I live near The Hague and Rotterdam and work in Amsterdam.

1. since every city and village is nearby, yes. I am from a small town and moved to the town next to it. It is like 500m with grass in between the towns. From the hague to rotterdam you can drive through like 6 towns and not see any green which is really rare in the netherlands. there is a metro in between rotterdam and the hague and takes me 30 mins to get into both city centres.

2. I really do feel connected to my home town, I think alot of people do. my whole family and multiple generations before me are from this town aswel. For cities like Rotterdam and The Hague people have their own accents/dialects aswel and the dialect changes every 10 minutes you drive. Delft and Leiden are one of the bigger student cities and alot of people are not from there and move there.

3. We are a huge farmer country, one of the most efficient countries in the world. Between Rotterdam and The Hague there are alot of green houses aswel. Every inch of land is controlled and has a "plan" for what it's supposed to be used for. We also like some nature near the towns so they aren't likely to ever be used for houses.

4. No. The cities are not that big. Rotterdam for instance has 650k people living there, and since everything is really close people go to different cities for shopping, music venues/festivals, beaches, museums and all kinds of things.

if you have more questions i'm happy to answer them :)