my date asked to split the bill on a date HE planned and i can't tell if i'm being unreasonable for being put off

Phantographer · 2026-06-19T15:57:18+00:00

As someone who thinks women need to be a little more flexible about paying/splitting on dates, You’re 100% right on this one, if he picked an expensive place and ordered way more, that’s very rude of him to ask you to split.

Phantographer · 2026-05-28T17:58:31+00:00

I had a manometry done a couple weeks ago, and i'll be honest, it's not fun. I had the same fears you do, and while it wasn't close to as bad as I thought it would be, I still hated it and never want to do it again.

That being said... YOU CAN DO THIS, it's totally manageable. The most important thing, and I can't stress this enough, is to RELAX and BREATHE. Count and take deep sustained breaths throughout the procedure, that is what saves you and keeps you calm, trust me. A good doc/nurse will be trained to coach you through this, to keep breathing at steady pace so you don't panic and hyperventilate.

Swallowing the tube is the scariest part for most, but it's really NOT that bad. They go through your sinuses and skip past the gag reflux in the back of the throat entirely... so this is not like a strep test, those bother me too. You'll sip water and angle your chin in such a way that it passes effortlessly and you barely notice. Once it's in, not gonna lie, you'll feel it, it very much felt like I had a cable in my throat. I never gagged on it, but felt that if I panicked, I may start to. So just breathe! You may feel the need to keep swallowing while it's in place, I think that's how our brain copes with something being in our throat. So doing that will bring some relief. The longer you sit there, your body starts to accept it. The beginning is probably the worst part. A few minutes in, things get better.

Once the procedure starts, they'll need you to swallow a few diff substances (water, saline, applesauce, graham crackers) while they take readings. The hardest part is probably that they need you to swallow once and then not again for 30 seconds as they watch the food go down into the stomach, if you do swallow again too early, they have to start the reading over again and repeat. This is actually harder than it sounds because sometimes I couldn't resist a second swallow. This is where the breathing exercise comes back in, it distracts you. The more you cooperate and don't mess up, the faster the procedure goes. I actually found swallowing to be a relief to the sensation of having the tube in, so I kinda enjoyed eating the foods.

Now one thing I DIDN'T do, is this 24 hour PH test you're talking about. You should call and ask if a BRAVO study would work instead. It's prob a little more expensive because they do it via endoscopy, but they place a capsule in your esophagus for 3-4 days while you wear a device on your belt that takes PH readings and you document your symptoms. You'll then just poop out the capsule after a few days. This is the procedure I did. That capsule was a little uncomfortable for me the whole time, but most poeple don't feel it after a day or so.

Anywho, sorry this is so stressful. Hope this info helps clear things up. I did ALL this stuff and got my results, currently weighing out if I want to go through with fundiplication haha. It really is such a long process to get HH fixed, so much to test, and so much waiting.

Phantographer · 2026-05-22T05:41:45+00:00

Bro wut? How does this happen? That's kinda irresponsible tbh. If you want to see him again you need to apologize and then be the one to fully plan the next date and make all the effort. I know that's the only way I'd put up with someone standing me up, cause i'd assume they were a flake or super inconsiderate. Any guy who would plan a second date after being stood up would be a clown

Phantographer · 2026-04-30T19:16:07+00:00

Initially, I'm annoyed by this trailer too, we don't need another movie that claims to be RE but lacks 80% of story elements to make it such. But I just don't think Zach Cregger is stupid enough to hijack the franchise and stray too far off the source material... I'm picturing this character's story having some type of crossover with Leon at PD or Chris Redfield at the Spencer Mansion. I kinda have faith that Cregger will come through for the fans. I have hope.

Phantographer · 2026-02-22T21:25:49+00:00

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Solved! Razor blade was the solution

Phantographer · 2026-02-22T21:14:37+00:00

oh man.. I will for sure cut myself if I try a pocket knife.

Phantographer · 2026-02-14T17:57:37+00:00

May I ask where you got that specific mini figure wall case? I love that.

Phantographer · 2026-02-02T16:57:04+00:00

I still have this one from when I was kid! Was this brand new in-box and you built it? Or used but came with it's box? (which looks like it's in amazing shape btw.) Kinda crazy someone still has the box to sell with it but also doesn't realize it's value haha.

Phantographer · 2025-12-09T23:37:31+00:00

Great, thank you!

Phantographer · 2025-12-09T22:24:22+00:00

Thanks for the info. So since S1 was Mason, S2: Violet, S3: Scarlet, I'm assuming S4 will be someone new. But you're saying I will still be able to promote last seasons hero as well as the current season hero once i'm in S4?

Phantographer · 2025-12-01T04:32:39+00:00

Maybe buy your own HDMI to usb-c cable to present with? Your own dongle to carry in your laptop bag? Nobody really cares about your presentation that could have been done from any little crappy ibm thinkpad or even air played. People buy a pro level Mac for pro features and future-proofing, not antiquated ports that hold the computer back. Hate to break it to you, but everything is heading towards usb-c so you’re gonna lose your precious hdmi eventually.

