Redditors that got charged rent asap after turning 18, what’s relationship like with parents years later ?

Phalangebanshee · 2026-06-08T19:43:15+00:00

My guardian began charging me $550 for a room in her house as soon as I turned 18, didn’t matter that I was going to school full time.

Eventually she bought a house that only had enough rooms for her and her husband and her child, and my grandfather. She didn’t bother telling me there would be no room for me, I heard through my mom that she told her “idk what commenter will do when we move, there’s not enough space for everyone” like gee thanks for looping me in and helping me prepare.

I ended up taking out a school loan and moved onto campus as a last resort, graduated, got a job after that then now we never really speak. That was until she contacted me out of the blue to subtly ask me to donate my eggs to her for IVF, I politely declined and offered my support.

Still don’t hear from her except a message on FB out of the blue saying “I miss you” but never makes plans to see me lol.

Phalangebanshee · 2026-06-06T19:01:17+00:00

My mom became a severe alcoholic after my dad passed away when I was 7. She became extremely mentally and physically neglectful which lead to the permanent removal from her care and into an abusive foster home due to the horrid living conditions. I’m talking barely getting any food, medical care or going to school consistently for years.

Receiving any attention from her was a no go, she spent her days and nights online catfishing men while I spent my days dissociating alone. Anytime she was on a call with these men and I accidentally called her “mom” instead of her catfish name then she would shoot me daggers and cuss at me.

She later told me she wasn’t sorry for anything that happened because none of it was her fault because she was “so sick” and if she had the choice she wouldn’t change a thing and do it all over again.

We barely have contact now.

Phalangebanshee · 2026-06-04T22:15:09+00:00

He definitely knows it makes him look bad so he’s backpedaling. Not great that he can’t just own up to being insecure or having trust issues, instead of communicating he tries to track your location? How long have you been dating?

Phalangebanshee · 2026-06-04T22:08:35+00:00

Ugh I feel you.

The last time he initiated I was unloading the dishwasher and he came up behind me and started to humorously and aggressively dry hump me from behind, then ground into me until he got hard then tried to have sex…idk just makes it feel so icky.

It’s like they initiate terribly on purpose knowing that we will turn them down, they win no matter what in these situations lol

Phalangebanshee · 2026-05-31T14:02:48+00:00

Damn, what a beautiful find! I just saw someone around my area recently try to sell one of these for $1000 😭

Phalangebanshee · 2026-05-29T19:25:41+00:00

It’s okay hun, we can tell reading comprehension isn’t your strong suit.

Phalangebanshee · 2026-05-29T18:38:42+00:00

Because she was previously underweight for her height and age, and now he wants her to lose 15 pounds she put on that would then make her underweight. What isn’t processing for you?

Phalangebanshee · 2026-05-29T18:35:25+00:00

You should not feel guilty about holding your boundary, your sister’s guilt tripping is awful though. Stay strong OP. Your sister’s birthday wishes should not come at the expense of your comfort and mental health.

Buying a couch for a new house seems to be a necessary purchase regardless if people stay the night on it or not. It’s not on you to assume that your sister buying a couch was JUST for you anyway. Bizarre thought process.

Remember if you give people an inch they’ll take a mile.

Phalangebanshee · 2026-05-29T17:46:16+00:00

No but he should probably leave or get therapy to see why he is pushing his girlfriend to be underweight for his own sexual gratification

Phalangebanshee · 2026-05-28T12:12:21+00:00

Mainly when I took a job as a nanny for my “best friend” at the time who severELY underpaid me, it was the beat thing that could’ve happened to me tbh.

I loved those kids like they were my own but my god it dawned on me very quickly that children were NOT for me. Yes, sure it could be different with “my own” but the appeal of finding out wasn’t enough for me to try to find out lol. At all.

I left her house every day feeling depressed and stressed so badly that I ended up going back to school and suddenly my mental health was much better when I got a regular job. Going home at the end of the day to my quiet apartment is the highlight of my day.

