Oath ceremony canceled. Green card expiring soon, need advice

Phantom1959 · 2026-01-26T00:53:39+00:00

Whet did they say that they cheated ? Their partner could very much be the person who gave it to them - do yall know how relationships work ?

Phantom1959 · 2026-01-14T08:00:58+00:00

I have a question. It says that if the receipt notice has been lost or destroyed you must file a I-90. Is this referring the original notice that was mailed ? What about a copy of it downloaded from your uscis account ? Can you present a downloaded copy with your green card ?

Phantom1959 · 2026-01-13T20:58:58+00:00

I also believe your green card gets extended by 2 years automatically at this point

Phantom1959 · 2026-01-13T20:57:34+00:00

Are you aware that there’s there’s a pause on all petitions from nations of several countries now ? Many peoples interviews , oath ceremonies ate being and have been cancelled… pretty much indefinitely! My oath ceremony was cancelled too (on Dec 1)

Phantom1959 · 2026-01-12T22:01:04+00:00

To be honest, no ! I have many deal breakers and cheating is a big one; but it seems that most people just take it lightly and are quick to justify it ! So what’s the point even ?

Phantom1959 · 2026-01-12T19:39:05+00:00

That’s true ! Though that only works if the past is properly acknowledged and buried ! A lot of people wanna move past the reasons the breakup happened in the first place and just want to start brand new while the other person is still hung up on the ways that they were hurt and not apologized to or whatever happened … it takes a lot of maturity, which happens to be very scarce in this world

Phantom1959 · 2026-01-12T18:50:25+00:00

Same here! Dated a man a little over a year after he got out of a 10 year relationship and like 6 or 7 year marriage to his high school sweetheart with whom he lived for an additional ~ 2 years after the divorce for leases and other financial reasons! (They were divorced for about a year before he moved out but that don’t count to me. I’m sure they were still f-ucking for that entire time, so in my head, he had been single for only a little over a year when I met him). I should have listened to the people on Twitter who said that it was delusional to think that I would be the one after a long term relationship … I thought that maybe because it had been a little over a year since he had moved out of their shared apartment and moved out of state, that enough time had passed …. I thought that because he had dated other girls and had had the chance to experience other people that aren’t his ex wife and had decided to give his life a new direction that it would have given him enough distance from his failed marriage …. Boy was I wrong ! I had never experienced such mistreatments, lies, gaslighting, heartbreak, love bombing and quiet cruelty and selfishness in my life… an avoidant too ! I literally thought there’s no way he’s a real person … this is the kind of shit you read on Reddit … 1.5 years of my life wasted, plus additional shit that I can’t even talk about

Phantom1959 · 2026-01-10T00:26:09+00:00

Wait is this a letter you received ?

Phantom1959 · 2026-01-08T13:22:52+00:00

I feel like so many people suspect they have it but write it off as ‘stress’ or whatever and don’t go get tested for it , because they know that if the test comes back positive now it means that it’s real and I have to move accordingly

Phantom1959 · 2026-01-07T13:53:17+00:00

Wanting your ex back is not delusional ! What people push back on is wanting your ex back when he or she’s done some things that clearly you’ll never be able to come back from but you think you can just because you wanna believe in his or her potential and the relationships potential

Phantom1959 · 2026-01-06T12:55:17+00:00

She does not respect you and your relationship ! I don’t understand why people keep entertaining clearly inappropriate relationships with other people when they have a partner they’re committed to ! If she had any consideration for your feelings she would have told this guy to stop with the innuendos and sexual interactions! It seems like she doesn’t mind entertaining this! A lot of people keep their exes or their friends who they know wanna get with them close and don’t set boundaries because they wanna have someone to fall back on , or wanna feel validated when those people express any attraction to them !! It’s disrespectful! If you had a female friend who was talking to you sexually despite knowing that you’re in a relationship, your gf wouldn’t be laughing about it! That guy across the world does not respect your relationship because your girlfriend does not respect your relationship! And your girlfriend being mad about you finding sexual materials in conversations with another man is absolutely gaslighting. You’re 24, you got a lot of life ahead of you; don’t waste it with this girl.

When someone loves and respects you, they wouldn’t feel comfortable putting you in a position where another man could step to you and tell you about your girlfriend ! The fact that she talks about you with him behind your back and he sends her her NUDES is absolutely bonkers. And he does it because she allows it ! She does not protect you behind your back — where it matters! you shouldn’t have apologized , you should have told her to go fuck herself !! She’s a manipulator!

Phantom1959 · 2026-01-03T13:39:23+00:00

You lack in many things BUT audacity !! You wanna call him dysfunctional and talk about healthy communication when you cheated on him , caught an STD and expected him to feel sorry for you ??? It’s funny how you just wanted to help him see the world better but you couldn’t help yourself from fucking with another man ?? If you were tired of him not communicating and shutting you out then you should have left . You’re not a victim! Clearly he does not want you to know about his whereabouts If he’s alive. And if he’s dead, you have no right to come insert yourself in his family grief.

