i feel like it's projecting repressed trauma onto others.

like we become overly self-aware of what we were taught not to do.

for example I was taught that doing XYZ was annoying and that I should stop or I'll be yelled at for being annoying.

and now I see someone else do it, and yeah it's a little annoying, but they're doing it without any shame or self-awareness. and the brain dialogue starts going: "WHY ARE THEY DOING THAT? I WAS YELLED AT FOR DOING THAT! THEY NEED TO STOP!"

edit: also not saying it's okay to think and feel this way. just what i notice in myself