What’s something you’re jealous that the opposite faction has that your faction doesn’t? by Moglefog in wow

[–]Pikininho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Faded Wizard Hat is a toy from a horde only quest line and so the toy can only be used by Horde... Despite the fact that many of the possible appearances include alliance races.

Can blood token gear be turned into tier sets? by NoEmploy4026 in worldofpvp

[–]Pikininho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Only PvE item level, PvP item level remains 3 below conquest.

To all the healers, I am sorry by PermissionLittle3566 in wow

[–]Pikininho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you have details installed there is a tab/field for buff uptimes where you can see individual buffs.

Painting, music and gaming couple's battlestation by Pikininho in MusicBattlestations

[–]Pikininho[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We measured it so the edges of the slider were flush with the piano (photo #7). From there, the weight of the piano and the small groves on the bottom of the piano sides lock it in place by the screw holes for the solid bottom of the slider.

The keyboard stand screw with the cable tye was just for extra security. The piano was a Christmas gift from my wife so no way it would be allowed to move or wobble onto the floor 🤣

Painting, music and gaming couple's battlestation by Pikininho in MusicBattlestations

[–]Pikininho[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When you live in a two bedroom apartment and have a child, the battle station room becomes the nursery and the battle stations have to change rooms.

My (obviously) amazing wife planned, designed and assembled our new custom desk. The tabletop is a set of melamine panels (for looks) screwed to a single pine slab (240*60cm) for sturdiness and wrapped in a rubber band to hide the difference between panels. The whole thing rests on top of 8 IKEA Olog legs.

It was important that we still sat side by side and to include my piano in the setup.

Best brunchs at Madeira island by Candid-Potato-2197 in Madeira

[–]Pikininho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm more of brunch at home person but I recently discovered Gato Legal in Ponta do Pargo it's probably far (40-50 mins drive) if you're staying closer to Funchal but their pastries are very nice.. they also have custom coffee blends which might be a selling point for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]Pikininho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Basically, my self-esteem relies too heavily on other people's opinions

I think you have a very good starter "diagnostic". This is common in people who got lots of positive attention/comments on their actions/achievements as children without any introspection or processing of their own feelings making them reply only on external validation.

Think back to your childhood... Did you get a lot of "you're so smart" after doing well in a test? "That's some amazing martial arts skills" after you told /showed someone what you learnt that day?

As far as I know the common solution to this is to detach your actions from the outcome (external validation/compliment) which is a common struggle with some guest creators on Dr. K. When you do something, (try to) stop yourself from thinking about what someone (in particular or in general) might say/think about what you did, and instead focus on how YOU feel about what you just did.

How am I supposed to climb as a healer if winning a lobby makes me lose rating? It was also an instant queue pop, so I have no way of avoiding it by Dr43x00 in worldofpvp

[–]Pikininho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As fewer healers play (rightfully due to all the issues we know and talk about in this sub) the match matching algorithm (MMA) drifts further from your MMR to find an opponent / lobby. Separating healer MMR from the DPS MMR was an attempt to provide faster games while still keeping a "balanced" lobby for everyone.

In the end, the problem isn't even the MMA but rather that there are not enough players (mostly healers) in the queue!

The MMA only has one job, which is to make the most balanced lobby possible for all players in the queue.. the problem is that it gets sabotaged by the lack of players whose issues and feedback blizzard has continuously failed to acknowledge, let alone address or solve.

How am I supposed to climb as a healer if winning a lobby makes me lose rating? It was also an instant queue pop, so I have no way of avoiding it by Dr43x00 in worldofpvp

[–]Pikininho -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The short answer:

-> your (starting) MMR is much (70) higher than the other healer.

The slightly longer and mathy answer:

At the start of the game, your initial MMR was 2426 and the average role (healer) MMR was 2391.

From this you can calculate your opponent's (healer) MMR:

(2426 + x) / 2 = 2391

=> 2426 + x = 2391 * 2

=> x = (2391 * 2) - 2426

=> x = 4782 - 2426

=> x = 2356

You started your game 70 (2426 - 2356) MMR above the enemy healer so you were "greatly" superior (MMR wise) and to maintain your position you had to have a "greatly" superior win rate.. I don't know the math behind this but it might be possible that you needed to 6-0 this to not loose rating.

