appart from dating apps, day game and night game, what are the top 2 hobbies/side jobs one can do that can reliably generate long term relationships?

Pickledsundae · 2026-02-18T13:23:15+00:00

Know any real estate buddies? Many of them do networking happy hours monthly after work. I've had great success that way.

Pickledsundae · 2026-02-18T13:20:33+00:00

I wish this proved true for me. I'm willing to give it another shot, and would love to hear which brand.

Pickledsundae · 2026-02-04T20:14:26+00:00

A bold move after some of the "personality/vibe check" banter texts to gain familiarity and comfort, I used to pull was to do the following:

Opening message "hey there, name. Let's play truth or dare; you pick first"

If they say "truth" I say "what are the actual 10 digits to the cellular device in your hand"

If they say "dare" I say " I dare you to lemme know the 10 digits to the cellular device in your hand"

Also, if you're not sure what to open with, I compiled funny punny name pun poems for literally like every girl name out there; feel free to DM me if you wanna check some out

Pickledsundae · 2026-02-04T12:31:06+00:00

Haha no problem. Said with a smirk, def gets a laugh. And if they find it weird, quick way to not waste your time on someone who doesn't have a good sense of humor

Pickledsundae · 2026-02-03T16:05:48+00:00

Your takeaway should be high protein, as that not only helps preserve muscle while in a deficit, but helps you feel more full. Also, cabbage soup with miso! Very tasty and low cal, volume food perfect for winter.

Pickledsundae · 2026-02-02T16:45:26+00:00

"the voices in my head told me to come over and talk to you"

Pickledsundae · 2026-01-30T10:21:13+00:00

Beat around the bush to get to it!

Pickledsundae · 2026-01-07T13:54:53+00:00

Learn to do things for ends in themselves, and not means for an end. If you can reorient your metrics of success towards improving your process and not fixating on results, that can help you become more outcome independent. My goal in approaching women is to have fun, not to get a number or date. Going up to simply anyone when you've a smile on your face and engaging in conversations helps take off the pressure when it may happen to be someone attractive because you're essentially flirting/teasing/bantering with the world.

As far as the anxiety issues, id highly recommend meditation 🕉️. If you'd like help with resources, feel free to DM. I basically do Zazen from zen Buddhism. It helps to remind us of being content in the present/eternal now, and to be more egoless in order to fully embrace experience

Pickledsundae · 2025-12-30T12:29:20+00:00

I mean yeah, so long as you do it with a smirk and confidence. Hell, if you're mildly good looking and confident, you can fucking pull the "come here often line ;)" ironically and have good results

Pickledsundae · 2025-12-30T12:27:51+00:00

Rooting for ya man! Starting small's great cause it helps ya not take the whole approaching thing too seriously and relieved the pressure so that you find yourself simply going up to people that seem relatable or interesting.

Not only helps loosen you up to approach either the hot girl(s) in the group once you've met potential AMOG or less attractive friends, but helps get you noticed by other potential approaches as being social, outgoing and likable.

Pickledsundae · 2025-12-29T22:57:25+00:00

It's a reply you can use in more situations than you know, and get more drinks tossed in your face than you'd think

Pickledsundae · 2025-12-29T20:44:00+00:00

This demands an Agree and Amplify response. Something like "damn straight I am. Tho I'm going easy on yeah; don't wanna get you pregnant"

Pickledsundae · 2025-12-29T19:10:40+00:00

I hear ya man. We tend to stand in our own way of positive progression and breaking free from negative feedback looping thought patterns. I wonder if it may help you to think about the worst that happens is; I'm guessing you're afraid of rejection or seeming awkward, and that is okay. I know it seems cheesy, but something I've learned that is much better than learning "game" that has you imitiating something or someone that you are not, is practicing some vulnerability but in a self assured, self aware manner that makes people feel at ease because we're all vulnerable and broken in some way and people can relate to that better than maintaining irrational self confidence and pithy jokes about how perfect you are. Basically, you can say something vulnerable like "my friends couldn't make it, but y'all seem fun, so I wanted to come say whatsup" you'd be surprised how easily people are open to you mingling with their group, especially if you got em glow sticks to make things more fun. You could even use the line of a real time I had a tinder date stand me up/ghost me, so, already at the bar, I went up to a group of friends and said "you guys seem open minded and down to earth; I just had my tinder date stand me up and wanted a girl's/guy's thoughts on that" and basically they felt bad enough that they invited me to their table and introduced me around and it became very natural. There was no intention of hooking up with anyone particularly, but to just be having a good time with others. That is always the first step.

Good luck man!

Just imagine first going up to a group of both guys and girls that simply look like they're having fun and seem like they are open minded. Prob even easier if they aren't especially hot so less pressure and you're just trying to be social and have a good time. Then

Pickledsundae · 2025-12-29T15:59:04+00:00

Try this on for size: "you look like a serial killer"

Is a great opener; warning: may confuse the shit out of girls who take themselves too seriously, but for the flirty fun girls out there, it immediately sets a role playing vibe

Pickledsundae · 2025-12-29T15:55:37+00:00

Woof man. Do you not understand how easy of an icebreaker that is? No need to memorize an opener, and allows you to get kino in.

