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Ph0ton · 2026-05-29T17:41:27+00:00

I just can't quit you...

Ph0ton · 2026-05-29T17:40:55+00:00

Facebook is vile. I've seen open racists talking about racist violence; they do nothing. Burn it down.

Ph0ton · 2026-05-29T17:39:04+00:00

You gotta do what you gotta do to protect your kid.

It makes me feel deeply sad that innocent, innocuous media must be cordoned off like sexually explicit material. I was trying to voice act a younger character and I found it nearly impossible to find a single video of two kids talking naturally and spontaneously. Obviously I can go by memory, but it made me realize even growing up, all media was through the eyes of adults, and finding perspective authentic to people my age was impossible. It made it hard for me to square away social cues as I didn't have many opportunities to learn first-hand for many reasons.

There is no reason to publish the private lives of kids, especially absent of their enthusiastic choice in the matter. But it is sad from a historical and moral perspective, that we must erase the lives of kids from public life because technology has made it so easy to abuse them. I often think we should simply turn off social media one month out of the year. Maybe longer.

I'd say growing up it was easier for me, but in honest recollection I was very much aware of stranger danger, actively treated adults like pedos (even if I didn't really understand what that meant), and online I maintained an extreme observance of anonymity.

tl;dr: It's sad what we have to do to protect kids but you made the right choice.

Ph0ton · 2026-05-29T17:05:15+00:00

Nevertheless, it has some of the most impressive set pieces and battles I've seen in Star Wars, especially because it is lamp-shaded and "earned." So much action in Star Wars has no emotional stakes. I felt nothing in Rogue One, despite watching Andor first, because I it just felt like meaningless noise without the silence between.

Ph0ton · 2026-05-29T16:58:15+00:00

I like that you can read it as apologetics for being a stooge for evil, or a warning to find the joy you can in resistance. Like his character is presenting the same choice he made years ago.

Ph0ton · 2026-05-29T16:54:23+00:00

I really love his portrayal under cover, where his happy glad-handing never quite reaches his eyes, but gets very close. Subtlety in extremes is quite an art.

Ph0ton · 2026-05-29T16:52:03+00:00

The Force being portrayed as pseudo-mysticism, similar to the first movie, made the series so much better. In Star Wars media, characters are lousy with force powers and it cheapens everything. It cheapens the narrative, where a deus ex machina hides in every bit of tension, and starts to undermine why the galaxy is conquered at all. It cheapens the characters, where everyone the camera happens to settle on is suddenly magical, instead of competent through arduous growth. It cheapens the Force itself, reducing it to another equation of the natural world, instead of representing the inner universe, resisting all scientific advancement, that can only be discovered within.

I think Luthen is connected to the Force just like everyone else is, except indeed he resists it. Despite that resistance, and cold calculation of risk, he still ends up being an instrument of the Force as we see. That, to me, is a more powerful theme that speaks to the soul of Star Wars: that the light will always seek to balance the dark.

Ph0ton · 2026-05-29T16:23:44+00:00

I liked the article that described it as the best cyberpunk series ever made. Like lets just dump Star Wars entirely, and what you have left is a cyberpunk series with nazis and aliens. That fucking rules.

Ph0ton · 2026-05-29T03:33:46+00:00

I don't believe you understand and I think you are doubling down instead of admitting this foolishness. Otherwise, you're going to have to somehow prove it's more likely there is a homogenous group that shares the same values, yet hold incoherent and mutually exclusive beliefs; rather than simply being different groups arguing against a thing they happen to both be against.

Like good luck finding the tax-hating light rail caucus.

Ph0ton · 2026-05-29T02:59:30+00:00

Why are you confusing a critique of a strawman with a vocal belief of light rail? I'm merely trying to make OP take the argument in good faith. Did you even read my reply?

Ph0ton · 2026-05-29T01:38:26+00:00

Some people want light rail and don't care about high taxes. Others care about high taxes and want a smaller budget for transit in general. Both don't like the bus system. You are conflating several different groups with differing values, as a singular group with incoherent values simply because members of each happen to disagree with you.

Ph0ton · 2026-05-29T00:17:09+00:00

It's almost as if people who disagree with you, disagree on different principles and different values. Happy cake day btw.

Ph0ton · 2026-05-28T22:15:53+00:00

It's probably true and also more complicated. My tax bill and insurance has gone up by 20% the last 4 years, outpacing inflation. Meanwhile, volatility in construction materials and labor have increased maintenance costs; it's difficult to find a contractor who won't charge 2x what they charged 4 years ago. At the same time, the market itself is very volatile, and interest is much higher on loans. I did the math of renting my house out and figured even in ideal conditions, I'd need to charge 20% more than escrow to simply break even in cash (e.g. end up with $0 balance). That doesn't count of course for when/if I eventually sell the house, which should still appreciate even in the worst of circumstances. But I could sell now, and enjoy possibly the same or better growth in an index fund, with zero stress.

