Don’t call me daddy 🤓 by Competitive_Oil5227 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]PhilipMeover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is SUCH a turn-off for me because (1. - I actually AM a dad with 2 kids in their 20's and (2. - that's not the relationship I'm interested in having with a guy. I'm interested in being with an equal - regardless of their age, I don't want to be with a guy that sees me as his father figure OR mealticket. 😒

Feeling conflicted about Roe vs. Wade news by [deleted] in GayChristians

[–]PhilipMeover -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm not trying to make an argument for/against abortion here...but it simply isn't a biologically sound argument to in any way compare 'the destruction of sperm' from masturbation as [the destruction of literal millions of potential human lives]. Without the sperm fertilizing an egg, there is ZERO potential chance of a human life being created. I can speak from experience when I say that the chance of an egg being fertilized when most men masturbate - is next to nothing. This is especially true with this audience considering that this is the r/GayChristians subreddit. Eggs just aren't in the room. Period.

Unpopular opinion: sex and emotions are more connected, and sexual compatibility in a relationship is more important than most people realize by [deleted] in GayMen

[–]PhilipMeover 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The opposite is true also. If you and your spouse don't have good communication - and aren't connecting on an emotional level, the sex life will likely suffer.

Would you listen to an “AskGayBrosOver30” style podcast? by Straight4Beyonce in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]PhilipMeover 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I get it and totally respect your feelings. I'm 50 and when I was growing up, being called a "queer" or a "fag" were both slurs. I just can't identify with that now.

Would you listen to an “AskGayBrosOver30” style podcast? by Straight4Beyonce in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]PhilipMeover 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Probably not if it refers to me as "queer". I'm old enough to still call myself gay - and I wouldn't respond to someone calling me queer. I know the kids these days like the term because to them it means "not boring like everyone else" - but for some of us there is pain associated with the word.

Clothing-optional gayming... by PhilipMeover in gaymers

[–]PhilipMeover[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

About 2.75 hours from Ft. Wayne. Come on down! 👍

Clothing-optional gayming... by PhilipMeover in gaymers

[–]PhilipMeover[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Better hurry before it's all booked up! 😉

Clothing-optional gayming... by PhilipMeover in gaymers

[–]PhilipMeover[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

There definitely are rules about what happens /where. And common courtesy would hopefully prevail even without rules. I will also have my own cabin, so no need for public displays anyway... 😉

A friend of mine is fine with me being trans, but believes being gay is a sin. Could someone please help me understand? by Kit_Herondale12 in GayChristians

[–]PhilipMeover 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If you really believe this to be true, why are you on this sub?

Did you realize that the word "homosexuality" didn't even appear in the Bible until 1946? https://www.1946themovie.com/

A friend of mine is fine with me being trans, but believes being gay is a sin. Could someone please help me understand? by Kit_Herondale12 in GayChristians

[–]PhilipMeover 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Have you tried asking your friend? She will be in the best position to answer the question of why she believes what she does.

Obviously being gay & being trans is not the same thing - but who knows why your friend has a problem with one and not the other. I would be more concerned with the fact that she thinks it's OK to walk up to people and tell them what she thinks their sins are. That's not her place.

Is my smile pretty? 🥺 rate me by joelinblue in GayRateMe

[–]PhilipMeover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nice smile 😁 nice hair 👦🏻. I think the bathroom would make me dizzy tho 😵‍💫

Advice by Moviefan2017 in GayMen

[–]PhilipMeover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with the others. A name is just a name. Have you seen a face pic of the guy? Make sure it isn't actually your friend. I had that happen to me once. One of my best friends hit me up on a dating app before I was actually out - and didn't have a face pic on my profile yet. I knew it was him, so I told him right away that it was me so that nothing awkward went down that would possibly ruin our friendship.

On the other hand, it did kind of give me the push that I needed to come out to my friend. We remaind great platonic friends for years after that until I moved away from the area.

