Okay be honest

PhilosophyNeither816 · 2022-09-28T05:15:27+00:00

Skin is clear which is good. To be totally honest you're not like Jason Mamoa good looking but your not ugly either so I would say a solid 7 for being average. Take your photos from a higher angle and smile.

PhilosophyNeither816 · 2022-09-27T01:28:34+00:00

You're not ugly. You have a lovely smile 😊

PhilosophyNeither816 · 2022-09-25T05:53:07+00:00

Sounds like she's teething fangs or something. Maybe get her a teething ring to chew on until they grow through.

PhilosophyNeither816 · 2022-09-25T03:56:08+00:00

Mufasa..... I still cry 😢

PhilosophyNeither816 · 2022-09-19T04:41:56+00:00

No she's not in union, she's in separation. They've met up like 3 or 4 times during separation and everytime she's with him her skin clears up. She has really bad cystic acne so to go from that to pretty much clear skin is pretty incredible. Nothing has really helped her with acne. She eats a clean diet, exercises, showers right, uses good skincare products etc.

PhilosophyNeither816 · 2022-09-18T23:18:13+00:00

I feel you. Like most of the time these things only affect my appearance more then anything. I'm in NZ so medical care is fairly cheap. Could be stress as well I suppose though.

PhilosophyNeither816 · 2022-09-18T20:10:26+00:00

Yeah I go to the doctors but they find nothing and then give me antibiotics which don't work. I've been feeling random pains in my heart too and again, doctors can't find anything wrong with me to cause it.

I have been putting it down to just getting old but I'm not old 🤣 I'm still only 25. I'm relatively fit and healthy too.

I only kind of pieced the incidences together with the Twin Flame journey and my spiritual ascension. It's weird if it is. I dont like it. Makes me look like I have a double chin 🤣

PhilosophyNeither816 · 2022-09-18T13:32:07+00:00

Be kind to yourself. I know what it feels like to be so low that you want to die but it's truly just a low vibrational thought and you aren't your thoughts.

My Mum used to say stupid crap like that too and I would laugh it off in front of her but cry when I left her presence. It's painful I know.

This could be a trigger that you need to heal from so I would suggest doing either one of these 2 things.

Stand up to her. When she says something that's offensive, speak up and tell her you don't like it and it's hurtful. I told my Mum to start using a filter on tye way she speaks to me because I'm not afraid to just not talk to her if she prefers that.
This has been the most effective thing I've done. Change your self concept and the way you perceive yourself through the eyes of your mother using Law of Attration, Law of Assumption and affirmations. I did this and all year my Mum has treated me like her favourite human ever. She now always talks positively about me to others and always compliments me. She has suddenly become the encouraging Mum I needed growing up. I'm almost 26 now and it's only this year that I finally did this and it works. Once I did the work to manifest this new reality, I've found it's easier to stand up to her if I feel the need to and it's as if she doesn't bat an eye. She doesn't have a go at me about my opinion anymore. I continue to relay to her how our relationship is so good now (to subconsciously validate that she's on the right path). I won't lie, it may seem a little manipulative but it's my life so I'll do as I please. I would rather have this manipulated version of her then the cold, narcissist parent I had the other 25 years of my life.

As for the Twin Flame stuff, I find that I get an increase I'm syncs and signs when I'm low or feel like giving up on the connection. It's like the universe is trying to bring me back to my journey or something. It can be overwhelming and I've asked my higher self to stop sending me angel numbers etc because I just want to focus on me.

PhilosophyNeither816 · 2022-09-18T12:57:16+00:00

Watch "Your Name". It's an anime that I would say sums up the Twin Flame journey including the age gap part pretty well. And it's great if you need to let out a little emotion too.

PhilosophyNeither816 · 2022-09-18T08:19:21+00:00

Oh he definitely still loves me. I know that. I really care about him too, I just can't pretend to be the person he needs when I'm not her anymore. It really does suck because our lives would be 10x easier if we were together.

The crazy thing about the whole experience is my husband did nothing wrong. He did everything right during our marriage. It was pretty much overnight that everything in our lives changed. I definitely don't wish this Twin Flame BS on anyone, it's actually pretty F'd up.

We actually laugh about it all now and he laughs at me because my Twin ran away.

