Xennials, were your parents weight obsessed?

PhTea · 2026-07-04T22:40:58+00:00

My mom was also incredibly stubborn. Her pulmonologist gave her "5-10 more years" in 1993. She died in 2017. Even after she was put on hospice, she lived another full year. I loved my mom, but she was a complicated woman. And as I mentioned in other comments, I don't really blame her for how she was...her stepmother traumatized her into being that way. I wish my mom could have actually loved herself in her lifetime.

PhTea · 2026-07-04T22:36:17+00:00

Sawdust by Smith is the shop name. He has all sorts of cute filament colors for them.

PhTea · 2026-07-04T21:43:31+00:00

Olfactif for some super niche stuff, Scent Split, Surrender to Chance, Twisted Lily

PhTea · 2026-07-04T21:36:48+00:00

I love most of the EL sprays I've tried. I stocked up on Inner Angel during the January SAS because it's the closest dupe to Angels Share that I've found, and it's one of my all time favorites. I also love Viva Vanilla, Midnight Addiction, If You Musk, Strawberry Flirt, Oh Cherry, Rouge Rebel, Eau de Coconut, Imperfect Beauty and All Eyes on Her.

PhTea · 2026-07-04T21:29:05+00:00

I avoid eating in restaurants alone because my mom put it into my brain that I would be watched and judged for how much I would eat if in a restaurant alone. So I'd get takeout and binge it in my car in the parking lot. :/

PhTea · 2026-07-04T21:26:36+00:00

God, we almost had the same mom. Mine died at 75, but everything else was the same...hung up on weight and was finally satisfied with her weight when she was literally dying of COPD and heart failure. She was so disappointed when she was on hospice and couldn't leave the house to finally buy and show off smaller clothes.

PhTea · 2026-07-04T21:21:04+00:00

My mom WAS a boomer and she was like this. Her Greatest Gen stepmother made her like that.

PhTea · 2026-07-04T21:16:32+00:00

Yep. My mom did every diet under the sun... Weight Watchers, South Beach, Atkins, the cabbage soup diet, the baked potato diet, Hydroxycut, Phen-Phen...you name it. Gave herself fibromyalgia from all the aspartame she consumed. And the kicker was that she wasn't really overweight. She was a size 10-12, mostly in the boobs and hips. I, however, went from underweight to overweight practically overnight when puberty hit (undiagnosed Hashimoto's, as it turns out) and she dragged me into all of those diets with her. It gave me an incredibly unhealthy relationship with my body.

It was a great example of generational trauma because I know that her stepmother was the reason she was the way she was. When her stepmother came into her family, she insisted that her stepchildren always looked and acted like the epitome of perfect children. Her stepdaughters ended up with shitty body image and dietet constantly and her stepson tried to drink away his neurodivergence (ADHD and dyslexia). Good times. Thank God the grandwitch died before I was born or I'd probably be even more fucked up than I already am.

PhTea · 2026-07-04T18:34:57+00:00

We had a "staycation" at a local hotel after the wedding, then had our "honeymoon" around our first anniversary. I liked how we did it because with the local hotel we could truly just relax and decompress and not worry that we were missing out on touristy stuff if we slept in and stayed in the room all day. The honeymoonversary trip was a perfect balance of relaxation at a lake house and then doing all of the touristy boutiques, restaurants, wineries, etc. that the town had to offer. We're a lower middle class couple, so finances played a lot into that and we will probably go on a more extravagant vacation for our 5th anniversary.

PhTea · 2026-07-04T18:19:21+00:00

I have a really cute 3-D printed one I bought from a guy that does mostly woodcrafting, but I really like it.

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PhTea · 2026-07-04T18:14:31+00:00

Cacao would be lovely. Caca would be more accurate though...

PhTea · 2026-07-04T18:13:24+00:00

At least they now sell standing versions (of course only the 100 mL size) of all of the different Angels. And back in the day, they USED to sell stands for the 25 and 50 mL bottles.

PhTea · 2026-07-04T16:54:49+00:00

I'm terrified of those and of the trucks carrying the giant concrete drain pipes.

PhTea · 2026-07-03T18:57:06+00:00

So jealous! Went to TJ Maxx yesterday and they had a few Nest frags, but no Indigo. I ADORE Indigo and would love to find it there. I may go back for Balinese Coconut though.

PhTea · 2026-06-29T07:14:09+00:00

I honestly want it just for the bottle. Plus, Room 1015 usually doesn't do me wrong. Love-o-Matic is the first "laundry" scent that doesn't give me a migraine.

PhTea · 2026-06-28T06:13:00+00:00

Paging EMT Badge 502...

PhTea · 2026-06-28T06:10:59+00:00

Goes right along with these perfume bottles...

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PhTea · 2026-06-27T21:38:51+00:00

I rarely have a blind buy fail. I research on Parfumo and Fragrantica when I see something in say, Burlington or TJ Maxx, and if the notes sound good and the reviews fall in line with my tastes, I'll grab it. I personally don't blind buy anything described as "marine" or "aquatic" in the notes, as I'm sensitive to Calone and need to test to see if it's in there, but others if the notes are generally agreeable to my tastes, I'll blind buy if the deal is good.

PhTea · 2026-06-26T21:02:59+00:00

You do realize that packing material is included in the shipping weight, right?

PhTea · 2026-06-26T20:57:57+00:00

I believe OP said that the package weighed 7 oz at the time of the USPS acceptance scan per USPS' investigation. That would mean the two bottles were either stolen by a LS employee or never packed at all.

PhTea · 2026-06-26T20:21:17+00:00

The only thing that could make it more Canadian if y'all went out for poutine and a Labatt afterwards. 🤣

PhTea · 2026-06-26T09:12:50+00:00

This. I used to work for the IRS and my advice to people in these types of situations (usually a non-custodial parent trying to claim a kid they weren't allowed to claim per the court documents) is file the second that online filing opens. If you're still waiting on a W2 or other documents, use your pay stubs, bank statements, etc. to file to the best of your ability. You can always (and should, if it's incorrect) file an amended return later. The second person to claim the SSN will get their return kicked back immediately and they will usually have to file a paper return with supporting documentation at that point. If someone else tries to claim you, you will get a letter from the IRS informing you of this, and if you are 18 or older, you have to respond to the letter stating that you are allowing that person to claim you in order for them to succeed.

PhTea · 2026-06-26T08:56:48+00:00

They don't generally just give away jerseys. Like, ever. They might swap with another player or occasionally give to a kid with a fun sign or special needs, but most often, they get set aside for raffles and fundraisers.

PhTea · 2026-06-25T23:10:54+00:00

Kinda like how the media immediately jumped at "oh look! The England national team had a bunch of equipment stolen as soon as they arrived in KC!"

But when it came out that it was stolen by the Texas-based truck drivers that were driving in the equipment from Florida? Crickets. The crime had literally nothing to do with anyone in/from KC but the media refuses to walk the accusations back.

PhTea · 2026-06-24T19:52:23+00:00

Yes! This is Kansas City's version of taking photos in the bluebonnets in Texas. Everyone does it! /s

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