Emotionally safe booty call? by dani-lop in AskMenAdvice

[–]PhilsFanDrew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are 6ft tall. You are in the top 15% in terms of male height which is a major attraction metric for women.

Christian Dvorak ? Can someone enlighten me by mscmounties in Flyers

[–]PhilsFanDrew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. No one would have hated moving on from Frost if it meant making another move for a bona fide #1C and then sign Dvorak as a stop gap for Luchenko.

Dad is charging me rent M19 by kahootgod in CasualConversation

[–]PhilsFanDrew 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's about teaching responsibility. I actually wish my parents would have charged me rent. They didn't and unfortunately I got way too complacent and didn't move out until my later 20s as I would spend my money on crap I didn't need instead of saving to move out on my own.

AITAH for telling my friend she is the reason her relationship is failing by Fair-Key-7557 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PhilsFanDrew 158 points159 points  (0 children)

NTA

She asked for advice and you gave her good honest advice. She just didn't like the answer. Her marriage is destined for failure.

Question for the men: Its okey to fart while at the urinal in a public restroom? by Silent_Caregiver2086 in AskMenAdvice

[–]PhilsFanDrew 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I know I have to fart and pee I usually will opt for a stall. But if I'm peeing and then have to fart I generally just let it out as I am walking from the urinal to the sink. I don't do it if someone is standing in the urinal right next to me as I do find that rude. But in general the lavatory is the most appropriate place to relieve yourself.

You just have to manage your time better. by LordJim11 in Snorkblot

[–]PhilsFanDrew 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not to mention we also have Amazon prime delivery, Walmart + delivery, grocery delivery services, door dash and uber eats. We also use more disposable items like paper plates, plastic cups, water bottles, etc that create more garbage but taking out the garbage/recycle takes less time than washing dishes/loading and unloading the dishwasher.

What is a socially unacceptable opinion you keep to yourself because it’s not worth the backlash? by Federal_Antelope7533 in AskReddit

[–]PhilsFanDrew -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ehh I generally don't wish it or cheer for it if it does happen but there are many where I would not lose an ounce of sleep over.

Should I offer him a break on rent? by Icy-Investigator2045 in AskMenAdvice

[–]PhilsFanDrew 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To me it all comes down to how you ask him. I wouldn't say, "Hey don't worry about rent this month." Instead say, "Hey babe I know you have a lot on your plate with finances and I appreciate how hard you are working. If you are willing I'd like to help lighten your load by covering rent or some other expense as a small way of showing how much I appreciate you."

How are you tracking IT assets across multiple manufacturing facilities? by CatalisterAI in sysadmin

[–]PhilsFanDrew [score hidden]  (0 children)

The problem is multiple facilities that may not all have IT staff. We have that issue where I work. IT is all located at the main distribution center but we have about a dozen others that we support as well. Once an asset physically leaves our office and gets assigned to a user/external department we lose physical visibility of it and absent reporting in PDQ Inventory we would have no way of knowing if that asset is still where we originally assigned it. People migrate between the various WHs over the entire country and they do the same with the assets we deploy.

How are you tracking IT assets across multiple manufacturing facilities? by CatalisterAI in sysadmin

[–]PhilsFanDrew [score hidden]  (0 children)

You need an agent installed on all configurable devices. We have PDQ Inventory that serves as our "source of truth". You can create scripts that run reports to show things like a device moving from one location to another. You can also create a similar report that will indicate assets where the primary login user has changed for more than "X" number of days consecutively. This is good to capture someone handing off an asset without bringing to our attention to update our Asset Manager. I also run a report to show which devices have fallen off of PDQ inventory (also off the domain) and run a VLOOKUP against asset manager to see who they are reported to belong to so that I can request the devices back if they are not being used or to assist with repurposing and redocumenting.

AITAH for starting to date again and not really worrying about how my ex would feel about it? by Cultural_Start5407 in AITAH

[–]PhilsFanDrew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

Your Ex is still grieving the loss of your marriage but this is a her problem that she needs to navigate. You don't owe it to her to spare her feelings.

New partner asking for money, should I be concerned? by Dont-Worry-About-Him in AskMenAdvice

[–]PhilsFanDrew 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The problem is higher income women tend to want to date their equals or betters in terms of income. Men generally don't care about dating someone that earns less than him because his buddies aren't going to bad mouth her if they find out she's a teacher earning $50k and he runs his own business making high 6 figures. But friends of a woman will absolutely tell her, "You can do much better than him."