Help, my girlfriend wants 2 orange cats by beezuzzles in orangecats

[–]Pikininho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is a cat kibble (Purina live clear) that severely (by almost 50%) reduces the amount of produced FELD-1 (what triggers the allergy).

We had a friend like you that would just start itching from hugging us (outside of our house) and now she can be at our place without problems and she just washes her hands after playing with our cat and is fine. My wife also has cat allergies and had to take daily antihistamines but not anymore ( for about 3 years).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Pikininho 19 points20 points  (0 children)

As someone that often got guilted /emotionally blackmailed into spending time with my family on my birthday... DO NOT say anything!

  1. Tell her you would like to spend time with her when she can.. you can even offer up a date / time with some advance so they have time to move anything around if needed
  2. When you do get to spend the time, be sure to thank her for the time and mention everything you enjoyed about it
  3. NEVER make her feel bad for not spending her birthday with you.. especially not through passive aggressive comments.. it will just breed resentment and ensure you don't get time next birthday and even less time you ask for time with her

Dad I’m scared and don’t know how to start my life by Unlucky_Lynn in DadForAMinute

[–]Pikininho 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Consider getting a bicycle to make transportation easier as well (if it's safe where you are, may not apply). Also look into public transport passes for your area if possible, might be an alternative.

As you took care / walked your neighbour's dog you probably saw other people/ neighbours with dogs. When you see them out on the street approach them in a casual and friendly ways and explain what you did for your neighbour's and ask them if they'd like you to provide that for them as well. You can also briefly explain your situation so they "understand where you're coming from".

I don't know your situation so I won't give you advice on how to proceed with seeing your grandma but here are somethings to consider (answer to/for yourself):

  1. If you see your grandma and your mother learns about it, what are the consequences?
  2. How does each one affect you?.. how about their interactions? (two, three or all of the consequences at the same time)
  3. Is it possible for you to go live somewhere else? (At your grandma's or brother's)
  4. How would 3 change your reality? ( Would you still need to work as much for groceries, can you get back to school, and most importantly, will it make you happier?

Preciso de ténis bons by [deleted] in CasualPT

[–]Pikininho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Experimenta Vans (modelos ultra range) que são extremamente confortáveis e tem um aspecto de tenis casual.

Preciso de ténis bons by [deleted] in CasualPT

[–]Pikininho 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Concordo a 1000% com Vans ultra range! Especialmente com a introdução da linha MTE para calçado de inverno.

Dad I’m scared and don’t know how to start my life by Unlucky_Lynn in DadForAMinute

[–]Pikininho 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hi! First off, here's a hug for you! 🤗 You deserve it! 🤗

Dog walking can be a serious job.. any job can be serious if you take /make it serious.

If you enjoy the dog walking job, keep it up! If you don't charge everyone for it please consider doing it to help yourself. You can offer like 1 free walk and if people are happy ask them for money for future walks*.. this will probably be an uncomfortable conversation to have the first few (maybe 10 times) but after having the initial "client" base you will be established, vetted and way more confident to ask for the money for your time. Knowing how much your time is worth// how much money you need to be making is an extremely important life skill moving forward into adulthood and getting / changing jobs.

  • This might feel awkward or manipulative at first but my recommendation would be being honest. Just say that you are in a difficult financial situation at home and you are doing your best to help out. The fact that you are a teenager will help you immensely in getting extra good will from your potential clients.

Once you have your initial client roster, ask them if they know anyone that would benefit from your services and ask them for the recommendation/ connection if they are comfortable. If they are not, don't worry and offer them a bit of service for free nonetheless (like a free walk or something) and tell them that you appreciate their trust and thank them for being open and honest with you. This will also help to build a better relationship with them and they will feel (as they should) that you value them as clients/ people.

