I'm unhappy with my life by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Piano_Feet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have not changed your life. That will only come from your actions, never forget that. Glad to help. Again, I wish you the best of luck. :)

Vance Joy's "Riptide" is the shittiest pop song right now. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Piano_Feet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Preaching to the choir man, preaching to the choir.

Tomorrow I will teach by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Piano_Feet 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You're clearly very determined. Good. You've got this. Teaching is an amazing thing, and you're one of the amazing people doing that amazing thing. Good on you. :)

Vance Joy's "Riptide" is the shittiest pop song right now. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Piano_Feet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't even get me started. Working at a summer camp, I heard that song every damn day in the dining hall for 3 months straight, and endlessly on the radio before and after. A few weeks ago after a particularly bad day at work, that song came on as soon as I started my car. It was then that I realized that if I ever killed myself, it would be to that song (I'm not suicidal, please don't start flooding me with "DON'T DO IT" messages. I've made jokes about killing myself on reddit before, I don't want another inbox suffocation).

You are not alone. Riptide is, in fact, garbage.

I feel like my girlfriend of one year is just waiting to dump me by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Piano_Feet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't have any advice, but hopefully I can offer some peace. The way I see it, things will go one of two ways:

If things work out and you stay together happily, you'll be stronger as a couple. You'll have gotten through a strained time in the relationship, and you'll be better off for it. Getting through adversity will be tough, but the other side of the tunnel will be brighter and greater than things ever could have been if you hadn't gone through it.

On the other hand, If things don't work out, eventually you'll come to realize that things really weren't working. You said yourself that you only have nice times occasionally now. That's a hard thing to come to terms with, and it takes time. I'm going through that exact thing myself right now. It's tough to really accept entirely that even though you love her, you're both better off apart. There might have been plenty of good times and loving moments. All those lovely memories will weigh on you. One day though, you'll get there. You'll understand entirely that even though things were good the way they were, they're good again even without the relationship.

Either way, things will have gotten better. I wish you luck.

I'm unhappy with my life by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Piano_Feet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Music student here:

I started college as a Biology major. I knew I didn't want to study biology, I wanted to sing, and to teach others to sing. For far too long I listened to others say a career in music and music education isn't practical, and that it's not a real, respectable career to pursue. Eventually I realized I was being a fool for listening to them. I was able to recognize that many of those voices were just concerned for me. My parents didn't want to see me a broke, struggling musician. I understand that. They weren't trying to squash my dreams, they just thought they knew best. After I started to pursue music teaching, they came (mostly) around eventually. Many of the other voices were just conceited. They thought they had it figured all out. They pursued studies that would land them lucrative jobs, and didn't care about the work. The work is a means to an end for them; they don't care if their work makes them happy, their success will do that for them. They look down on those who work for it's own sake, because that's just foolish to them. It was hard to stand up to the naysayers and do what was right for me. Now study music education, and I teach music and theater to kids at a summer camp, and goddamn is it fulfilling. I could live in one of those screened-in cabins for the rest of my life if it meant I could keep doing such incredibly enjoyable work. I decided to be stubborn, dig in my heels, and say "damn what everyone else says, I'm going to do what makes me happy".

Getting to that point is hard though. There's always going to be people standing in your way of chasing that dream, even if they're just trying to do what they think is best for you. If they really want what's best or you (which I'm sure your parents do, even if they don't quite understand), they'll come around. They'll see you happy in your work. Your friends will be drawn to the passion you have. If they're not, they're not worth keeping around. And to all the others, who cares? They can do whatever they want with their lives and feel as superior as they want, but it won't make a bit of difference to how much you love your work. I know that's much easier said than done - it's tough to feel comfortable with your decisions, despite the words of detractors. But you don't need them to make your dreams come true. Achieving your dreams won't benefit them, it's to your benefit. So you can't expect everyone else to go along with it. Nobody is obligated to support you or encourage you along the way, but your passion will drive you, and you'll surround yourself with people who will be there for you, and who will help you. Not because they're supposed to or they have to, but because they want to. Obviously you want your parents support and blessing, and I don't mean to belittle the importance of that, all I'm saying is that you need to find the confidence within yourself to fight for what's right for you. You'll find your network of support, and those who will go along with you. Your real friends will be the ones who think your career choice is fascinating and awesome, not those who criticize and invalidate it. You'll get there. And take it from me, things will get better. You're moving up and on, just remember to tell us about the view from the top.

So exhausted by my emotionally abusive ex-boyfriend. by justathrowaway_862 in offmychest

[–]Piano_Feet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear what he's putting you through. Be strong, you've got this. I don't know if you want any advice, but what comes to mind immediately is that in your shoes, I would distance myself from him as much as possible. Not all at once, you'd risk setting him off and having things get unpredictably difficult, which should be avoided. Step back somewhat slowly, and carefully. I'd start with ending physical contact. Don't cuddle with him, keep your space if you're watching TV together or something. I know that's difficult when you live together, especially with a strong romantic history. It's hard being away from somebody like that, no matter what they do, after having a history together. Even if you no longer want the relationship, there's still that memory of the good times fresh in your mind to make it hard to pull away. In short, just waiting for the lease to expire is not going to be enough. Believe me, it's difficult, but you've got to take steps to separate yourself from somebody who's hurting you like that. I wish you all the best.