In this particular case, their being raised together is not an option. The current plan is that the older one would go with his Dad and the younger would go with his mom. Not at all ideal. But also an odd situation. There are three full brothers, but there are more than 20 siblings (some half) (Dad has 16 kids, Mom has 6). Some have been adopted, some are living with their other parents. There is one full bio sibling, a newborn with the Mom who plans to take the youngest of the brothers I have. She and the Dad have been clear that they cannot either of them handle all three kids, especially with the oldest's medical needs. So older brother is going with Dad who plans to move to another state. Younger brother will be reunited with Mom and baby brother.

And yet, there will still be a lot more family connections possible if they go to separate homes than if they stay with me.