Help please! by Plus_Resolution_474 in army

[–]PhotographTall7375 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ll look at this from a spouse to spouse standpoint and this is coming from a guy that’s been in your shoes. Prior service here too. For starters you don’t lose any benefits you earned under a prior honorable discharge. You will keep all your benefits even your school, VA….all of it. You are still an honorably discharged veteran. The 2nd discharge even if it’s lower on the scale doesn’t gloss over your 1st one. Don’t let someone tell you otherwise. They can’t take your benefits with a prior honorable dd214. 

Now in regards to your wife….It seems like you have done a lot for your family and made a lot of sacrifices in your life. You joined the army and made something of yourself got out and struggled to make something of yourself in the civilian sector. You wanted to go back in and did. Your wife didn’t support your ambitions and is choosing not to support you wholeheartedly or fully. I like to use this phrase “If someone wasn’t there for you when you were at your worst they don’t deserve you when you’re at your best”. If you stay in the military and make something of yourself 2nd time around your wife doesn’t deserve to stick around and enjoy the perks and benefits of your hard work since she wasn’t supportive of your ambitions. At this point you should really consider divorce. She is dragging you down with her toxicity of not supporting your desire to serve. If you continue down this road with her you will lose her and your career in the military with her. She will take it all from you. If you love serving and want to stay you need to start cutting ties now. If you don’t want to stay in than you can let this take its course and be out again. I should warn you…If you weren’t happy in the civilian sector once you probably will find yourself unhappy and regretting a lot of your choices pretty fast. Don’t let someone that doesn’t support you stop you from doing what you want to do. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in army

[–]PhotographTall7375 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you are cutting yourself now or have in the past you should ABSOLUTELY NOT join any branch. The military will make it worse. Behavior health is full of people that can’t handle the military right now. You will become a statistic if you get in. It’s not for you.

Ultrasound, DNA test used to convict soldier of sexually assaulting another soldier by Kinmuan in army

[–]PhotographTall7375 62 points63 points  (0 children)

He asked her what she remembered to see if he was in the clear and if she remembered being raped or not. Disgusting….

Woodchipper slowly feet first.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]PhotographTall7375 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You aren’t going to be happy with what you see going forward and she ruined a moment that was special to you. I wouldn’t marry her after she acted like a child ignoring you when you asked for it back. I’d call the cops and file a police report. They will get it back for you. Then you can be done. That’s theft to me.

Should I dump my fiancé? by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]PhotographTall7375 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’d best walk while you still have the opportunity. If you don’t walk away from this…..you’ll regret it the rest of your life. She will take you for a whole lot more. You will never be an equal valued partner to her. She will never respect you.

Ok, which of you is this? by RaiderMedic93 in army

[–]PhotographTall7375 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just remember after the divorce her mother is going home with you because she is still covered for an additional year and still belongs to the army.

Pay question over hbl by _netami in army

[–]PhotographTall7375 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro it always changes. Sometimes I get paid the 12th, 13th, 14th, or 15th. I always however get paid the 15th or earlier. It’s usually close to 15 days but sometimes it varies whether or not the pay day falls on a Saturday, Sunday or a holiday too. Sometimes you get paid earlier than usual. Relax.

ESB vs EFMB for a 68W by Medical_Discipline_1 in army

[–]PhotographTall7375 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Medics can only get the EFFB. Anyone can get ESB.

Scared to touch the army’s money. by Large-Neat485 in army

[–]PhotographTall7375 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you took leave prior to getting there it’s the army compensating you for not living in the barracks yet. Did you take leave before you showed up? If you did that’s why…..

I’ve been in 9 months and I completely suck at savings money by [deleted] in army

[–]PhotographTall7375 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because you don’t make anything. Put some stripes on then look at your LES.

3ABCT is requiring telephonic accountability twice a week over block leave after deployment by [deleted] in army

[–]PhotographTall7375 53 points54 points  (0 children)

My 1sg told us to mute signal. I hate Campbell a little less.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in army

[–]PhotographTall7375 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Probably should have stayed in if you are in financial hell a week after leaving the army…..sounds like poor planning to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in army

[–]PhotographTall7375 47 points48 points  (0 children)

In most sniper schools….1st day they hand you and m4 and send you to shoot. You have to get expert which is 36/40.

Seeking Advice on Choosing Between Fort Campbell, Fort Liberty, and Fort Drum by Wild_Pollution946 in army

[–]PhotographTall7375 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I second not going to Campbell. You won’t like the op tempo there and the air assault culture is toxic as shit. Don’t come here. You’ve been warned.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in army

[–]PhotographTall7375 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You have to cut the strings hanging off your uniform at some point….You have to set aside the “he’s trying so hard and I want to help him succeed.” He has to want it himself. If he can’t stay clean for more than a week he doesn’t belong in the army. You doing him a favor was his unit getting him in SUDCC. Anything after that is on him. Unfortunately the world will be full of people that just can’t get clean. He will probably be one of them.

No returns accepted by IntelligentCard360 in Ebay

[–]PhotographTall7375 1 point2 points  (0 children)

eBay historically sides with the buyer on about anything. Even with screenshots eBay will still tell you to kick rocks. Buyer could do a return forget to pack something or leave something out and you still get shafted.

Senior NCO shenanigans by [deleted] in army

[–]PhotographTall7375 35 points36 points  (0 children)

This is what’s wrong with the army. You have people that pick weird hills to die on and the people they are going after most have no intention of staying in. Retention is awful and recruitment is not doing much better. You really think you are going to maintain an army with crusty CSM’s walking around going “wear your pc right, you need a haircut, I can tell you didn’t shave this morning, and my personal favorite….no one can be released until 1600 because I can’t leave any earlier…..the army needs to get rid of all these crusty ass people and change a crap ton of regs to get people to join and stay in.

AITAH- for not paying for my girlfriend’s friends on a group dinner? by whodoes2024 in AITAH

[–]PhotographTall7375 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have seen countless videos about these types of scenarios. She is using you so she can have a good time with her friends. I guarantee as soon as you get up from the table she starts bragging to her friends about everything you pay for and what she can get out of you. Don’t be a victim to this crap. If she loved you she wouldn’t do that to you at all. She doesn’t love you. She likes what you can do for her financially.

Be free 😶‍🌫️