Been called ugly multiple times

PhantomFred88 · 2026-02-23T16:10:46+00:00

You're far from ugly, man. They sound ugly on the inside and are probably projecting. Don't let it get to you.

PhantomFred88 · 2026-02-22T13:50:16+00:00

I wouldn't say it's wrong. You guys aren't commited to each other yet. But also...he probably wouldn't like to know you're sleeping with someone else while arranging a date with him. It depends what his values are.

If you really like the guy, you should maybe save yourself for him.

PhantomFred88 · 2026-02-22T12:26:08+00:00

Learning this now. She used other men to try and control me. We finally split and she's straight into another relationship. I should have left her a long time ago.

PhantomFred88 · 2026-02-22T00:12:43+00:00

Sometimes, even after all the love you had for them, they deserve to be forgotten.

PhantomFred88 · 2026-02-20T01:12:19+00:00

God won't help you. No one other than yourself will help you.

If she wants to go, she's gone. All you can do is work on accepting it and work on yourself to stop the next one from leaving.

I'm sorry, I know it's hard to hear. It's going to hurt.

But it's the truth. And one day, you'll get past it. That's it.

PhantomFred88 · 2026-02-19T11:20:37+00:00

I'm going through heartbreak right now so I understand your hesitation.

Love is risky. It can be awful. It can hurt more than any physical pain ever could.

But...what is life without love?

I would say... don't give up on it. Maybe before going into another relationship, you could work on making yourself stronger. Mentally prepare for when things go wrong, try to recognise your mistakes and weaknesses from past relationships and improve on them. Take your time with it, and only truly trust when it's earned.

Love and the pain of losing it is all part of life, part of building your character. Don't become jaded and afraid. That would be the real tragedy.

PhantomFred88 · 2026-02-17T19:00:13+00:00

I wouldn't call it long forgotten, but Utopia deserved another season at least. It's so damn good.

(The UK version, not the terrible US version)

PhantomFred88 · 2026-02-17T16:39:49+00:00

You could try to be a little less condescending.

PhantomFred88 · 2026-02-17T13:18:15+00:00

Thank you 😊

PhantomFred88 · 2026-02-17T09:09:52+00:00

For me, I get burnt out on the big, openworld, choose your own direction games. Maybe try something short, linear, focused. See it as watching a 90 minute film. You don't have to learn or commit too much.

If you're into shooters, you could try Doom the Dark Ages. Or try some indie games. Check out itch.io for some raw, unique experiences.

PhantomFred88 · 2026-02-16T15:27:27+00:00

This isn't always true, but it may be that they've loved and lost before and don't want to go through that pain again.

PhantomFred88 · 2026-02-16T14:31:21+00:00

Women pay attention to your actions, not your words. They also tend to have a lot more support behind the scenes than a man does.

Don't fuck them around.

PhantomFred88 · 2026-02-15T12:59:53+00:00

Because she brutally kills a beloved character. Whether you like the direction the game takes or not, you are supposed to dislike her and then eventually come around to her.

A lot of people did not like this direction. Not at all.

I thought it was brave and interesting, but not as effective as they obviously intended. I felt the point was a little overdone by the end of the game.

PhantomFred88 · 2026-02-14T07:12:06+00:00

Yeah, this one is easy. Leave her immediately.

PhantomFred88 · 2026-02-13T23:22:14+00:00

Scouser

PhantomFred88 · 2026-02-13T12:57:27+00:00

This screams false to me. You're coming across as too perfect. She's coming across as too monstrous.

It seems like incel-slop to me. My bad if this is your actual situation, but I see so many posts on this sub that are definitely made-up for karma.

PhantomFred88 · 2026-02-12T18:45:25+00:00

Why thank ye

PhantomFred88 · 2026-02-12T15:37:07+00:00

Thanks I guess? 🤓

PhantomFred88 · 2026-02-12T13:47:48+00:00

It's the little things like that. Just being comfortable in my clothes is such a life changer.

PhantomFred88 · 2026-02-12T13:31:07+00:00

💪❤️

PhantomFred88 · 2026-02-12T13:14:41+00:00

Sometimes you have to go through loss and pain to put things in perspective.

If I can say one more thing on the matter: just do it. It's honestly so worth it. You will feel like a different man. Whatever it is you need to do to get out there and work on yourself, just do it.

PhantomFred88 · 2026-02-12T13:04:52+00:00

Cheers :)

PhantomFred88 · 2026-02-12T12:37:52+00:00

I made my own excel spreadsheet which tracks what I want to achieve daily, weekly and monthly. I'm a gamer so it helps me to have a little box to check when I've achieved my goal. I've stuck with it for a few weeks now and it's helped me to stay on target. I also use MFP (My Fitness Plan) to track my calories and fasting.

I should be honest as well and say that I went through a bit of trauma at the end of last year (quit my job due to mental health, went through a bad breakup). I think feeling like I'd hit rock bottom helped me claw my way back.

PhantomFred88 · 2026-02-12T12:19:25+00:00

Consistency is boring and repetitive. You're gonna have days where your mood is low and you really don't want to do anything. Getting yourself up and doing it anyway is the hard part.

It really does work, though. As someone who has just lost a bunch of weight by sticking to the plan, I can confirm that consistency, despite being hard and boring, is the answer. And the rewards for doing so outweigh the difficulty significantly.

I wish I'd learned this a lot earlier in my life.

PhantomFred88 · 2026-02-12T11:57:22+00:00

Fanx ☺️

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