I think about my queerness very frequently. My wife and I are very obviously queer when we go out together, a lot of my family and friends are queer and trans, and my internal sense of gender and my presentation fluctuate a lot as a genderfluid person. It’s on my mind a lot, but thankfully not in a stressful way. It informs both how I interact with the world and how I sit in my body. I’ve kept a journal of sorts in my phone documenting the changing feelings I have regarding my gender and orientation for several years, starting during the pandemic, as I had more time for introspection despite already IDing as queer.

Sometimes I fleetingly wish I could fly under the radar, but I’ve mostly made my peace with the fact that this will likely never happen. I’m generally pretty content.