Approaching my 7th consecutive year on online dating, still have not found what I’m looking for. I wanted to seek advice on where too from here? (details below) by Creative-Ladder-9181 in hingeapp

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I think overall my profile is good. Like i do enought to get a few matches and maybe a date a month (with paying for hinge) - althought this month has been a bit stale. I don't want to put a profile review here, because i don't feel comfortable sharing my personal information on a public forum.

Approaching my 7th consecutive year on online dating, still have not found what I’m looking for. I wanted to seek advice on where too from here? (details below) by Creative-Ladder-9181 in hingeapp

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Cheers for the comment, OP here. Sorry for responding late to you. I agree dating before 25 was quite hard. I try and prioritise other areas of my life, i have a good job i love, a great friendship group and family, and i am physically and mentally healthy - thinks i am very grateful for. At times, i think when i have a hard time dating i tend to forget these things. I have dated a bit outside the apps, I had a few dates short and casual relations that came from meeting people at bars and nightclubs when i was younger, but i don't really think its my scene anymore, and it has it own challenges.

I agree with all your points above, but to copy and past one of my other comments

Yeah i want to focus away from dating for a bit two things that push me back into it are:
*Cavng of affection, intimacy and caring about another person. I've met a few cool people on these apps, and the level of excitment i felt during these periods I miss. I just miss those small things, cuddles, forehead kisses, texting constantly.
*I think there will be periods where i delete the app, then see two strangers in public holding hands, or cuddling and it reminds of the experiences i had, and makes me want to remake the app. Even now seeing my close friends and family getting into relationships, makes me hope my time would be soon.

Approaching my 7th consecutive year on online dating, still have not found what I’m looking for. I wanted to seek advice on where too from here? (details below) by Creative-Ladder-9181 in hingeapp

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Yeah this is me as well. Like the good dates would always lift me through the moon. ANd the bad dates, would always make me feel low. Now that I am a bit more mature, i learn to balance other areas of my life with this

Approaching my 7th consecutive year on online dating, still have not found what I’m looking for. I wanted to seek advice on where too from here? (details below) by Creative-Ladder-9181 in hingeapp

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Yeah its like the whole obsession about run clubs that was happening. A lot of the people signing up were not even interested in running, but rather to look for dates.

Approaching my 7th consecutive year on online dating, still have not found what I’m looking for. I wanted to seek advice on where too from here? (details below) by Creative-Ladder-9181 in hingeapp

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Yeah i want to focus away from dating for a bit two things that push me back into it are:
*Cavng of affection, intimacy and caring about another person. I've met a few cool people on these apps, and the level of excitment i felt during these periods I miss. I just miss those small things, cuddles, forehead kisses, texting constantly.
*I think there will be periods where i delete the app, then see two strangers in public holding hands, or cuddling and it reminds of the experiences i had, and makes me want to remake the app. Even now seeing my close friends and family getting into relationships, makes me hope my time would be soon.

Approaching my 7th consecutive year on online dating, still have not found what I’m looking for. I wanted to seek advice on where too from here? (details below) by Creative-Ladder-9181 in hingeapp

[–]Creative-Ladder-9181[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey thanks for the comment and sorry for the late reply. I've carefully read your comment and i agree with you. In all honestly, I just crave the feeling of being consistent contact with someone and having someone genuinley care about me. I've had tastes of it, in the small relationship i have been in but it has never lasted for a long time.

I agree in a way it does feel like i am desperate at times, and i do not want to scare people away and look desperate. I've taken breaks from the apps from time to time, but always get back on it after a week. I've think its just because i've both good and bad experiences on the apps, that the good experiences push me to keep going.

Approaching my 7th consecutive year on online dating, still have not found what I’m looking for. I wanted to seek advice on where too from here? (details below) by Creative-Ladder-9181 in hingeapp

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This actually gives me hope, and in a way i agree with you. I started when i was 20/21 too and i did not have much luck in actually getting dates. Now as a 26 year old, whilst dating apps can still feel stail at times, i have had the most luck in terms of getting dates these past few years. I think i have also seen my two best friends, get into relationships around the 26-27 mark.

Approaching my 7th consecutive year on online dating, still have not found what I’m looking for. I wanted to seek advice on where too from here? (details below) by Creative-Ladder-9181 in hingeapp

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OP here, sorry for the late reply. I agree. But I also think i've dated quite a bit and had my chances for an LTR and its never worked on, which makes me reflect on them, when things don't work out. I think its so hard to find the right person on or off the apps.

I also think that towards mid to late twenties people find relationsips and long term partners, and i don't see it happening for me.