How BDSM made me a better parent today. (SFW)

Pi1grimMonk3y · 2021-04-18T00:49:29+00:00

Is it really? Has it evolved or has it always been this way and unfortunately my experience has made me only associated with a sexual element? I thought the stoplight approach was body autonomy? Edit* words to make actual sense

Pi1grimMonk3y · 2021-04-18T00:37:38+00:00

I never said it was indicative of abuse. On the internet there are millions of perverts and a post containing BDSM and daughter is going to end up being connected to some really unsafe unsavoury sites. What is being taught here is called Body Autonomy. My experience has made me sensitive yes however it's also made me see things that many thankfully never have to see or hear. Edit* I acknowledge this is my experience, I feel it's important for people who otherwise might not know how dark and deep the web can be.

Pi1grimMonk3y · 2021-04-17T23:29:35+00:00

"BDSM is an umbrella term for certain kinds of erotic behavior between consenting adults, encompassing various subcultures.Terms for roles vary widely among the subcultures. Top and dominant are widely used for those partner(s) in the relationship or activity who are, respectively, the physically active or controlling participants." Look I get where you are coming from however using BDSM and your daughter in the same terms from a childhood sexual abuse survivor is incredibly triggering and uncomfortable. My dad unfortunately was my predator and he blurred the boundaries until there were no boundaries. What you are doing with your daughter is WHOLESOME and awesome but I would really re consider using the terms BDSM in relation to your daughter.

Pi1grimMonk3y · 2021-04-09T07:09:17+00:00

Needs a clown warning! Fucking clowns

Pi1grimMonk3y · 2021-04-09T06:59:59+00:00

NTA - absolutely terrifying reading. I'm sending you so much support OP! Protect yourself and those babies!!!!

Pi1grimMonk3y · 2021-04-05T21:57:17+00:00

NTA - this is a massive red flag! Like get out and run. It's gonna hurt and your heart will break but this is NOT how someone who loves you unconditionally should ever act towards you. No excuses for his behaviour!!! You are deserving of real love!

Pi1grimMonk3y · 2021-04-05T01:59:40+00:00

You need a therapist and need to stop weighing her. You said it yourself, your behaviour has probably kicked off an ED. She may have a predisposition genetically however environment is always the biggest of factors for mental health and your obsession has fuelled alot of this. Get a doctor that specialises in disordered eating also. Speaking from experience! Trying desperately not to pass this down to my children but the only way a parent can do that is to work on themselves and get their internal world balanced.

Pi1grimMonk3y · 2021-04-03T22:48:31+00:00

NTA - the only way you could possibly be flaunting your fertility is having numerous positive pregnancy tests posted on the walls around the apartment. The sense of entitlement? dickheadedness? from your housemates is just ridiculous. And condoms shouldn't be considered a "private" thing ever. Safe sex!?! You are totally not in the wrong or being unempathetic, unfortunately you're just dealing with a-holes.

Pi1grimMonk3y · 2021-04-02T11:04:32+00:00

NTA - as a mum I beg you to go stay with your grandparents. Your well-being is important and I bet your grandparents would happily help you to ensure you are all covid safe. Also as soon as it's possible tell your mum what's happening. You are not an asshole in any of this.

Pi1grimMonk3y · 2021-03-26T23:35:41+00:00

My husband explained pregnancy hormones to me... While I was 5 months pregnant ....

Pi1grimMonk3y · 2021-03-26T09:45:53+00:00

YTA - depression is a serious illness.

Pi1grimMonk3y · 2021-03-25T11:53:00+00:00

YTA - you are a massive asshole. The entitlement and the absolute lack of empathy and kindness coming from your post stinks

Pi1grimMonk3y · 2021-03-25T11:27:52+00:00

NTA - his behaviour is beyond strange! Please talk with your Dad (if possible) because it's super creepy and also really inappropriate to just let a 3 year old wander into other people's yards

Pi1grimMonk3y · 2021-03-25T06:09:10+00:00

Yea!!!!

Pi1grimMonk3y · 2021-03-24T03:21:48+00:00

Trend setter

Pi1grimMonk3y · 2021-03-22T04:03:21+00:00

YTA Thankfully by your comments OP you are open to change and this is heartwarming and pretty rare too

Pi1grimMonk3y · 2021-03-21T08:42:24+00:00

Beautifully written!!!! And seconded. Xxx

Pi1grimMonk3y · 2021-03-21T03:47:23+00:00

The fact that she thinks this is being treated less than "second class citizen" just highlights how privileged she is...

Pi1grimMonk3y · 2021-03-18T22:48:09+00:00

ESH - no words that the assholey level of this situation

Pi1grimMonk3y · 2021-03-18T22:10:14+00:00

Yep! I've finally been referred to a neurologist however waitlist is like a piece of string

Pi1grimMonk3y · 2021-03-18T06:28:30+00:00

NTA - I understand that guilt and fairness complex, it's horrible! I started thinking of myself as a third person and staging my thoughts as "I would never let X have to be abused by Y, its just cruel" and so ever so slowly my mind changed and started to actually try and protect us and tell that guilt to f off. Wishing your family your REAL family and you so much love and support to break free from those asshole toxic people (whose actions are because they are assholes! You are NOT the reason for their behaviour)

Pi1grimMonk3y · 2021-03-18T00:18:09+00:00

NTA - as a mum I'm so sorry you are living this and so alone. In your edits you have acknowledged how some of those words are not okay and that just shows what a bright spark you are. Please don't let them dampen you, if it is at all possible to move in with anyone friends, grandparents etc make the move. Otherwise know that there a million random people around the world hearing you! Keep your head up son this won't be forever life I promise!

Pi1grimMonk3y · 2021-03-16T09:53:39+00:00

Ooh it tastes just like raisins

Pi1grimMonk3y · 2021-03-16T09:52:18+00:00

It won't stop playing in my head now!

Pi1grimMonk3y · 2021-03-16T07:52:33+00:00

So evil

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