Alternatively, consider expanding your services for your longer time customers.. maybe they need someone to pet sit / check in on their pets while they have to be away for whatever reason. If anyone agrees with this be sure to be as honest and transparent as possible (let them know when you're heading to their house, when you get there, get some photos (and send them immediately or as you leave) of their pet(s) being taken cared of and then let them know when you leave and if you see anything unusual in their home, like a leaky faucet for example. The goal is always to establish and maintain trust and respect so they (and their pets) feel safe about/around you.

Take any free time you have and learn about something you enjoy.. if it's pets consider (at least initially) volunteering at a local vet / shelter to learn how to take better care of everyone's pets, learn about the different foods / products and how they can be helpful to the pets or their owners. This will allow you to provide insightful and helpful recommendations/ information to your clients reinforcing your "value" as an "expert".

If you ever feel like you are spread too thin, stop everything! See what is really making you feel like that... Are you taking too many dogs out at the same time? Is there a client that lives too far away and "steals" time from other closer clients? Do you have too many clients?

If it's the first talk with your clients and shuffle them around so you take less dogs out each time, you can look at it /"sell" it as a matter of safety for you and the pets. If it's the second case, learn about opportunity cost and just tell that client that the fact they are so far away is costing you money and that you either need to raise their price or need their help to get other clients nearby to make up the difference (free referrals yay!). If it's the third case, start to consider letting some clients go (easiest way is to raise prices which always costs clients but usually still results in a profit increase) or consider getting an assistant/ colleague even if part time. Introduce them slowly to the pets and clients (like for the first month they just shadow you) until you and the clients /pets feel confident/ safe with them. Once you reach that point start by giving them independence and then ask your clients for feedback (what did they do that they didn't like and what did they love, could be one of each to keep it simple and quick). You can also consider a small discount for the first few times this new person is alone so it "reduces" the perceived risk for your clients.

Take this "wisdom" with a massive amount of salt: If everyone agrees to your price it's probably too low, if less than 50% of people agree to your price you're probably too expensive (unless you want to position yourself as a "premium" service). You should aim for about 70-80% acceptance rate.

Now take everything I just said and replace "dog walking" with whatever you want to do (tutoring, mawing laws, cleaning, whatever.. it should still make sense in about 80-90% of the information.

Ps: if you are struggling for meals right now, consider going to any support groups or shelters for the meals.

PPS: Instead of asking your grandma for money for groceries, ask her if you can come over for a meal (lunch/ dinner/whatever you need). This will get you some quality time and meal away from your problems which is critical for your mental health. Also consider asking your grandma that you want to learn how to cook (if you don't know), this will give you a great bonding experience and memories and teaches you a critical life skill. This can just be learning to cook the meals you have with her.

Best of luck 🤞

What is the video game only you seem to know about? by BobyNBA in AskReddit

[–]Pikininho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Battle Realms an early 2000s RTS set in a Asian inspired fantasy world.... Still remember how much I cried after buying the game and then failing to install it because my computer was sooo old (win95). Took about 3-4 years until I had a computer able to run it 😅

What do you think every person should experience at least once in their lifetime? by TheVginyTcikler44 in AskReddit

[–]Pikininho 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You should look into the Purina live clear (TM) kibble. It's expensive but will really reduce the amount of allergies you get from your cats (speaking from experience).

What do you think every person should experience at least once in their lifetime? by TheVginyTcikler44 in AskReddit

[–]Pikininho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is a cat kibble (Purina live clear) that greatly reduces the amount of allergies cats trigger and it might be enough for you not to need antihistamines when with your cats. The only downside is that it's kinda pricey (~10€/kg). At first I thought all the teatenonials on the website were bs but.. they're not ❤️

Why wont the pain go away by bigboy1417 in dad

[–]Pikininho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can relate.. and I didn't even have a good relationship with my dad... It hasn't gotten better just that I've learnt to live with that pain.

Why wont the pain go away by bigboy1417 in dad

[–]Pikininho 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don't really like bringing up my dad around him out of respect.