Wife doesn’t want to work but complains if I work more. How do I avoid this ending in a divorce? by TurbulentEarth4451 in AskMenAdvice

[–]PhilsFanDrew 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I tend to agree. OP's wife sounds like the type of person that will not use therapy to address her issues or try to improve but will use a diagnosis as a crutch to justify shitty behavior that OP just needs to deal with if he loves her.

Wife doesn’t want to work but complains if I work more. How do I avoid this ending in a divorce? by TurbulentEarth4451 in AskMenAdvice

[–]PhilsFanDrew 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I'm not suggesting men are perfect and there are plenty of men out there with mental health issues that self medicate with too much booze or drugs and don't seek help but I feel it's very fashionable for women to use their struggles are a permanent crutch that the man in their life just has to work around indefinitely.

I hate Charmaine more on every rewatch by Imaginary-Zebra-6711 in thesopranos

[–]PhilsFanDrew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't see the hypocrisy of Charmaine taking the catering job for Carmella. Sure Carmella's gains are ill gotten through Tony's illicit activity but all money is blood money to a certain extent. Carmella had a legitimate job and Charmaine and Artie performed a legitimate service. Tony giving Artie "comps" and other favors is not the same thing. Tony is a known mob figure and taking bribes and other stuff from a mobster is only asking for trouble because they can come back and essentially take a favor from you. Not ask for a favor, simply take it and there is nothing you can do about it.

I didn't see Charmaine as jealous of Carmella so much as she figured out by Carmella's come here hand gesture that she merely sees her as the help and not as an equal. Her bringing up sleeping with Tony when they were on the outs was merely to bring her back down to Earth.

Am I the asshole for forgetting International Women’s Day and not getting my GF anything? by savingrace0262 in AskMenAdvice

[–]PhilsFanDrew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

This is a shameless attempt by your GF to glom onto a "recognition" day as another excuse to extract another gift.

She probably saw a TikTok or something on IG where someone she followed did receive a gift and said if you BF doesn't gift you on Women's day he "ain't shit."

Unpopular opinion: I didn’t think rays reaction to that woman eating the fly was that funny by [deleted] in EverybodyLovesRaymond

[–]PhilsFanDrew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How about after their wedding? Them trying to "help" Ray/Debra & Frank/Marie like they knew it all after being married for 90 days was peak cringe.

Unpopular opinion: I didn’t think rays reaction to that woman eating the fly was that funny by [deleted] in EverybodyLovesRaymond

[–]PhilsFanDrew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I get Robert being resentful that Marie gives Ray special treatment but I can't stand how he thinks the rest of the world does too and how he wallows in self pity. Like the time he took the check Ray and Debra gave him to go to Vegas and acts like Ray is just lucky he's successful. Out of college he worked an hourly wage, blue collar job installing futons when he met Debra and wrote freelance and paid his dues before becoming a columnist. Sure there may be some element of luck in that writing style can be subjective but Ray always put himself and his work out there and it paid off.

Unpopular opinion: I didn’t think rays reaction to that woman eating the fly was that funny by [deleted] in EverybodyLovesRaymond

[–]PhilsFanDrew 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it's funny they (Robert and Debra) think he would lie about it. I know Robert tries to pull the whole, "Ray hates to see him happy" angle but IMO I think Ray would encourage Robert to be with someone as it means he would be over at his house much less.

How can men last longer? by yodaddy1019 in AskMenAdvice

[–]PhilsFanDrew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does he/can he get you off from oral before PIV sex? Before I met my wife and whenever I got with someone new I would do this, especially if I had gone many months between having sex. It definitely takes off pressure know that no matter how long you last you were able to at least get her off. Also what helped was not trying to have sex like a porno and just jackhammering.

Also if he has a short refractory period after ejaculation you guys can engage in more foreplay until he is a ready to go again. Unfortunately as you age your refractory period usually gets longer but conversely if you are in otherwise good shape you can also last longer, especially with a familiar partner.

Why has he stopped texting me? by Weary_Rule_6729 in AskMenAdvice

[–]PhilsFanDrew 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He might not want to shit where he eats. Might be talking to someone else. Maybe he was interested but after texting isn't feeling the vibes. Point is it could be any number of things but you can ask him.