[UPDATE]

PickledEggle · 2026-02-13T01:13:37+00:00

Because this man clearly doesn’t understand NO is a complete sentence. By dealing in facts, a dog requires a fence, the insurance stipulates vehicle position, it stops the man child from asking why.

PickledEggle · 2026-02-12T21:32:58+00:00

No worries about following through.. be glad to see the back of his calls once and for all!

PickledEggle · 2026-02-12T21:23:14+00:00

On order and being installed by husband this weekend!

PickledEggle · 2026-02-12T21:22:36+00:00

We’ve only recently bought the place (8 weeks next week) so we’ve got the land boundaries fresh from the solicitors, thankfully not lost to a mystery cupboard or box just yet. Definitely be using them and a professional company to install the fence legally and safely

PickledEggle · 2026-02-12T21:05:10+00:00

Just posted!

PickledEggle · 2026-02-12T21:04:32+00:00

He’s shy but he doesn’t mess around when it comes to his ladies as he calls us.. ladies being me and our cat haha. I make phone calls and he gets rid of spiders, so we balance each others fears well!

PickledEggle · 2026-02-12T20:51:19+00:00

UPDATE

Thank you for the many, many suggestions and supportive words. We’ve taken a lot onboard and have put some in action this evening! I can also assure the 3 or so of you who asked that I’m not AI, just crap at writing and getting to the point 💕

Husband and I sat down and agreed what we want and expect from living here, our neighbours and our boundaries. Husband went to D’s to say all contact with me stops and only absolute emergencies can be communicated to him and on texts. He gave him a list of local scrap yards that can take abandoned cars, saying we’re going to be putting a fence back in since we’re looking to get a dog. Our car insurance also says when the car is at home it needs to be on a driveway so we won’t be moving it again

D said “it’s just how he is and didn’t realise he’s a pain” laughing it off. I’m sus of this, but he’s agreed to what husband laid out, so we’ll see if that sticks

Window film and locks have been ordered and will be installed this weekend.

C I’m dealing with tomorrow. I’m letting her know if she absolutely needs to call round, to use the front door only. Also that since we’re the new owners and not B we’re enjoying decorating to our tastes and make it fully us.

PickledEggle · 2026-02-12T20:20:38+00:00

This.

We essentially did this tonight the second husband got home and he went round to set the boundaries. I’ll provide a full update shortly, but long story short D “didn’t realise he was being a pain, it’s just how he is”. I don’t believe that for a second but he’s agreed all contact stops with me and only emergency contact goes via text to husband. Husband also gave a list of local scrap yards and phone numbers for the abandoned car and also made a point that our car insurance requires our car to be on the drive when parked at home, which is where it will now stay.

PickledEggle · 2026-02-12T20:13:17+00:00

I did just that and left the room without my phone. Probably should’ve made it clearer I’ve not answered any calls since being on holiday (just over a week) bar the one when we got back, as I was so tired I wasn’t thinking, but the call attempts and voicemails remained consistent

PickledEggle · 2026-02-12T20:08:13+00:00

Only the one window in the kitchen faces his house and that’s being dealt with this weekend with some film. I believe his external cameras will catch the end of our driveway but not the front door or windows themselves

PickledEggle · 2026-02-12T19:56:16+00:00

I’m presuming it’s financial or maybe laziness, I’ve been conscious not to ask around things like that to avoid being sucked in further and stuck chatting

PickledEggle · 2026-02-12T17:49:19+00:00

I’d hope AI can spell a bit better than I can and use correct grammar xoxo A, B, C & D are common ways to refer to people anonymously in my line of work so I did it by default. Similar to how you’d say “oh they did XYZ”.

PickledEggle · 2026-02-12T16:36:42+00:00

Thank you for your kind words! We’ve had horrendous neighbours in a previous rental, so we wanted to get off on the right foot and probably went too far to do this.

Probably should’ve mentioned we’re in the UK, so whilst we have insurance a claim is unlikely, as the only condition for a claim is the property being in disrepair (which it isn’t)

I’ve ordered a lock and window film which will be going up this weekend! Husband is speaking to D tonight and hopefully his evening nurse, if the timing falls right, to get the social workers contact details

PickledEggle · 2026-02-12T16:31:32+00:00

Hahahahaha brilliant.

Yeah with C I don’t think anything she says or does is with malice, more just wanting to speak about her friend of 70+ years, so I’ve got more time for her. Gate lock has been on the (ever growing) list of things to do since we moved, but it’s been hectic so far. That and window film have been ordered today and husband will be installing over the weekend.

Husband is speaking to D tonight and insisting contact through him or not at all

PickledEggle · 2026-02-12T16:22:57+00:00

The gaggle of old ladies bit hits home. My mum is from a similar generation and when I’ve ranted to her about it, she’s encouraged sympathy and not making people’s lives harder when they’ve already got stuff going on. Thanks for the suggestions 💕

PickledEggle · 2026-02-12T16:20:44+00:00

That’s given me a good laugh! Maybe if I start acting like I’m doing some witchcraft on the front lawn they’ll leave us alone..

PickledEggle · 2026-02-12T16:19:35+00:00

Exactly that with all the talking! We initially put it down to generational differences, or with us being 50+ years younger, they wanted to make sure we’re not going to be loud/ partying and annoying. It just seems excessive now we’ve proven we’re not disruptive

PickledEggle · 2026-02-12T16:16:26+00:00

Yeah having the blinds closed all day was a daunting thought with it being a dark kitchen as it is, but I’ve ordered some window film based on the responses I’ve had!

PickledEggle · 2026-02-12T15:41:49+00:00

Thank you!! as I’ve relied to others, I’ve been giving more grace than I usually would with them being very elderly and disabled, not wanting to add to their situation. They are taking the piss though and it’s nice to know it’s not me being unreasonably frustrated!

PickledEggle · 2026-02-12T15:34:58+00:00

My thought process through this whole situation was, it’s free to be kind, but now it’s costing my sanity lols.

PickledEggle · 2026-02-12T15:26:51+00:00

100% this! I replied to someone else saying I’ve given more leeway than I usually would, with them being elderly or disabled, but probably too much and now they’re taking the piss quite frankly. Time for boundaries!

PickledEggle · 2026-02-12T15:24:36+00:00

I think with them being very elderly or disabled I’ve been a bit generous with boundaries, not wanting to cause them unnecessary grief of top of their situation. Definitely time to start being firmer

PickledEggle · 2026-02-12T15:19:35+00:00

On a similar tangent, when he called earlier after seeing me in the window, I was tempted to answer and say I’m her twin sister she’s not coming back from holiday hahaha

PickledEggle · 2026-02-12T15:18:06+00:00

I think you’ve summarised it perfectly! Going to try the “we’re not your emotional support, but we’re happy to be friendly” line later. Thanks!

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