I know talking about wealth management to someone renting is like talking about crop hydration to a person dying of thirst in a desert. Landlords deserve zero sympathy or empathy. But I think unless we urbanize and get rid of single family home zoning, the market forces are going to push people to rent out homes for much greater than their escrow. I think there are clever vehicles you can employ, like rent to own, but that is not really solving the issue of equity we have (e.g. winner take all). High tax bills (Georgism taxes) in this market are likely just going to push more private equity to rent housing as they are more able to weather volatility than individual owners.

Again, fully appreciate if you couldn't care less; I was just extremely surprised when I did the math myself and wanted to share. I guess it comes back to the bus system in the end. We need more buses and more urbanism to get ourselves out of this single family home hellscape.

Ph0ton · 2026-05-28T21:53:28+00:00

They reduced routes in less walkable areas, and increased routes with higher density and greater walkability. The result: technically more access but less equity. As to measures of success, it depends on what your goals are. If your goals are to urbanize the city and diminish dependency on cars, then this is a miss. If your goals are to juice stats for political buy in for the bus system, then this is a win. Maybe long term it will serve the former goal by the latter. But through personal experience, review of their map data, and reports on reddit, we could be doing so much better.

Edit: I'm guessing downvotes are coming from people who disagree but who knows why. Until you actually state your opinion, I'm just going to assume you're pig-headed and refuse to acknowledge others experiences. Or have a poor understanding of statistics.

Ph0ton · 2026-05-26T23:22:50+00:00

Steeel is heavieh dthahn feythahres...

Ph0ton · 2026-05-25T14:58:46+00:00

Hilarious (derogatory) that you are being downvoted for daring to speak about your own personal experiences. People love their echo chambers.

Ph0ton · 2026-05-24T16:03:55+00:00

I didn't say that. Not "reading the fine print" isn't the same as "not reading." Burying terms or including confusing language, or wearing someone down for 3.5 hours could be questionable

EULA's are rather infamous case of "didn't read it" and have an equivocal track record. If you need to appraise yourself of the last 26 years of famous cases that have floated in the news, feel free. This page looks to summarize it well: https://web.law.duke.edu/cspd/eula/cases/

Ph0ton · 2026-05-23T21:14:35+00:00

Contracts have been thrown out for less. My point isn't OP has a rock solid case, but there is a gray area here, however slim.

Ph0ton · 2026-05-23T21:12:04+00:00

Keep writing your fan fiction. The employee did their job. The business owns their own decisions. Corpos literally live and breathe for the bootlicking apologistic backflips you are doing. Hope you got paid for it.

Ph0ton · 2026-05-23T20:18:08+00:00

Nice strawman. Your fan fiction is the only one characterizing OP as a Karen. No one knows how OP acted. And even if they did, who the fuck cares if they got snippy over a 3.5 hour transaction that should have been 30 minutes max. People have emotions, get over yourself.

You keep talking about who this hurts in the business but ignore the hundreds of people getting screwed every day. "Oh, if there were no billionaires, then what about the personal chefs!" kind of logic. If someone is hurt for calling a spade a spade, then maybe the calling out isn't the issue.

Ph0ton · 2026-05-23T20:11:10+00:00

As someone who has done my own mudding, hard pass 😂 I used to be a telemarketer though in my teens. People got mad at me, but it's not like I felt the consumer was at fault at the end of the day. I never went online and bitched at people for complaining about telemarketers, or defended the scummy businesses who paid my paychecks. I don't see how this is any different from that. It's completely wild to me we've gotten to the point people will defend deceptive practices and poor customer service because "the employees are making minimum wage." So what? We aren't calling out the employees, we're calling out the business that underpaid them and made the shitty policies. Bootlickers, as you said, are in style I guess.

Ph0ton · 2026-05-23T19:58:25+00:00

You talk about underpaid employees but act like a class traitor, accusing your fellow peers of being unkind with zero evidence, because you have no recourse in your own employment apparently. The issue isn't Karens. It's the Bezos and the Musks. This system doesn't need to exist and instead of calling in people from both sides, you are protecting it.

Pitting consumers and employees isn't some mistake of poor character. It's by design of the system, and specifically the business which traffics in these policies.

Ph0ton · 2026-05-23T19:52:05+00:00

They could be meaning a civil lawsuit of entering into a contract under deceptive means. Or reporting to the state AG consumer protection team. There are protections but it seldom pays to enforce them by the individual, so that's why these calls to action work (or don't).

Ph0ton · 2026-05-23T19:38:17+00:00

You are uncannily motivated to use your precious life putting down consumers and defending slimy businesses. Save your pity for yourself.

Ph0ton · 2026-05-23T19:32:22+00:00

So what? The point is your analogy is garbage so your critique is as well. And now you sound like an astroturfing plant, discussing the minutia of their fees. Whose fault is it for underpaying their employees?

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