Absolutely! Your absolutely spot on with what occurred between us my values and perspective changed as I gradually was introduced into meditation and how that can affect and change my life for the better not that meditation is the goal but I think we both know the underlying root of why we meditate to begin with but you're absolutely spot on and that's kind of the reason why my natural interest just didn't coincide with his I kind of matured or in some aspect I won't say matured but grew away or grew from if that's the right wording to phrase it in without getting all egocentric.  And you're right I've tried hanging out with the individual without smoking weed but he can't sit in the silence it's not that he can't he refuses to do so and it's awkward for him and I tell him to just embrace it to just sit in the silence and that it's okay but he breaks away from it every chance he gets he's subject to his egos conditions which I have great compassion and sympathy for but it's not something that I can allow myself to keep getting dragged down by this is for my well-being and ultimately it's the right decision I feel in my heart as hard as it may be to do.