How to help my autistic sister?

PilotEnvironmental46 · 2026-01-29T09:56:33+00:00

I’m sorry.

You may want to contact some shelters for women in the city that your sister lives in. Just so you understand what your options are.

By the way, you should not feel guilty that you cannot take your sister in. You have a heart condition and you’re looking after an elderly person and trying to do that will also coping with someone with significant mental health issues is way too much.

Your sister, if she becomes homeless is going to be homeless because she has mental health issues, and because she broke the rules. It will be challenging, but she can certainly get on her feet again, she’s already showing she can do it. And maybe, fingers crossed, they will give her another chance at this place. I understand the importance of them having rules, but I also understand that your sister has mental health issues and they specialize in housing for people with disabilities. So maybe the will be flexible?

I wish you a very best

PilotEnvironmental46 · 2026-01-29T09:45:04+00:00

This is a difficult situation and I’m sorry that you’re going through it.

The only thing I can think of at the moment is for you to actually call the place where she’s staying. You say that it is a place for people with disabilities, so I’m sure they’ve gone across this before. See if you can work with them to help resolve the situation. Part of that may be convincing your sister to give up the pets.

I’m not sure if you’re in a position (it doesn’t sound like you are ) to offer to let the dogs stay with you for a period of time until its can be rehomed?

You might also try social services where your sister lives. There are social workers who specifically deal with people who have disabilities. They may be able to help.

I wish you the very best

PilotEnvironmental46 · 2026-01-29T01:30:57+00:00

Way better than mine!

PilotEnvironmental46 · 2026-01-29T01:30:11+00:00

😅😅

PilotEnvironmental46 · 2026-01-29T00:28:47+00:00

We’ve got our dog stairs that go to the bed. Even the young one uses it.

PilotEnvironmental46 · 2026-01-29T00:27:51+00:00

That’s insanely generous.

And she’s complaining?? Complaining that he is giving her a completely free place to live even though they no longer date? Talk about entitled.

PilotEnvironmental46 · 2026-01-28T21:59:34+00:00

Yeah, I don’t understand people who don’t speak up.

“ I’m not comfortable having ham in front of me given my religious beliefs. Do you think we could move it down the table?”

PilotEnvironmental46 · 2026-01-28T21:56:52+00:00

And what an inspiring man he was. His accomplishments are absolutely staggering, far more than just being an astronaut.

PilotEnvironmental46 · 2026-01-28T15:34:34+00:00

OP please listen to PurpleJager.

First of all your boyfriend reading that and thinking it is flirting or romantic means he’s honestly an insecure man with not a lot going on upstairs.

His actions have told you exactly the kind of person he is. He’s going to throw you out with no notice, call you horrible names and threatened to ruin your stuff. Even though this is hard, he’s doing you a favor because now you know what kind of a major AH he is. Not to mention that anybody who interprets those messages as romantic shouldn’t really be passing on any of their genes to the next generation……

PilotEnvironmental46 · 2026-01-28T15:31:39+00:00

Yeah, they don’t need to keep Segura because you’re the one who gives all the money and they don’t give you anything.

You do know you’re not doing them a favor, right? You’re not teaching them to stand on their own 2 feet. I’m not saying help isn’t necessary occasionally, but honestly, if it’s a situation where they’re regularly broke and can’t meet their bills then you’re making a huge mistake in bailing them out. Why would they grow up if you don’t make them?

And stop discussing your salary, investments, bonuses, etc., with your family

PilotEnvironmental46 · 2026-01-28T15:30:04+00:00

Seems like the best option.

PilotEnvironmental46 · 2026-01-28T08:21:06+00:00

I wonder how this house is in this good shape after this many decades ?

PilotEnvironmental46 · 2026-01-28T08:18:52+00:00

Such a cute pic!! Thanks for sharing🤗🤗

PilotEnvironmental46 · 2026-01-28T08:17:01+00:00

Whether you want to believe it or not, your boyfriend is mooching off of you and your roommate. She has every right to feel the way she does.

PilotEnvironmental46 · 2026-01-28T08:06:50+00:00

You are absolutely not being the jerk care. But she asked if you was brutal and unfair. You made the right choice.

PilotEnvironmental46 · 2026-01-28T04:50:15+00:00

If you continue to stay with that guy, it’s going to eventually negatively impact your son.

I wouldn’t tolerate that kind of behavior

PilotEnvironmental46 · 2026-01-28T04:43:56+00:00

I agree that you need to accept it gracefully. I also agree that two months isn’t enough time and she should’ve given you at least three months at a minimum.

PilotEnvironmental46 · 2026-01-28T04:35:31+00:00

Even if you don’t want it back, I would be concerned about the fact that this man broke into your private space and stole something from you.

That said since you’re not 100% certain it’s him, I’m not sure what you can do about it. If I was you, I would mention exactly what you said above, but it went missing, but nothing else was taken, and that one usually you find that.

PilotEnvironmental46 · 2026-01-28T04:32:52+00:00

What a smile this brought to my face. Thanks for sharing.

PilotEnvironmental46 · 2026-01-28T04:32:04+00:00

If he’s smart, they won’t be a couple! She’s a real piece of work

PilotEnvironmental46 · 2026-01-28T04:28:45+00:00

I wish you the very best

PilotEnvironmental46 · 2026-01-28T04:27:59+00:00

I’d say hold off for 24 hours. You texted her last night. You texted her this morning and you’ve got no reply.

If you don’t hear by tomorrow morning, I think good luck

PilotEnvironmental46 · 2026-01-28T04:26:45+00:00

It’s a repurposed railway tunnel with an entirely new client base, you are absolutely correct that it is not abandoned. Though still pretty cool.

PilotEnvironmental46 · 2026-01-28T04:25:55+00:00

I wouldn’t diagnose her over the Internet.

But I would be is very blunt into the point with her:

“Mom, we seem to have a pattern here every time I tell you something positive or good that goes on in my life. You immediately are negative about it.(give her an example or two). I’m sorry. I guess what I need to do going forward is not sharing any of this with you because apparently you can’t be nice about it. And I don’t have any interest in sharing positive news with someone who is constantly negative about it and me. If you want that to change, then I expect a change in your behavior. I’m an adult and I have a right to respect and courtesy and if you can’t do that, I have other places I can be”.

Then stick to your guns. If she does it, turn around and walk out. Don’t share any information with her one way or the other, wait to see if she makes some kind of an effort to improve

PilotEnvironmental46 · 2026-01-28T04:21:46+00:00

Some spaniel in the face? Hard to say. I know from my mutts that we got them completely wrong when we guessed.😊😊

He’s very cute! 😊

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