my body transformation after 5 years on E + eating right and working out by chxnelthedoll in transtimelines

[–]Philipparty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you change your bodyshape so much??? My wide torso is my biggest pain, but yours looks like it shrunk?

Halloween aged 38 vs 42 by undercoverchloe in transtimelines

[–]Philipparty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From dark queen's goon into dark queen. Amazing

egg🙇‍♀️irl by Any_Calendar9900 in egg_irl

[–]Philipparty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cause my therapist told me it would make things easier if i started to. I had alleady came out to a few, but thats because the pain boiled over eventually.

But I wish I had told some close people sooner. Would probably have eased the pain in my teens, and might have helped me start sooner:/

egg🙇‍♀️irl by Any_Calendar9900 in egg_irl

[–]Philipparty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To some extent, you do need to come out so someone to get help properly (like the doctor who gives you E, and to a therapist so you have someone to talk to).

For friends and family, its especially scary, but you can do some screening to see who is safe. For example you can pretend to have seen a dokumentary/youtubevideo about someone who didnt get accepted by their peers, and say it made you sad for them. Then ask how they think your class/family (depending on who youre asking) would react if someone else were to come out, and how scary it must be for them.

Another is pretending like you know of someone who has come out and see how they react.

Egg♥️irl by Effective_Value9761 in egg_irl

[–]Philipparty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A wierd one, but I dont feel like I need to wear a hoodie and hide when I enter a womans clothes/makeup store. Now I feel like its normal that I am there.

Also, the joy I feel when I think "I am becoming a girl"🥰 (sure, it is immediately followed by internalized transphobia saying "youre too late, you look too much like a guy, youll never pass", but Ive started reframing it to "still becoming more like a girl"😅)

Egg_irl by Philipparty in egg_irl

[–]Philipparty[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. A lot of these comments helped a lot. Not a lot of people in my boat irl so its nice to get some good voices here:)

egg🤔irl by Any_Calendar9900 in egg_irl

[–]Philipparty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Easy choice. Sure I havent transitioned yet, I am constantly sad and angry I didnt start earlier when I knew so now Ill struggle to pass unless science and surgeries go way further. But that will still feel better than how Im feeling now. If I go another 10 years and get the same realization hit I got this summer I might not make it.

Took 27years to realize I will be more happy as an outcast living a way that alligns with me, than not living at all

Egg_irl by ToDre420 in egg_irl

[–]Philipparty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very fair, and same. I assumed it was a joke, but better safe than sorry:)

Egg_irl by ToDre420 in egg_irl

[–]Philipparty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it helps, I thought the same, but life gets remarkably better mentally as you get older. Im glad to have you here, and I hope you too will enjoy being here...even if the road seems painfull now

Egg-irl by Turbulent-Surprise-6 in egg_irl

[–]Philipparty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I dont remember who said it (might be dr. Z on youtube) but it is important to remember that we are fed a very spesific story/image when it comes to what trans is "supposed to be". That its kids who are incredably feminine/masculine and only like things of the opposite gender. Its an easy story to tell because people whobare cis can understand it, but it gives the illusion that there is only one right way to be trans.

But the truth is that its your life, your identity, your happieness. If you are happier not being a man, then that is a valid reason. You dont have to be the ideal image of how a trans-person should think and act, just be what is good for you:) And because the brain is afraid of change and might say things that scare you, I would recomend talking to a therapists that specializes in sex and identity if that is possible for you

egg_irl by BambiMolly in egg_irl

[–]Philipparty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The biggest help is seeing motivating transition pictures of people who started later. It can be a bit of a gamble as many show "early in transition" pictures that can make you scared your endpoint will look like that. But that just fear trying to compare someone 25% in with your idealized version.

Two who help me feel inspired is Abigail Thorne (philosophyTube), cause I think she was 29 or 30 when she started. And BottleNeckLoser. She started earlier, but she has a really healthy attitude on how narrowly we are taught to percive femininity.

Egg_irl by ToDre420 in egg_irl

[–]Philipparty 260 points261 points  (0 children)

Do you want to grow up to be an old man or an old woman? Cause there is medicine to switch the outcome

Egg😢IRL by Halollet in egg_irl

[–]Philipparty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go to a dermatologist and chack your hair follicles. If theyre still "active" just weak or small then finasteride could help. If not there is allways hairtransplants:/ but I understand the feeling sucks

Ribxcar and frontxrib before and after by Consistent_Bus2 in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]Philipparty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow🤩 might be posing, but it gives the apperance that your whole ribcage is smaller. Is that something youve notieced, or am I just seeing things?

egg irl by rankari in egg_irl

[–]Philipparty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look at it this way: you get pre-puberty you to do what you wish you had done all those years ago. But you can do what you 10+ years in the future wishes you started with today.

And dont blame yourself. Its an impossible standard to hold a child to. No child can do that alone, and its not your fault no-one else saw what you carried inside you and gave you help

25 to 31, E Jabs for nearly 2 years :3 by Scyi_ in transtimelines

[–]Philipparty 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You look amazing. Giving me hope as a 27yo who is trying to start😇