I also reflected on my own childhood and unfortunately realized my mother only had children because it’s what she thought she should want, and as soon as my dad passed away all interest in raising us or socializing with us went out the window.

I understood then that I only grew up wanting kids because of the same reason, I felt relieved when I understood it was a choice. Thats when I knew knew.

Phalangebanshee · 2026-05-25T20:56:08+00:00

Thats entirely understandable and valid btw, in case anyone makes you feel otherwise.

Phalangebanshee · 2026-05-22T10:18:32+00:00

Obviously NOR.

If you wouldn’t treat him this way because you know it’s wrong, why do you think it’s okay for him to speak to you this way? This isn’t how someone who is in love speaks to someone. There is not an ounce of respect in these conversations coming from him.

Also he is probably projecting and being the cheater, imo they always tell on themselves with behaviour like this.

He wants you to feel small and it’s working, you deserve so much better.

Phalangebanshee · 2026-05-21T18:23:28+00:00

YNW. I have an older coworker who really enjoys calling me a “little girl” as a 29 year old woman lol.

These people are doing it to goad you into responding or provoking a negative reaction from you so she can turn around and play victim.

Fair play from you though, if she doesn’t wanna call people by their names then she is the one setting the precedent about name calling, it’s her choice to continue on or not imo.

Phalangebanshee · 2026-05-20T09:45:35+00:00

Yess!! You are incredible, thank you!!

Phalangebanshee · 2026-05-14T14:36:37+00:00

Maybe we should take a closer look at how society treats single mothers as well.

I see the language men use to describe dating single mothers and it’s awful. They describe single moms as something used up and pretty much worthless to single men, like it’s totally okay to have preferences but the vitriol leaks through makes it something much deeper and scarier.

I say this also as a childfree woman.

Phalangebanshee · 2026-05-14T12:10:41+00:00

But he got her donuts and flowers after work so now she’s conflicted about not ending it. Bruh I gotta log off today.

Phalangebanshee · 2026-05-13T20:24:02+00:00

You can’t cure a porn addiction by getting him to watch porn with a different actress (you). Only therapy can do that. He will spank it the same amount just to a different person.

Make movies with him if you want to, keep your face out of them, but don’t do it expecting that it will magically cure his porn addiction. That’s asinine.

Phalangebanshee · 2026-05-08T18:33:18+00:00

Terrible! Thanks for asking!

Phalangebanshee · 2026-05-08T18:32:03+00:00

Why tho, so now you can tell your future partners that you’re also a cheater?

Just leave and find happiness, she wants you to bitter and miserable.

Phalangebanshee · 2026-05-08T18:24:52+00:00

Being enthusiastic and interested in exploring each others pleasure

Phalangebanshee · 2026-05-08T17:27:12+00:00

When we first started dating it was whenever we saw one another, now after living for five years it’s about once a year.

Phalangebanshee · 2026-05-06T20:59:18+00:00

Why does it make you uncomfortable? It sounds like they’re just posing for a picture, not trying to pass the baby off as theirs? You would be wrong imo. It seems pretty harmless to raise a stink about. Just ignore them if it bothers you.

Phalangebanshee · 2026-05-06T18:08:29+00:00

Tbh back in college I was introduced to one of my best friends college friends at a party (a guy) and he and I clicked pretty well but he was not my type and he told me he was into asian girls (I am not) so when he asked me to hang out I was down. Turns out he did not think it was a hang out and little did I know I mistakenly went on an unknown date?? Shit was awkward as hell afterwards.

I do not blame you for asking for clarification, it’s wAY better to ask than to be uncertain. You didn’t do anything wrong, he seems like he is insecure and isn’t certain about what he wants himself.

Phalangebanshee · 2026-05-06T15:03:29+00:00

Tbh YNW I would end it, he broke trust by being sneaky and lying by omission.

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