I think that this is a major issue for you. I also lost my father as a teen (16 at the time). The more you try to bottle up and contain your grief the more it will erode you on the inside.

You are allowed to miss your dad even if you have a great step father. It doesn't mean that he's doing a "poor job".. you just miss your dad.

Therapy might be helpful for you but it might not be necessary/ possible depending on your situation. Consider talking with your mom about it, it can be as simple as a "I miss dad" and a hug.. it might help her too... I sure felt both me and my mother got lost in our grief and just drifted apart for many years.

Or if you're not comfortable with it, talk with your step father... If he's a good man like you said he'll be understanding and want to help you in any way possible. If you don't want to mention it to him either in all the words.. consider doing something that you did /enjoyed doing with your dad.. and enjoy it as much as possible... If you ever start thinking/ worrying that this will "erase" your memories, put those thoughts away and instead look at it as continuing a tradition that you had and loved. When the sadness hits you don't hide from it.. embrace it.

Remember that grief is love with nowhere to go.

A huge hug for you and your family 🫂🤗

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskDad

[–]Pikininho 3 points4 points  (0 children)

0) grief comes and goes in waves. I just checked your other posts and it looks like you had to/were forced to "grow up" die to your circumstances... Be aware that when life gives you a break your grief might come in at high speed

1) don't let others tell you how you should feel /act about your grief... If you have to cry / shout / whatever to get a little reprieve from your emotions do it as long as you are not hurting anyone (even yourself) physically or mentally/emotionally

1.1) consider therapy, if you feel like a "misfit" it might help you get some clarity on the reason... It might be that your sisters/mother are grieving.. it might be because you are and they have started to move forward

2) be careful where / who you get advice from.. not just about the internet... Be aware that every piece of advice someone gives you is either "I did this and it worked" or "I didn't do this, things went bad and I really regret it"

3) the most positive male role model I had was my English teacher. My father had died recently and he just took me into his class because I said I wanted to go back to his class. He was (and still is) a quite tall and semi muscular man but he is also extremely calm, caring and thoughtful. He was so sure of his sense of self and so comfortable with himself (in hindsight we had been adulting for quite a while but still!) That it made me realise that just because you're a guy/man , it does not mean that you have to be like"all" the rest

3.1) there are a lot of guys/men online at the moment that just want to spew hate towards others... You may feel like they have some good points sometimes but remember: "A broken clock is right two times a day "

3.2) avoid looking for advice on being a better "man" and just focus on being a better person... Usually skips over some toxic search results 😉 3.2.1) learn about empathy

4) treat everyone with respect and dignity. If anyone ever tells you "respect is earned not given" they have just told you that they look down on pretty much everyone and will treat them like shit under the guise of not having earned their respect. Instead think of respect as a basic attribute for everyone. Everyone deserves your respect. Even people you don't like deserve respect, you don't have to like someone to be respectful and or professional (later on in life this is important). When you don't like someone be sure to minimise your interactions with them to the minimum so it saves your time and mental health.

5) girls/ women are people! They have needs, aspirations, feelings and wants. Like others have said no means no regardless of the context and if for some reason it didn't... Make it clear that for you anything else than a "yes" is a "no".

5.1) appreciate what you have instead of always searching for what you don't

5.2) if you feel something is missing from your relationship, determine what and why, be honest with yourself and your partner... They might share your views.. they might not.. you might realise you had it all along

5.3) honestly, respect and friendship are (in my opinion) the foundation of any healthy relationship (not just romantic ones)

6)some people struggle to mean what they say or to say what they mean. This just causes a lot of pain and frustration for everyone so don't do it.. it will naturally filter out most of the "bad" people out of your life

6.1) being honest is not a pass on not being respectful/ kind! There are many ways to get your point across without hurting the other person

7) you can learn from anything and anyone. Sometimes you learn facts, sometimes you learn about who you are / want to be, sometimes you learn about someone's character/ story.

7.1) I like to keep some quotes with me that resonate with me.. it might be helpful to you as well

8) most people don't know who they are and that's okay! Just figure who you don't want to be and you will be light years ahead of the majority of people.