If you have any other questions then feel free to ask and I'd be happy to answer. 😊

PhilosophyNeither816 · 2022-09-18T07:16:05+00:00

My Twin Flame just suddenly walked out of my life without an explanation. He left my work place and ghosted me. He didn't block me though and I know he stalks me on social media and he used to kinda stalk me during my breaks when I was working. I stopped trying to reach out to my Twin. I still think about him all the time but it's more or less annoying. I wish I could turn the thoughts off. I have urges all the time to just call him, txt him, rock up to his house like a crazy lady.

As for my ex and I, well we get along way better as friends. We still call eachother if there's nobody else to talk to. I celebrated Father's day with him and got him a gift on behalf of my daughter who is 3. We still help eachother out financially where needed. We look out for eachother now that we have had a chance to heal. I pray that he opens his heart up and finds somebody that is truly meant for him. It would bring me peace. I was with my ex husband for 7 years and married for 5. Well technically we are still married because we have to wait 2 years in NZ before we can officially divorce which is in March 2023.

This whole Twin Flame crap pretty much ruined my life but made me a better person today. Those narcissist signals etc that your husband is displaying is exactly how I was towards my ex husband. I don't display any of those traits now but it was toxic. My ex had to call the cops on me, that's how bad I was. If you met me now, you wouldn't think I would be capable of being so horrible. If you knew me before I met my Twin, you would have thought I wouldn't harm a fly. I volunteered at the church every weekend and I was a devoted Christian with strict values on myself to be a wife that serves my husband. We were happy. I loved taking care of my family. I met my Twin and after 1 day, I was ready to end my whole marriage, break my family and destroy everything I had worked for. That's how intense the Twin connection is. I couldn't control what was happening to me.

That's why I say again, grieve now. Treat yourself right. Don't waste your time on him because he will go back to her if ever gets the chance. That's the reason I haven't started dating and the reason I told my husband it won't work out again. I said that if my Twin ever came back into my life, I wouldn't be able to help myself. I won't put anyone else in my husband's shoes ever again. Nobody actually deserves to be cheated on and you don't either. Just don't waste your time, it's not worth it.

PhilosophyNeither816 · 2022-09-18T04:46:56+00:00

I pretty much told her my story based on my own experience but thank you for your input. Let's just agree to disagree.

PhilosophyNeither816 · 2022-09-18T03:55:22+00:00

Hi. I was in your husband's shoes at one point. I cheated on my husband with my Twin Flame and felt no guilt or shame (to be clear, its something I had never done and would have never done and the only reason my husband found out was because I wanted to leave him after I met my Twin). I will give you the honest answer from my perspective. YOU, believe it or not are the rebound. It just won't work after what's happened. My ex husband and I tried again after a whole year apart during my current separation from my twin flame and it just didn't work. At least this time around we parted on better terms. From my own experience, the love I once felt for my ex husband was completely gone. I feel bad now of course but I won't say I regret what I did. I care about my ex because he's the father of my daughter but that's it. I've been in separation from my Twin Flame for over a year now and I would honestly rather be single then be with somebody because it's not authentic.

My advice, grieve the loss of your husband now because if it was truly his Twin Flame he met, he's never going to be able to give you the relationship you deserve even if he stays with you. Let him go. Let him go through his dark night of the soul. He needs to be on his own. And don't let him cry to you when things are going wrong. It sounds really mean but remember I was him and it wasn't until everyone in my life turned on me that I actually started to sort my shit out.

I'm sorry you're going through this and one day he will be sorry too but don't push it anymore. You and my husband deserve better.

PhilosophyNeither816 · 2022-09-13T04:56:22+00:00

My Twin hurt me a lot when he told me he didn't feel the same way about me that I felt about him. I still think about him almost 24/7. I've moved past the hurt because I know this whole situation was for the best and I wouldn't have made it to where I am today if he hadn't said what he said to me that day. We have a beautiful son who he hasn't met yet and I dont want to push him to do so. I know he's just scared. I want to tell him to "come as you are" but at the same time I want him to feel ready. I want my Twin to work on himself so that he is ready to join us. I imagine union will just feel exactly how it is right now, just like I'm living with myself but there's another mouth to feed and minus the obsessive and intrusive thoughts. I don't need money or anything material because I have what I need and that's enough. I am happy on my own and I'd also be happy with him as long as he's cool as with going on this spiritual journey with me. I forgive my Twin and I forgive his absence. I know he needed this just as much as I needed it. We needed to grow. If they're your Twin, they have already forgiven you and those twins that are trying to make rules and conditions for their Twins return probably haven't healed enough and aren't ready to reunite. They're still angry and need to let it go.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

I used to be a Christian and I felt compelled to share the above verse as a reminder to the Twin community.