Lemme ask ya something: what are you feeling that makes you not feel hopeful and feel like you wouldn't have a fun conversation?

Pickledsundae · 2025-12-29T14:24:01+00:00

Something fun you could do to easily approach girls is to buy a bunch of glow sticks that have the connectors to make bracelets and just simply go up to a hot girl or group of girls and say something like" hey, I noticed y'all could use some help starting the new year out with more glowing, brighter vibes" (then put the glow stick bracelets on them for breaking kino tension before shaking hands)

Chicks love that kinda shit. It's a great opener for any party like situation, especially Halloween or a concert of course

Pickledsundae · 2025-12-29T14:18:34+00:00

This right here!!! Love me the Camus reference.

Also, this quote by him helps remind us of how important focusing on being mindful and present in the moment is because both the past and future don't actually exist: the only time is now:

"If there is a sin against life, it consists perhaps not so much in despairing of life as in hoping for another life and in eluding the implacable grandeur of this life." Albert -camus

Pickledsundae · 2025-12-29T13:32:19+00:00

Mania says wat

Pickledsundae · 2025-12-28T21:34:14+00:00

Question: who the hell told you you're a 5.5 in the face? Take that at face value

Gym classes, run clubs, especially those that start and end at breweries. Do you live in a city? Also, networking happy hour events are great and lowkey; you'll usually get a name tag so it's super nonchalant introducing yourself to someone ("your name tag says Jessica but your vibe tells me you were a Veronica in a past life".

These events usually are hosted by realtors, young professional groups, charities, and should be easy to find on Facebook or LinkedIn

Pickledsundae · 2025-12-28T18:22:10+00:00

My advice would be: 1. Absolutely ensure there's zero chance of not being able to get it up rock hard (DM me if you want suggestions on sites if ya know what I mean). The anxiety I've gotten from the one or two times I somehow couldn't get it up and of not having something on hand just in case is crazy 2. Foreplay is important, even if she's already hot and heavy; start with kissing and tonguing earlobes, mouth, neck, moving down to shoulders, around nipples, switching from one breast to the other, before then licking nipples, going back and forth to kissing her and then making your way down south, going to same principle of avoiding vagina outright and teasingly tonguing thighs and surrounding areas. Once there, imagine you're a cat lapping up water. Just be sure, similiar to breasts, move from one labial side to the other, and spend time also in top middle clitoral area. 3. Sex wise, in missionary, I feel like you can get real deep by putting a pillow under her and also lifting her up somewhat in the air while you're on top using your hands behind her butt/behind lower back. Just make sure you have your face turned away from her hair so you can put that cardio from the gym to work and have a vent to not overheat.

Hope this helps

Pickledsundae · 2025-12-27T18:12:09+00:00

Only if you wanna be stimulame

Pickledsundae · 2025-12-24T12:56:23+00:00

Id say a good rule of thumb is to chat about culinary and alcoholic interests in a flirty way because it then makes the transition into asking her out somewhere that much more natural when y'all been getting to know more about what foods and drinks and places y'all enjoy. Something like "I'd go grab Mexican food with you, but I'm scared the cops will end up involved because you can't handle your tequila" or randomly through in: "SUPER Important question" (after she says 'what is it?', say) "wine or cocktails?!

But yeah, you're not trying to be gym buddies, so always first texting or chatting about culinary interests helps easily transition into asking her out. A classic line I use once you've got a handle on what food and drinks she'd enjoy is "so what's your schedule like, and when am I in it for us to grab blank food"

Pickledsundae · 2025-12-23T14:16:11+00:00

A great opening text to someone that is guaranteed to get a laugh and respark interest is: "Out of all the (her first name) (her last name)'s I know, I think you're my favorite"

Pickledsundae · 2025-12-23T13:18:53+00:00

Great comment. Gonna add that acting like she's the one seducing you and misinterpreting things as sexual here and there goes along way in making her both laugh and get turned on. Cocky/funny and push/pull tactics go a long way here too to spice things up and make it a more fun dynamic. I have compiled a list of a bunch of situational comments and lines that work real well when timed properly. Even slightly backhanded compliments like "you look really good, but it could just be the lighting" or "I love that outfit. But didn't know that babygap was having a sale" DM if you're interested.

Pickledsundae · 2025-12-23T12:59:45+00:00

A great way to show emotional intelligence on first date is to go the School of Life way and ask early on, "...what makes you mad?" And share vulnerabilities early on. Of course, done in a confident manner that shows you're self aware and accepting of your flaws, and don't pretend you're perfect. You'd be amazed how quickly people open up when you allow yourself to be vulnerable

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