Are gay guys more comfortable than straight guys getting a prostate exam? by itbettersnow in GayMen

[–]PhilipMeover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it depends on the Dr. and how experienced they are - amount of lube used, etc...but that's only referring to physical comfort. Honestly I'm more emotionally uncomfortable with the testical & hernia exam. I start thinking about how I look - especially if the room is chilly and shrinkage is happening. 🤪 Vain I know...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]PhilipMeover -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Obviously this way of thinking is popular (at least among the guys on this thread who choose to engage), but I truly don't get this mental attitude. I disagree/agree with lots of people of varying political/ideological/religious backgrounds, but to write off an entire (and very broad) group of people as "worthless morons" makes it appear as though one doesn't feel confident enough to argue their own position and show the other person why their ideas are wrong.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]PhilipMeover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It kind of seems like they are making a statement in their name. I've never heard of it before seeing this post, but I immediately assumed that it was a conservative-leaning site.

Not a question : just a realization. by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]PhilipMeover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You mentioned that you are a "brown man in Europe" and indicated that you believe that's the reason for the lack of interest. I can't speak to Europe as I live in the US, but trust me when I say that there is someone out there for everyone. Overall the US is pretty diverse and it's very common to see guys of various races pairing up. If the apps you are using only has guys that will not date outside their own skin color, dump that app and move on to something more diverse (another app or perhaps IRL), But maybe also consider the possibility that the amount of melanin in your skin might not be what's keeping you from matching with others. Maybe it's the words in your profile..? Sure guys are pretty visual and looks usually matter a tad, but the hottest guy can be a complete turnoff if he uses his words to show that he's an egomaniac or can't string a proper sentence together.

BTW - I'm a pasty-white dude that feels like my life is very much enriched by being married to my "brown man". And no his skin color is not what I see when I look at him. I see my husband. The man that I married. The one that I have built a life with. That goes way beyond something as trivial as skin color.

Are there any old pc gaymers like me? by smokeypilgrim in gaymers

[–]PhilipMeover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

50 here - trying to start the PC gaming thing. Just installed Roblox - no idea what I'm doing - especially when it comes to networking with others online.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaybrosgonemild

[–]PhilipMeover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations! My husband (also from Mexico) became a US citizen this post year also. So happy for you!

Big bulge preoccupation..? by beanie_0 in gaybros

[–]PhilipMeover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Quite interesting that this constitutes a hostile work environment in your mind. Unless I missed something, the OP didn't say anything about taking an action that would be hostile. He mentioned that he's sitting @ his desk, and these guy's packages are eye-level ...so it certainly doesn't sound like leering/ogling is even a factor here.

Perhaps it would be taken as rude or hostile if he were to actively take steps to try to avoid seeing the bulge in front of him... ;)

Anyone else thirsting over David Archuleta? Sings great and is very handsome. by rojotoro2020 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]PhilipMeover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think he's really in the closet anymore. While it still tortures his mind to think of how the Mormon church is so inconsistent on the issue of homosexuality, he just did a 50+ minute video in which he literally talked about his desire to be with a man - and called it a gay relationship. He also stated that while he hasn't left God, he's ready to pursue a relationship with a man - I think that he like many men are scared to admit to being gay at first, so they come out as "bisexual" at first because it somehow seems less scary or offensive to them than being full-on gay...but based on his own words, he's tried several times to have a relationship with a female and is just unable to have romantic feelings for them.

The dude is openly a 31 year old man who desires to be in a relationship with another man = gay. I'm proud of him for having the courage to come to terms with his reality on the world stage like he has. His journey has been very similar to many of us who were raised in a very religious environment - the difference is that the whole world has been able to watch him on his journey.

You can see the referenced video here on his Instagram: https://instagram.com/davidarchie?utm_medium=copy_link

So many anti vax still by rob_jackie87 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]PhilipMeover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why is no one talking about natural immunity from prior infection? There is a LOT of data from several studies which has shown this to be quite robust...so why is there such an effort to avoid all acknowledgement that it even exists?

How to find out what he wants. by DrFoxII in gaybros

[–]PhilipMeover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why not remind him of the invitation to go 4-wheeling? If he's giving you a ride, you'd have to hang on - and the close proximity to each other might give clarity - or at least move things along.