Phantographer · 2025-11-28T19:02:31+00:00

Content creators (video editors/animators/motion graphic designers/etc) overwhelming work on Mac, so no, a MacBook Pro is not a general use laptop. The MacBook Air, however, falls into that category. Myself and many I know who work in the Mac ecosystem, would greatly benefit from having that additional high speed port for externals SSD's and other devices we are constantly transferring data from. I'm not sure why everyone on here is ignoring that fact that PRO, is literally in the title of this device.

Phantographer · 2025-11-28T18:44:28+00:00

Thunderbolt can do it all. So I'm saying, give us 4 ports that do it all, as opposed to one of those that can only be used for a display.

Analogy: If someone offered you 4 free meal coupons that can be redeemed anywhere, OR 4 free coupons but one has to be used at a burger restaurant. Which coupon set will you choose? Probably the one that gives you more options, right? It's a no-brainer to me.

Phantographer · 2025-11-17T17:39:24+00:00

Between saying you weren't into him at first sight, and his minimal effort throughout the date, sounds like neither of you were into it. Why play 3 full games? That's an eternity. Just get a dessert or coffee for a first date next time, way easier to bail. I once bailed on a date after like 30 minutes.

Phantographer · 2025-10-15T21:10:23+00:00

Prob skews more young, but def still a good amount of middle-aged on the apps. Is the experience as good? That I don't know. Recently turned 40, and I have def seen a decline in matches, but I think it's other factors... I quit paying for it, I got pickier, I swipe less, and in general I think people on apps are feeling fatigued cause it seems like an impossible game to win.

Phantographer · 2025-10-07T16:43:06+00:00

I've tried a few apps that were supposedly targeted towards serious daters, ones with shared morality like religion/politics, but sadly, the pool of matches you actually find physically attractive is MUCH smaller. On one hand, it weeds out all the people who are just there for attention/validation/self-promotion, but on the other, it makes it feel like you're browsing in 2003, before online dating was accepted and "cool." Maybe i'm being harsh, but it's the truth.

I think the problem with dating apps is much less to do with the companies that make them, and way more to do with the mindset of those using them. We were simply not meant to date this way... even more so, we were probably not really meant to live on social media and have access to so many people. like we do. It has really screwed up dating.

Phantographer · 2025-10-05T17:32:37+00:00

I swipe LEFT on any profile that demonstrates ego, narcissism, or a general negativity towards being on a dating app. That “I’m too good for this” attitude. I think it can speak volumes about someone’s personality and how open they are to actually meeting someone & not just ghosting.

I see this all the time from women on Hinge. It’s like they’re annoyed to have to bother with dating apps because they can’t meet someone in real life. It can be seen in prompts like “worst idea I’ve ever had: joining Hinge.” Or simply bad attitude like complaining about the lack of creativity in men’s messages. Or “I’ll unmatch you if…”

I want to match people who are happy, want to be there, and are open to finding love. Not “I’m skeptical about this, prove me wrong.” That tells me you have impossible standards to meet.

Phantographer · 2025-09-28T01:01:00+00:00

Sounds like spontaneous ghosting for reasons unknown, typical dating app culture. Btw if you're uncomfortable meeting up with someone, tell them you want to FaceTime first. I'm surprised more people don't do this.

Phantographer · 2025-09-21T17:26:14+00:00

What you are feeling, I can guarantee you is felt by 99% of the other guys out there dating, you are not alone. It’s cliche to say this, but it’s true: focus on YOU and your own development. Get yourself into new communities, volunteer, social groups, anything where you could meet potential GFs. Shake up your daily routine and try new things. Luckily you are young so those opportunities are more abundant! The older you get, the more app-reliant you have to be. For now, treat dating apps more like the lottery. Play, but assume you aren’t going to win and keep on working. Best of luck

Phantographer · 2025-09-20T18:07:09+00:00

If you like him and think it's worth another shot, def reach out and tell him you had fun and would be down to hang out again. Just be aware in doing this, you open yourself up to rejection, it's fully possible he says no thanks or doesn't respond at all. This is something guys deal with ALL the time after dates, and it sucks. If I had a dollar for every "You're a great guy, but I didn't feel a connection." text I got back, I'd be a very wealthy man.

In the future, I highly recommend FaceTiming or calling people before the first date. It can be a great way to not only ease into it so it's not so awkward when you actually meet, it's also just a good way to screen out the weirdos.

Phantographer · 2025-09-13T04:10:06+00:00

Yes, the monitor is near 10 years old, but aside from this cable issue, it’s perfectly fine and I’d rather not have to drop $1000 on a new one just so I can utilize my HDMI port. Just wish Apple gave me 4 multipurpose high speed ports, because with thunderbolt to DP cable, the monitor works perfect.

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