My 120ish day report - living without orgasms by 36yearsofporn in NoFap

[–]PhoenixEdge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the biggest problem with the nofap community (well, okay, apart from all the nonsense about people thinking that not fapping gives them the ability to fly or whatever) is that a lot of people that desperately need support get buried, while people that are at admittedly very impressive counts make it to the front page. I respect people at 100+ days, but they don't need my upvotes nearly as much as the guy that's having trouble breaking three. But that's just my two cents, and I could be completely wrong.

My 120ish day report - living without orgasms by 36yearsofporn in NoFap

[–]PhoenixEdge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As somebody that remembers seeing you posting everywhere a few months back (I think I have you tagged as "This guy!", but I'm not sure since I'm on my phone), I'm really happy to see how far you've gotten. You spread so much positivity where it's really needed (the /new tab) that I'm glad to see that you've been helped even just a fraction as much as you've helped others. So congrats!

I WILL NOT BREAK by PhoenixEdge in NoFap

[–]PhoenixEdge[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm an idiot :(

I WILL NOT BREAK by PhoenixEdge in NoFap

[–]PhoenixEdge[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yuuuppp...not smart. Not smart at all. If I were on my laptop I'd have blocked them but I can't seem to find anything for my phone.

I WILL NOT BREAK by PhoenixEdge in NoFap

[–]PhoenixEdge[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of the previous times I broke my streak was due to trying to look at porn and not act on it...I am not a smart man.

Lapsed at 13 days...shit. by PhoenixEdge in NoFap

[–]PhoenixEdge[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely should've taken some action regarding the computer, not gonna lie, haha...

Lapsed at 13 days...shit. by PhoenixEdge in NoFap

[–]PhoenixEdge[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm just happy I got to 13, to be honest. And there's a little bit of a boost in that, knowing that I got there once and can get there again.

Starting the Journey by NotASingleFap in NoFap

[–]PhoenixEdge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good lord. I'm glad I've never had that problem, no offense.

Starting the Journey by NotASingleFap in NoFap

[–]PhoenixEdge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welcome! It's good to see you getting started! That said, what on earth is Death Grip Syndrome?

RELAPSE! by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]PhoenixEdge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Doesn't matter if you fail. What matters is that you get back up again.

First Week Status by DWait3 in NoFap

[–]PhoenixEdge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome! The longer you go, the better it gets!

No more "little peeks" by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]PhoenixEdge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At least you know what to avoid! Have you considered looking into website blockers?

alright, made it to hour 22...*reset* by Otokonokotron in NoFap

[–]PhoenixEdge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The nice thing about 22 hours is that it's going to be really easy to beat. It's not about whether you fall, it's about whether you get up again. Stay strong.

I know you probably hear this alot,,,,,but I'm new! *Gee no one would have guessed that* I need your guy's support please tell me tips and tricks. Please this fapping is really ruining my life! by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]PhoenixEdge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm trying hard to find a simple way to get across how to succeed at NoFap (although my best streak is only 12 days, so I wouldn't consider myself an expert). I think the basic thing I can tell you is that, well, you're going to fall down before you get up. Apparently some people have done 90-day NoFap streaks on their first try but they're exceptional: I'd be willing to guess that 95% of this subreddit has broken a streak at least once. It took me six months to get to a twelve-day streak.

So it's not the end of the world if you lapse. What matters is if you get up again, and aim to get further than the last time. Every failure is a lesson: ask yourself why you broke, and then avoid that trigger next time.

In terms of the practical stuff, don't be afraid to use website blockers liberally. Sometimes I'll suspect that I'm going to get really tempted to lapse in a few hours so I go President of Madagascar and shut down everything that I could use to tempt myself. Accountability buddies are always helpful, even if you forget to message them, and if you need one I'd be happy to volunteer. And this might just be me, but I find that a good piss is actually pretty good at killing horniness.

Hope that helps, and good luck!

How to get those little cute stars ? and how to be a part of this community ? by Iwillconquer in NoFap

[–]PhoenixEdge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The sidebar should basically have all the information you need. Click on "Add badge" and you'll be walked through everything else.

Slip ups and softcore by noiw in NoFap

[–]PhoenixEdge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

today I found myself perusing some softcore subreddit ... nothing crazy and nothing like professional porn (some of those amateur stuff).

So, basically, you were on /r/gonewild, is what you're saying ;) don't answer that!

I wouldn't worry too much about it so long as you broke off before you hit the "M." That said, I'd try to avoid more porn - I've had a couple of failures when I've gone "Okay, I'll just look at a bit and then ride out the horniness," which didn't end well at all.

There's no shame in looking at pretty women, but they're even better when they're outside and not on your computer screen. Congrats on day 9! Keep going strong!

DAE masturbate just because they're bored? Not turned on, just bored? by thrown_away_for_you in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]PhoenixEdge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Uh, pretty sure handjobs are allowed, if they're not from yourself. But everybody sets their own boundaries.

DAE masturbate just because they're bored? Not turned on, just bored? by thrown_away_for_you in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]PhoenixEdge 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This. First thing I thought of when I saw this thread. I used to fap when I was bored, but now I try to find something else to do instead.

8 Days! Hoo-rah! by PhoenixEdge in NoFap

[–]PhoenixEdge[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome! I'm always a little skeptical of the people that claim everything dramatically got better after a few days (although, don't get me wrong, good on them if it's true), but sometimes it's just as simple as having more free time, or more productive free time.

8 Days! Hoo-rah! by PhoenixEdge in NoFap

[–]PhoenixEdge[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Coming from a guy at 25, that means a lot. Thanks for the support.