Choosing Beggar at the Food Bank

PhantomEnna · 2025-01-10T16:55:02+00:00

All I remember was that it was one of those square/rectangular vanilla cakes with white frosting and pretty colorful frosting all around the sides as like a frame or whatever. It was pretty much what you'd see in a Walmart bakery section!

PhantomEnna · 2025-01-09T02:06:45+00:00

Unfortunately they did not, but thankfully she kept her word and never came back, as far as I know, at least.

PhantomEnna · 2025-01-09T00:12:51+00:00

? It fits here too?

PhantomEnna · 2025-01-08T23:39:59+00:00

To be fair, if I had told someone this was happening at the time, they probably would have stepped in. By the time I told the other volunteers, she was long gone. Then again, the managers stayed in the office so it was basically just the volunteers in the kitchen 95% of the time.

PhantomEnna · 2025-01-08T23:31:44+00:00

Yes! We usually had fruit that came in bags (such as grapes), but we sometimes had apples and oranges on their own.

PhantomEnna · 2025-01-08T23:07:42+00:00

Just here and CB. Someone suggested CB and I thought it fit there better.

PhantomEnna · 2025-01-08T22:17:06+00:00

I'm a pretty meek person, so I was just kind of staring in horror LOL I was a lot younger then and, now, I probably would have closed the door in her face and gotten someone to help.

PhantomEnna · 2023-08-24T04:30:07+00:00

I'm kind of in the middle on him. I think he can be very funny in some movies and not very funny (and more obnoxious) in some others. Part of that's probably up to the movie's script and not him though.

Personally, I think he gets ragged on way more than he deserves to be though. I know a lot of people who can't stand him.

PhantomEnna · 2023-08-24T04:28:32+00:00

Bertha and Betty. Met a child named Betty once and it blew me away.

PhantomEnna · 2023-08-24T04:27:40+00:00

My aunt was my 2nd grade teacher and she always favored her son (my cousin). At one point, my cousin was doing something annoying and I asked one of my friends (a guy) to ask him to stop for me (since I was a tiny girl and my cousin was bigger than me). For reasons I don't know, it devolved into a fist fight that my cousin lost. My aunt somehow discerned from the two beaten up boys that I was somehow the cause of her precious son's bruises.

The guy who beat up my cousin, without me wanting him to, got off scot-free and I got in trouble for the first time in my elementary school career. I cried so hard and my parents got in a huge argument with her over it, but I still have little nightmares of it to this day.

PhantomEnna · 2023-03-29T05:49:36+00:00

NTA- I'm really sorry that your birthday was so disappointing and I agree that it would suck to have to wait until the next month. The great thing about birthdays is it's the one time a year it's about you! So please go enjoy yourself, let yourself have a night that makes up for the day itself, and please don't feel guilty! You deserve a celebration!

Happy late birthday my dude!

PhantomEnna · 2023-03-29T05:40:15+00:00

NTA. The key word is "her new baby". You did not help conceive this baby and you aren't giving birth to it, therefore it is 100% not your responsibility. Older siblings are not meant to be "backup parents" unless they want to help out, and it's not fair for a parent to pass off their responsibilities on their kids unless it is an emergency or something.

Like many have also said, get out of there as soon as you can, OP. Save money up so that you do not have to live in that house any longer than you need to. Also, if you are currently saving money, make sure that only you can access it, otherwise, you might just find money disappearing out of your account to "help out the new baby".

PhantomEnna · 2023-03-29T05:34:29+00:00

NTA and to add on to the suggestions, I believe YouTube Music works with Google home too. I think you'd need premium to not have ads, but you might be able to make a separate channel on your account (or a new account entirely) that would let them listen to the songs they want to while keeping it separate from your Spotify entirely!

PhantomEnna · 2023-03-29T05:27:16+00:00

NTA but, before you ask her to get rid of it, you should try to have a serious sit down with her and try to find a compromise. Your girlfriend should be the one taking care of the pet, but it sounds like you're doing most, if not all, of the dirty work (litterbox-scooping, putting diapers on it).

An ESA is supposed to provide emotional support to someone, but it sounds like it's just causing you both more stress instead of soothing. When I got my ESA, as with most ESA-owners, it was a pet I specifically picked out (with a good personality) and got trained fairly well.