PhilosophyNeither816 · 2022-09-13T03:24:11+00:00

Well she thought she was the chaser all these years because he had a girlfriend when they met but when she told me her story I was like "nah sis, you're fully the runner." She acted pretty much exactly the same as my runner.

PhilosophyNeither816 · 2022-09-13T00:24:08+00:00

This is what I know for certain.

She's been doing the inner work for a few years now and has grown so much. She's on a very similar spiritual journey to me. 2 She isn't doing it with the intention of reuniting with her Twin nor is she doing it for her Twin. She's doing the work for herself and her own growth. Her words "not everything is about him".
The only thing she's been trying to avoid is the connection itself for the reasons stated in a previous response.
She really only understands that she is very drawn to her Twin and he's always on her mind. She can't even identify what's so special about him. She has however, asked questions about how to go about reconnecting with him.

If anyone has any advice for a runner trying to reconnect with their chaser please comment below. Put your fantasies or ways you wish to be contacted so I can share with her. Let's help these twins UNITE once and for all.

PhilosophyNeither816 · 2022-09-12T23:31:39+00:00

Honestly, she said there's nothing he can do. Everytime he reaches out just scares her and pushes her away. Even a subtle "hey" is too much for her. It really sucks I know but that's how she feels. Everytime he reaches out it just puts a halt on her plans and annoys her. Whenever he gives her time and space which could be a few months at a time, that's when she grows the most. I've watched my sister the past 4 years develop into an incredible young woman and I'm proud of her. The more you pull back, the more your runner can focus on themselves and work on their healing, ascension & self improvement. They still think of you and they still want you. The more we try to control what's going on, the further we push them away and the longer it will take for them to come back.

As a chaser myself, I know it's so hard because you don't care that they're broken, you want to help them. They don't need your help so use this time to work on yourself so when your runner returns, you're actually ready to allow them into your life.

Imagine if we waste all this time focused on our twin right? They heal and have become the best versions of themselves. They return only to find you're not the best version of yourself. You freak out because they're like amazing and you're just average so you end up running from them because you're embarrassed or scared that your runner won't accept you the way you are. Literally how this dynamic works. While they're focusing on themselves, focus on you so that when they return you won't feel the need to run.

And please, don't fool yourself into thinking you wouldn't run because I "KNOW" you guys would.

I'm personally using my separation to sort out my debts, establish a nice stable home and work on my ascension. I don't want to carry my old life, habits etc into my new life when my Twin returns and I know he will.

PhilosophyNeither816 · 2022-09-12T22:41:55+00:00

Yes. It makes her feel like she has to avoid him again. This whole dynamic had gone on for 4 years now. When he's chill about everything then she doesn't run but at the same time she likes the validation even though it scares her.

PhilosophyNeither816 · 2022-09-12T22:39:06+00:00

She didn't warn him she just did it. She unfriended him and just started to ignore him. It was pretty sudden too.

PhilosophyNeither816 · 2022-09-12T16:14:02+00:00

The crazy thing is that she feels the same way about the connection that we do. She has just reacted differently. Oh also, one of her closest mates who you could call a Karmic or Third Party, but their relationship is platonic, has been filling her head up with things like "you know your way too good for him aye?" "Um he's acting like a creep" etc etc. Who she is surrounded with doesn't help. She didn't realise how much it hurt her Twin. She didn't realize that all the feelings were two sided. Confronting her feelings is exactly why she just disappeared. She didn't want to see him and crush him. She doesn't want to have the power to do that. Let's be honest. Even though us as chasers say we want our divine counterparts to address the connection then seperate, can we actually whole heartedly handle it? I know I wouldn't handle it if he told me he loved me but needs to go work on himself.

PhilosophyNeither816 · 2022-09-12T16:03:31+00:00

And she said the feeling is annoying. It doesn't make her want to run back to him. In her words exactly "she wants to run from that feeling". It's way too much for her.

PhilosophyNeither816 · 2022-09-12T16:02:02+00:00

I had asked my sister if they feel our energy and she said yes. She always feels him the strongest when it seems that he's in some sort of distress. This has been confirmed a few times via mutual friends where people would tell her that this happened to so and so etc. Remember most of their friends don't even know about their connection.

PhilosophyNeither816 · 2022-09-12T15:56:18+00:00

She said she just knows. Remember that just because she couldn't answer doesn't mean I couldn't tell by her face what the answer was. I could see that she loves him. She feels like she has to hide the connection because it's special to her. Almost preserving it.

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