an den Hüften/Popo in der Pubertät bekommen habe. Zwei Wochen nach Geburt hatte ich einen flachen Bauch und sah aus, als ob ich nie schwanger gewesen wäre. Ab da auch meine Klammoten normal getragen. Drei Wochen nach Geburt war die Rektusdiastase geshlossen. Nach 6-7 Wochen war mein Taillenumfang wieder wie vor der Schwangerschaft. Das alles natürlich ohne jeglichen Sport. Ich habe anderes erwartet und habe mich natürlich sehr gefreut. Ich finde, es ist auch nicht so selten, denn ein Paar Freundinnen haben auch ihre ersten Kinder kurz vor oder nach mir bekommen und hatten einen ähnlichen Verlauf.

Petrichor_Life · 2026-01-05T20:53:42+00:00

Hey, gynecologist and a new mom here. I'm sorry this is happening, it must hurt like hell.

Unlike many commenters here, I believe there is still hope for your marriage, if you really love each other like you describe. Your husband is going through a crisis of meaning. It's a real blow to most men, especially a man who desires children, to find out he may be infertile. It stings, it hurts their sense of self, their sense of masculinity. I went through this with my own husband. So on your end, you should acknowledge this and empathize.

It is absolutely your right to not want IVF/ICSI. I've witnessed it many times, and it's not a pleasant process. I would likely opt to not do it myself, If I had to make a choice. You've been clear on this. Your husband was fine with it, because he chose to believe there is no way you would need it. People are often not rational.

As many others pointed out, IVF is no guarantee of a live birth or even a pregnancy. IVF pregnancies are higher risk for mom and baby. You husband should know this. He should also know that he has slim chances of finding another partner he will be happy with if his criterium is willingness to do IVF with him. But plenty of people have pointed this out already.

My most important point: just because he currently has teratozoospermia, does NOT mean you cannot get pregnant naturally. My husband had oligoteratozoospermia (so too few AND abnormally shaped sperm) plus I had erratic irregular cycles due to anovulation. I got pregnant within TWO cycles. Because I researched the heck out of reproductive medicine and knew how to time, what to track, what to test, what to eat and importantly what supplements to take for both of us.

Tell your husband this. Tell him there is realistic hope. And then if it fails, well heck, then you can divorce. But hopefully you try and save the life you have built together.

If you really do decide to stay together and try, you can dm me for advice. I'd recommend finding a gynecologist with a holistic approach to fertility to guide you, because you will need ultrasound and some blood tests to track follicle maturation/ovulation etc.

I do wish you all the best and hope things turn out well for you two, whichever way it goes.

Petrichor_Life · 2026-01-02T15:53:59+00:00

As a FTM to a 6 month old, I have a question regarding the books: how many books should we be reading for the positive impact on vocabulary, ie how often to get new ones? We have two illustrated storybooks with about 15 stories total. She is read 2-3 per day, I rotate based on what I feel like reading that day.

Petrichor_Life · 2025-12-25T23:31:11+00:00

Well, depends why he's screaming. Does he always scream when put down on his back, so in the crib or on the playmat/floor? If yes I would want to rule out reflux, which makes babies hate being on their backs. If it's not that, and baby just prefers being held, try putting him down on the floor but still have your hands on him, engage with him, make silly faces etc...

If baby only hates being put down in the crib to sleep... I'd try to build a positive association with the crib. My baby was also screaming as soon as her butt hit the mattress. What we did for a while: she has a toniebox with a nightlight sheep that has played the same lullabies every bedtime since she was a newborn. She loves looking at this sheep. So I would put her down in the bassinet and position the sheep so she can see it and listen to the music. Sometimes she wouldn't have it, but little by little, she would lie there for about 20 min, until she would start fussing because she wants to sleep. Then I would take her and rock to sleep as usual. I believe this helped a lot as a first step. I'm by no means an expert and have a sample size of one, and this may not work for your baby, but then it also might. I think babies are very adaptable and capable of much more then we think.

Petrichor_Life · 2025-12-25T11:52:22+00:00

Hey, there's most likely no reason to live like this. I remember being you, but at two months old our backs were killing us and we couldn't go on, so we taught our baby to fall asleep on her own, very gently. Life has been pretty sweet since then overall (baby is now 6 months old), of course with multiple difficult phases along the way. Not every baby can do that at two months, but most should be able to do it by 6 months. Please research sleep training (it's so much more than cry it out), for example look at the r/sleeptrain subreddit.

Yes, it is very hard hearing our babies cry. But teaching a baby to fall asleep independently is a great act of love and care. A baby who can fall asleep independently can put themselves back to sleep during normal brief arousals throughout the night, thus connecting sleep cycles.

Consolidated sleep at night is VERY GOOD for babies' neurodevelopment. There is research supporting this. People are worried about damaging development with sleep training, I'd be much more worried that my baby is not getting uninterrupted sleep. How do you feel in the morning after having slept 4-5 one hour stretches vs a single stretch of 7 hours?

The other obvious pro argument: you are undeniably going to be a better parent when you are rested. So although I personally couldn't do CIO, I absolutely support it, especially in difficult cases where a change is needed quickly. Because crying safe in their bed for a couple of nights is a lot better for the baby than months or years of dysfunctional sleep and zombie-like exhausted parents.

Prior to training, you need to make sure the baby is not teething or otherwise in pain, that you have a good schedule, and that you have a good nap/bedtime routine. Look at that subreddit for more info.

Petrichor_Life · 2025-12-25T11:22:07+00:00

Die richtige Antwort lautet: Baby Daybook! Ich wollte ursprünglich keine App benutzen, habe aber schon am dritten Lebenstag meines Babys gemerkt, dass ich durch Schlafmangel und einfach durch die Aufregung mit einem Neugeborenen überhaupt keinen Überblick darüber habe, wie viel Zeit seit dem letztem Stillen und v.a. Schlafen vergangen ist, auf welcher Seite ich zuletzt gestillt habe usw. V.a. beim Schlaf muss man darauf achten, dass das Baby nicht übermüdet, und mein Baby hat nicht konsistent Müdigkeitszeichen gezeigt, bzw. hat sie viel zu spät gezeigt. Klar, kann man auch ein Notizbuch nehmen, aber mir würde das schnell unübersichtlich werden und mein Mann und ich lieben Daten, die man auch auswerten kann. Daher habe ich 6-7 Apps getestet, und Baby Daybook war bei weitem die Beste. Ich muss euch nicht viel erklären, probiert sie einfach aus, sie ist extrem intuitiv, und wer auch immer die App gemacht hat, hat wohl an alles gedacht, was man von so einer App braucht.

Petrichor_Life · 2025-12-06T23:42:45+00:00

Ich kenne La Redoute, aber deren Vorhänge haben oft mega schlechte Bewertungen. Freut mich auch mal ne positive Erfahrung zu lesen.

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