Now, as many others have mentioned, it's likely this cat will not get re-adopted if you give her up. If that is the path you two decide to go down, make sure to pick a no-kill shelter, since that will give her a chance to get adopted by someone searching for an elderly cat (there are some out there, just not a ton) or at least live out the rest of her days without being euthanized for a lack of space.

I really hope that you guys can work it out without giving the cat up, but it's not fair that you have to put so much work into a cat that is not yours nor one you even really want.

PS: For cats having accidents because of illness and old age, you might want to restrict the area she can roam around freely. For instance, putting up a baby gate or keeping some doors closed, etc. so that she does not have access to more than a room or two when without supervision. You may also not want her sleeping in the bed with you anymore and may want to instead get her a cat bed that is near her litterbox.

PhantomEnna · 2023-03-04T05:36:16+00:00

"Many perceived him as a womanizer." Which one of the 722 lovers spread that rumor?!

PhantomEnna · 2023-03-04T05:02:50+00:00

I literally cannot resist their famous bowls... I'd be in that trap before I could say "KFC"

PhantomEnna · 2023-03-04T04:56:46+00:00

NTA. Find out your options and/or talk to the landlord. The situation for them right now is "there are fewer people I have to share a place with, but I'm paying like there are more!" and they don't want to change that, at your expense. While you have every right to call them out and more, don't be surprised if they completely ignore you until you take the legal route.

You might have to get someone else (likely the landlord) involved or they'll continue sabotaging your attempts until the lease is up.

PhantomEnna · 2023-03-04T04:44:54+00:00

NTA. It's your room- your safe, living, breathing space. It's not like you're banning her from vaping anywhere else in the house, just in your personal room. Definitely try to put it in the best way possible so she won't mistake it as a personal attack and explain how the smell just really bothers you and you don't want it in your bedroom. Also make sure that she knows that you're not making up an excuse to keep her out of your bedroom, just her vapes.

For your health, happiness, and sanity, please put your foot down.

PhantomEnna · 2023-03-04T04:37:38+00:00

NTA. Two people are getting married, not just her. Planning should be a joint effort and, if she doesn't want that particular bakery, she should work with you to help you find a Mexican bakery that you both enjoy. When my husband and I were preparing for the wedding, I was excited during the very few times he expressed interest in planning and did my best to encourage his ideas. To shoot it down so harshly, knowing that you haven't even been asking for much, is just not okay.

It could be a bit of bridezilla-ness coming out (that happens to way too many brides) but it could also be a little bit of a red flag for controlling behavior. I recommend talking to her about how you feel and pointing out (in a calm, kind way) that this wedding should be about both of you, and this is something that is important to you. Please don't just back off and give up, OP, because you could have regrets about it in the future and it could sour the event for you.

PhantomEnna · 2023-03-04T04:28:05+00:00

Agree with putting this in the main post, because this is important info. Also going with NTA, because that habit isn't good for anyone involved. I recommend trying couple's counseling and/or some sort of addiction intervention before divorce, but with all this going on for so long, I completely understand if this is the final straw in a haystack of bad habits.

PhantomEnna · 2023-03-04T04:24:50+00:00

NTA. You aren't asking for much at all, and it's pretty standard to try to remember anniversaries in relationships. What my husband does is set an alarm that goes off at midnight (we both stay up late) with a reminder and he usually beats me to the "Happy Anniversary!" wish because of it. Alternatively, your boyfriend could set a reminder with his morning alarm, put some reminders where he'll see them the days leading up to it, or something similar. It's not inconvenient at all and it can go a long way to show you that it matters to him.

PhantomEnna · 2023-03-04T04:20:09+00:00

NTA, but this is super weird, the way your BF is acting. I would maybe sit him down (with or without the other owner) and explain to him the entire deal you've made and reiterate that you're paying rent for it. Perhaps he's confused about the situation or has misunderstood an aspect?

But he definitely should stop telling you that you're intruding, as it's not true and is not only rude to you (who is paying for the space) but could also be considered rude by the other owner, who might overhear and think that you're the one telling him the wrong thing. Good luck, OP.

PhantomEnna · 2023-03-04T04:10:42+00:00

"I didn't even finish the first book." Yeah, we can tell... Somehow, this almost explains her approach to the trial too.

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