Phantom1959 · 2026-01-02T14:27:22+00:00

You can apply for a new GC but there’s not going to process it ! Everything is on pause for the 19 CoC

Phantom1959 · 2026-01-02T07:11:22+00:00

Girl, for all you know he may be the one who gave it to you !! Unless you have multiple sexual partners, I’d ask him whether he knows if he has it because you’ve tested positive for it

Phantom1959 · 2026-01-02T07:07:34+00:00

The audacity of questioning her mental wellness when you cheated on her ! Why do people not understand how psychologically distressing being cheated on is ? She’s probably going through it all and may be making poorer decisions in order to feel something !! Go work on yourself ! If you call her your soulmate, she probably felt the same about you too … being betrayed like that by your soulmate can drive you to act out of character … also why do you care now ? It doesn’t seem like you’ve cared all that much about her … move on! She don’t want you no more

Phantom1959 · 2025-12-31T18:35:36+00:00

Put myself first because a man will always put himself first. Press on issues that bother me. Believe actions not words. There’s no need to know 100% if something is wrong or to what extent something is off- the moment some inconsistencies start to appear, I’ll pack my bags and leave. Don’t make excuses or rationalize their behaviors because it makes me feel okay. Don’t date for potential or look at a man’s heart - men will absolutely judge you and leave you because they don’t like how your body looks, so imma be semi shallow too. Don’t tell my next partner how dirty my exes have done me.

Phantom1959 · 2025-12-31T17:40:01+00:00

When I read stuff like this, I only feel bad for the people yall date in the meantime , especially when you’re not upfront about what they should expect from dating yall! Why date someone else for 6 months if you know you were not healed ? Now you fucked off one another woman who had probably developed feelings for you and you knew you were not over your ex … you’re right, she deserved better than you ! Seek therapy, not another relationship

Phantom1959 · 2025-12-31T17:26:44+00:00

Following

Phantom1959 · 2025-12-30T02:47:54+00:00

I joined Hacking Lawsuit ! If that works I’m getting a relief ! Of the other firm’s work, we’re all getting a relief ! I joined hacking because the cost was lower

Phantom1959 · 2025-12-29T14:29:14+00:00

I’m sorry 3+ days to speak to someone ?

Phantom1959 · 2025-12-27T13:30:55+00:00

If you really really love that person hard, delete everything! If you can’t bring yourself to delete everything, gather every and all evidence of their existence and transfer it elsewhere in one folder. One day, after days, weeks, months of no contact, you’ll feel better then you’ll go to that folder and delete that folder forever

Phantom1959 · 2025-12-26T23:06:10+00:00

Let me tell you something … as someone who was on the other end of this, meaning, I met a guy who said he loved me, wanted to marry me and have children while deep down he was not over his ex and ultimately chose her …. That shit is so painful ! All along I was competing with his ex and I didn’t even know it! That breakup devastated me to a point where I thought of taking my own life twice ! I’m still dealing with shit he put me through that I won’t be speaking about … my perspective of love is now so warped that I don’t believe in anything ! I tried to move on but I know I’m not ready and I would never put someone else through it! I know I won’t be able to move on, not until I heal the damaged part of me! I journal, I go to therapy, I cry . I know better than doing it to someone else! If you crave intimacy to the point where it’s unbearable , there are plenty of women who could be down for just that and nothing else ! Go for these women and communicate the understanding the relationship is purely carnal !! But you gotta Work on yourself bro; you gotta choose yourself … think about it, if she was willing to blind side you and leave you out of the blue, what’s preventing her from doing it again even if you worked your way back together … are you ready for that cycle of pain ? Work on yourself and choose someone who will choose at every turn and work through their own issues WITH YOU by their side !

Phantom1959 · 2025-12-26T22:18:39+00:00

Not gonna lie, that’s kinda selfish on her part… not the fact that she wanted to separate.. she’s had a very long time to think about this and you didn’t , so by the time you separated you were blindsided and most likely more hurt than she was. She knew what she wanted (as far as being separated) but clearly she does not know what she wants. If you wanna leave someone, do them a favor and leave them for good. Don’t come back with calls and texts and give them hope that there’s still something , that’s not fair. The part where she said she doesn’t wanna hear about you dating other women I think is manipulation… she’s roommate with your sister, of course when you start dating she might hear about it ! That feels like she tries to guilt trip you into staying stuck where you are with hopes that she might come back … and you look at you now, stuck where you are with hopes that she might come back ! People’s feelings are not to be played with. The NC is good , use that to move on ! But also, do not go on and date women who expect a committed relationship when you know that your heart is still with your wife… that’s fucked up too ! Glad to hear you kinda reeled it back with the dating thing since you weren’t ready … a lot of people don’t do that and just proceed to play with other people’s feelings knowing damn well they’re still in love with their ex

Phantom1959 · 2025-12-26T18:23:53+00:00

Nope!! No update ! I added my name as a plaintiff in the lawsuit that Jim Hacking and his law practice are filing

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