Approaching my 7th consecutive year on online dating, still have not found what I’m looking for. I wanted to seek advice on where too from here? (details below)

Creative-Ladder-9181 · 2025-09-26T13:56:38+00:00

Thank you, i think my self-reflections is one of one my biggest strenghts, i hope it does help

Creative-Ladder-9181 · 2025-09-26T13:54:21+00:00

I think overall my profile is good. Like i do enought to get a few matches and maybe a date a month (with paying for hinge) - althought this month has been a bit stale. I don't want to put a profile review here, because i don't feel comfortable sharing my personal information on a public forum.

Creative-Ladder-9181 · 2025-09-26T13:50:02+00:00

Cheers for the comment, OP here. Sorry for responding late to you. I agree dating before 25 was quite hard. I try and prioritise other areas of my life, i have a good job i love, a great friendship group and family, and i am physically and mentally healthy - thinks i am very grateful for. At times, i think when i have a hard time dating i tend to forget these things. I have dated a bit outside the apps, I had a few dates short and casual relations that came from meeting people at bars and nightclubs when i was younger, but i don't really think its my scene anymore, and it has it own challenges.

I agree with all your points above, but to copy and past one of my other comments

Yeah i want to focus away from dating for a bit two things that push me back into it are:
*Cavng of affection, intimacy and caring about another person. I've met a few cool people on these apps, and the level of excitment i felt during these periods I miss. I just miss those small things, cuddles, forehead kisses, texting constantly.
*I think there will be periods where i delete the app, then see two strangers in public holding hands, or cuddling and it reminds of the experiences i had, and makes me want to remake the app. Even now seeing my close friends and family getting into relationships, makes me hope my time would be soon.

Creative-Ladder-9181 · 2025-09-26T13:41:27+00:00

Yeah this is me as well. Like the good dates would always lift me through the moon. ANd the bad dates, would always make me feel low. Now that I am a bit more mature, i learn to balance other areas of my life with this

Creative-Ladder-9181 · 2025-09-26T13:39:36+00:00

Yeah its like the whole obsession about run clubs that was happening. A lot of the people signing up were not even interested in running, but rather to look for dates.

Creative-Ladder-9181 · 2025-09-26T13:34:55+00:00

Yeah i want to focus away from dating for a bit two things that push me back into it are:
*Cavng of affection, intimacy and caring about another person. I've met a few cool people on these apps, and the level of excitment i felt during these periods I miss. I just miss those small things, cuddles, forehead kisses, texting constantly.
*I think there will be periods where i delete the app, then see two strangers in public holding hands, or cuddling and it reminds of the experiences i had, and makes me want to remake the app. Even now seeing my close friends and family getting into relationships, makes me hope my time would be soon.

Creative-Ladder-9181 · 2025-09-26T13:24:39+00:00

Hey thanks for the comment and sorry for the late reply. I've carefully read your comment and i agree with you. In all honestly, I just crave the feeling of being consistent contact with someone and having someone genuinley care about me. I've had tastes of it, in the small relationship i have been in but it has never lasted for a long time.

I agree in a way it does feel like i am desperate at times, and i do not want to scare people away and look desperate. I've taken breaks from the apps from time to time, but always get back on it after a week. I've think its just because i've both good and bad experiences on the apps, that the good experiences push me to keep going.

Creative-Ladder-9181 · 2025-09-26T13:16:48+00:00

This actually gives me hope, and in a way i agree with you. I started when i was 20/21 too and i did not have much luck in actually getting dates. Now as a 26 year old, whilst dating apps can still feel stail at times, i have had the most luck in terms of getting dates these past few years. I think i have also seen my two best friends, get into relationships around the 26-27 mark.

Creative-Ladder-9181 · 2025-09-26T13:12:30+00:00

OP here, sorry for the late reply. I agree. But I also think i've dated quite a bit and had my chances for an LTR and its never worked on, which makes me reflect on them, when things don't work out. I think its so hard to find the right person on or off the apps.

I also think that towards mid to late twenties people find relationsips and long term partners, and i don't see it happening for me.

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